Do you want a kid/kids?
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I think I want kids. I've always wanted kids, and I LOVE babies, but the responsibility of having a child kind of scares me. I want my kids to be caring, loving, productive members of society and what if I screw them up somehow??
Sometimes I feel like I only want kids because I want to know and love someone that is blood related to me (I'm adopted). Other times I feel like I only want to adopt children because I feel like I could relate better to them. And other, OTHER times I just want to be the best aunt in the world and have dogs as my children instead.
I have time to think on it though...and when I ask my boyfriend about it, he says he hasn't thought that far into the future yet
Sometimes I feel like I only want kids because I want to know and love someone that is blood related to me (I'm adopted). Other times I feel like I only want to adopt children because I feel like I could relate better to them. And other, OTHER times I just want to be the best aunt in the world and have dogs as my children instead.
I have time to think on it though...and when I ask my boyfriend about it, he says he hasn't thought that far into the future yet
This! My mum said the exact same thing, and I was SO scared God was going to give me a baby. Seriously worried. And I was like four years old. :rofl1:
I probably don't want kids. I've never had a maternal longing, and I really enjoy my life the way it is. I like travelling, I like exploring, and I really like my freedom. I enjoy being able to do whatever I want without being responsible for someone else. I'm only 21, so I guess I have the rest of my life to think about that sort of stuff, but I doubt my mind will change. One of my cousins has kids and like someone has said, I really don't envy her life. I have a six year old brother and a four year old brother, and they're more than enough for me.
I'm more career-minded/focused anyway, and my dogs are more than enough responsibility as it is.
I probably don't want kids. I've never had a maternal longing, and I really enjoy my life the way it is. I like travelling, I like exploring, and I really like my freedom. I enjoy being able to do whatever I want without being responsible for someone else. I'm only 21, so I guess I have the rest of my life to think about that sort of stuff, but I doubt my mind will change. One of my cousins has kids and like someone has said, I really don't envy her life. I have a six year old brother and a four year old brother, and they're more than enough for me.
I'm more career-minded/focused anyway, and my dogs are more than enough responsibility as it is.
I think an option was missed... *Have kids - want to take them? lol
While I have two kids, 12 & 4, and love them dearly, there are days where I wonder if life would have been easier without them. I certainly know it would have been different. But I love them, and don't regret them at all. Even when they drive me batty...
While I have two kids, 12 & 4, and love them dearly, there are days where I wonder if life would have been easier without them. I certainly know it would have been different. But I love them, and don't regret them at all. Even when they drive me batty...
Honestly for me it has nothing to do with not wanting to miss out on things. I just really do not have a maternal bone in my body and for a variety of reasons I'm not going to go into gory details about I'm quite certain I would make a terrible mother. And no, it wouldn't be different if it was my own, I assure you. (Kinda sick of hearing that can you tell? )
And I'm old enough to have reached the point of no return and look back with no regrets whatsoever. I'm quite happy to have left parenthood in the hands of people who want to be parents.
)And I'm old enough to have reached the point of no return and look back with no regrets whatsoever. I'm quite happy to have left parenthood in the hands of people who want to be parents.
Sort of... I kind of feel I just need to do it, and I'll love it, rather than its a burning desire. The desire is more giving a child an great childhood than having kids... picnics, baking, sleepovers, walks, playing, toys....
Other half would be happy with none, but he does talk about 'when we have kids' now.
Other half would be happy with none, but he does talk about 'when we have kids' now.
I always knew I did not want to be pregnant. The whole thing is just so . . . unappealing, lol.
And then there's the whole baby thing, and the toddler thing, and the little kid thing, when they are cute and okay when you can give them back to their parents. I really love kids when they hit the age where no one else can stand them, when their parents want to lock them in the basement and feed them with a slingshot.
So my choice would be to be a great second mom to someone else's teenagers. That I could love.
And then there's the whole baby thing, and the toddler thing, and the little kid thing, when they are cute and okay when you can give them back to their parents. I really love kids when they hit the age where no one else can stand them, when their parents want to lock them in the basement and feed them with a slingshot.
So my choice would be to be a great second mom to someone else's teenagers. That I could love.