Husband wants kidney back

[Giny]

This is just too weird, and petty. I know he's angry and probably has rights to be but, wow.

http://cbs4denver.com/watercooler/donated.kidney.returned.2.902689.html

 

[smkie]

IF i had the money i would pay him for it and say thank you now be gone. sheeeesh

 

[Giny]

Yeah, I'd probably pay him too then move on. But even money wont fix the hurt he's feeling. He needs to step back and take a good look at the entire picture and what this is doing to not just him but the children.

 

[smkie]

can't you just hear him whine "after all i did for you"

 

[Renee750il]

Yah, you can understand how he feels, but life's made up of choices and sometimes they don't always end up like you'd hoped. Take the lesson and go. He had to be a loving, generous sort of person to do it in the first place, and it would be terribly wrong for him to lose that part of himself - that's worse than the loss of a kidney.

Better to wake up every morning with one kidney than with the wrong person in your bed.

 

[sprintime]

What a disaster for both the wife and husband. But I do feel for the husband, what would ever possess his wife to do something like this after he risked his own life for her. To me it just does not make sense.

 

[Giny]

Yah, you can understand how he feels, but life's made up of choices and sometimes they don't always end up like you'd hoped. Take the lesson and go. He had to be a loving, generous sort of person to do it in the first place, and it would be terribly wrong for him to lose that part of himself - that's worse than the loss of a kidney.

Better to wake up every morning with one kidney than with the wrong person in your bed.

I agree!
Lets hope that some day soon he'll come to realize this and find someone who'll love him and if needed would do what she has to do to save his life.

 

[sheplovr]

What is he donated to a stranger just as it says on my license I am a donor.?? He is a jerk, no matter the situation. He was paid with her life he had received with her, get over it dude.

 

[xpaeanx]

The doctor works at Nassau University Medical Center, and claims he's suing for the kidney because his wife is denying him contact with their children, and is shutting him out of their lives.

This is what jumped out at me. I dont' think he's trying to be petty... I think he's trying to use it as a way to keep his children in his life. Men don't think the same way women do. This would prob just p!ss every woman off, so they would want even less to do with the man. The man see it as, if I sue her but give her the option to have the lawsuit dropped pending I get blah blah blah it will work. And a lot of times, men going through a divorce where they're very attached to the wife/children become very irrational.

that's just what I got out of it.

 

[Renee750il]

Having worked on some messy divorce cases, I can say that there's rarely much rational thinking going on on either side.

 

[Doberluv]

She was a b*t*c*h (did I get around that one?) to betray him like that. BUT....seeing as how it's legally only a gift and can not be monetarily compensated for (if I got that right...and if it's true where they live) I don't see how he has any right to be compensated. PLUS....if it were legal, there was no binding contract prior to the "sale" of the kidney. Soooooo. I don't see how he has a leg to stand on. One kidney but no leg. I do feel sorry for him but he's grasping at straws here and ought to just get on with it and find someone else some day.

 

[Doberluv]

Oh yeah, the children. Well, that is a round about way to go about fixing that problem.

 

[bubbatd]

He's hurt and angry and wants to hit her where it hurts the most .... the pocket book !

 

[joce]

I feel horrible for him-I really do. Its such a risky surgery and it really puts you at risk down the road. He had to have loved her to do it.

But then again it is a gift and people will break your heart and you have to get over it.

 

[Dizzy]

No wonder she cheated on him if he is that PATHETIC.

 

[Dekka]

I don't think its pathetic to feel outrage by betrayal from the one you love (loved deeply enough to permanently give up a body part .. livers grow back to some extent.. kidneys its not)

I feel for him and hope he gets to see his children. Though I agree someone who can take a kidney and run.... he can likely do better.

 

[4dogs3cats]

maybe in the past but not now.

I wouldnt date him no matter how amazing he was.

I would hope that someone who can be selfless and give his wife a kidney (and Im sorry but if my husband was a match and did NOT give me his kidney I would feel pretty mad) and then want it back just out of spite...thats not a man I want in my life.

Had he dealt with the hurt on his own and tried to figure out a better way to get his kids back, understandable... but not now.

 

[Dizzy]

No, but being that petty is pathetic.

Sorry, but he is a grown man with kids, and a doctor at that, he will have money.

Any money he takes from his wife, will ultimately be taken from his kids too..... he needs to grow up.

 

[Dekka]

Hmm I didn't see it as an actual money ploy but as someone else said as a 'bargaining' chip so he could keep seeing his children.

 

[ACooper]

She was a b*t*c*h (did I get around that one?) to betray him like that. BUT....seeing as how it's legally only a gift and can not be monetarily compensated for (if I got that right...and if it's true where they live) I don't see how he has any right to be compensated. PLUS....if it were legal, there was no binding contract prior to the "sale" of the kidney. Soooooo. I don't see how he has a leg to stand on. One kidney but no leg. I do feel sorry for him but he's grasping at straws here and ought to just get on with it and find someone else some day.

That's right...........a gift. No signed contract (leaving aside it's illegal to sell organs like that) no money.

I would have to know how and why she is *supposedly* keeping the kids from him. She can't do that for long.........if she is at all.

I find him pathetic as well. I also find it wrong *if* she cheated, but no more wrong than I find it that ANYONE cheats and breaks their word.

*shakes head*