Do you want a kid/kids?
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Yeah kids fit perfectly into my plans lol. I like to do kid things... Go to disney world, go to kids movies, etc etc. having hannah gives me someone I can relate to LOL. i am very child like 
I liked the baby stage because it was cute and sweet but oh man 2,3 and 4 years old has been SO much fun. So I would like to start again with a kid about 2 or 3. We have a wonderful home to offer and I really feel like God is leading us down a path we never really considered before but it just feels right. We Shall see
I liked the baby stage because it was cute and sweet but oh man 2,3 and 4 years old has been SO much fun. So I would like to start again with a kid about 2 or 3. We have a wonderful home to offer and I really feel like God is leading us down a path we never really considered before but it just feels right. We Shall see
I think so. I never used to want kids, but in the last year or so I've sort of changed my mind. The thought of having kids scares me though. I've had very limited exposure to kids so don't really know much about them, and I wish they came potty trained, haha. Plus, you have to be pretty selfless to be a parent. Not that I am a selfish person, but you know. It's definitely not happening any time soon - I'm not even in a relationship. And I don't want kids past the age of about 30-34, so if I don't have any by then, I won't at all. So yeah, we'll see what the future brings I suppose. For now I'm perfectly happy single with my dogs and it's not a big deal either way for me at the moment (having kids vs. not having any), but I am only 21. Things could and probably will change as I get older.
My entire life and into the near, and relatively far, future, I have always maintained that I do not want kids and honestly don't believe I'd make a very good mother. The only times I feel mothering instincts come out, it is towards an animal, never a human. I can barely tolerate my own nieces and nephews for the most part, honestly.
I am open to the possibility that later in my life, I might get some weird hormonal surge and might desperately want to have a child. In the event that happens, I think I'd rather adopt. Up until that time, if I become pregnant, well, I'm pro-choice so I'll leave it at that. If after that potentially happens, though, I become pregnant, I'd probably keep it and maybe adopt another child later, however I don't see myself with one kid, let alone two.
It's hard because my boyfriend says he'd probably like kids someday, but that it isn't a deal breaker for us being together. I'd still feel, if I never am ready, I'd be robbing him of something, and I don't think that's fair to him. He really would make a fantastic father, no doubt about it, but that doesn't change the fact that I don't really like children, and I don't want to actually be pregnant (the thought of being pregnant scares me more than the idea of childbirth, but not more than the subsequent 18 years).
Then I constantly think of things like what if my kid grows up and starts acting out by abusing animals and killing them for fun? Is it weird that *that's* the thing that I worry about most in having a child? I think it's a legitimate concern though, considering I plan to surround myself with as many animals as we can handle to recreate what I always had growing up. I couldn't mentally handle finding out my kid was torturing neighbourhood cats and shooting dogs.
Or what if it just plain hates the world and does something unspeakable?
Yeah, I'm a worrier. Go ahead and laugh!
I am open to the possibility that later in my life, I might get some weird hormonal surge and might desperately want to have a child. In the event that happens, I think I'd rather adopt. Up until that time, if I become pregnant, well, I'm pro-choice so I'll leave it at that. If after that potentially happens, though, I become pregnant, I'd probably keep it and maybe adopt another child later, however I don't see myself with one kid, let alone two.
It's hard because my boyfriend says he'd probably like kids someday, but that it isn't a deal breaker for us being together. I'd still feel, if I never am ready, I'd be robbing him of something, and I don't think that's fair to him. He really would make a fantastic father, no doubt about it, but that doesn't change the fact that I don't really like children, and I don't want to actually be pregnant (the thought of being pregnant scares me more than the idea of childbirth, but not more than the subsequent 18 years).
Then I constantly think of things like what if my kid grows up and starts acting out by abusing animals and killing them for fun? Is it weird that *that's* the thing that I worry about most in having a child? I think it's a legitimate concern though, considering I plan to surround myself with as many animals as we can handle to recreate what I always had growing up. I couldn't mentally handle finding out my kid was torturing neighbourhood cats and shooting dogs.
Or what if it just plain hates the world and does something unspeakable?
Yeah, I'm a worrier. Go ahead and laugh!
I used to want at LEAST 4 kids. Then in my 20s I didn't think I wanted any at all. Then in my late 20s I figured I would have kids. Then after my horse died last year I had some weird emotional upheaval and decided that I never wanted any kids. Now I have recently felt a strong pull towards motherhood. I think I will make a good mom, but I know Nate would be an awesome dad!
I don't think so. Actually, I definitely don't. I nurture young minds all day long, why would i want to come home to that? A lot of friends have had babies this past year, and their lives are now nothing that I envy.
I've always thought it would be fun to have grown children for christmas dinners and such, but i dont want to go through 20+ years to get to that point.
DH would enjoy them, but he's said he's fine if it doesnt happen. I think at this point the only way it would is an accident. We're both really happy with our lives the way they are, and at 26/27, I dont see this changing drastically in the next few years.
I've always thought it would be fun to have grown children for christmas dinners and such, but i dont want to go through 20+ years to get to that point.
DH would enjoy them, but he's said he's fine if it doesnt happen. I think at this point the only way it would is an accident. We're both really happy with our lives the way they are, and at 26/27, I dont see this changing drastically in the next few years.
My parents waited until they were 36 and 37 to have kids, had my sister and myself, and then my mom's tubes were tied. They got married when they were 18 and 19--it is possible.
I do NOT want to be pregnant, and I do NOT want to go through the whole birthing process, but if the oppertunity ever came around to adopt an older child I would do that..
I've always been the strange one that WOULD want a "ready-made" family (the OH has a son from a previous relationship) and if our relationship moves to that level then that is something that I would be ready to deal with in whatever role (his son has a mother so definitely not that) that he would want me to be...
I've always been the strange one that WOULD want a "ready-made" family (the OH has a son from a previous relationship) and if our relationship moves to that level then that is something that I would be ready to deal with in whatever role (his son has a mother so definitely not that) that he would want me to be...
Completely undecided. I'm also very unsure if I even can have children since I have so many hormonal problems/PCOS. The doctor last week was telling me how hard having kids might be for me and my response was pretty apathetic. I'm not sure if that's telling or not...
So as of now- dunno. I voted unsure but leaning towards yes. But really, I'm just 100% unsure.
So as of now- dunno. I voted unsure but leaning towards yes. But really, I'm just 100% unsure.
That's interesting how everyone is so different in this way. I wanted a baby/kid since I was a kid. I loved babysitting and have always found infants so appealing. And I think the 3 or 4 year old age was the best. They're so inquisitive, willing and agreeable at that age.
Then around 19, I really got that instinct thing going. Something came welling up from my innermost core. It was a compulsive-like feeling. I wanted babies sooooo badly, I could hardly stand it. I'm very child-like myself and find children very interesting, fun and endearing. (when they're endearing type children.) LOL. Granted, there are many who are not appealing to me at all and some who are down-right annoying. But over all, I really do like kids and am thankful I was blessed with two great children.
My daughter is now 32 and we have the best relationship...so close, we are best friends as well as mother and daughter. My son and I are close too, but of course, my daughter and I are closer in that we do girl things together and can relate so well to each other. I loved the whole baby thing, even with the hard times. The teenagehood, I could have done without. LOL. NO....not entirely. Even then, there were great times and they were amusing, I must say.
So, I can't answer in the present tense because of course, I'm way too old to have more kids and I most definitely wouldn't want them now. Even a puppy might be trying for me. But I'm still enjoying my all grown up kids. I kind of wish they'd have kids so I could be a gramma. But alas....so far, not looking promising.
So do I want kids now? Not any new ones unless they're grandchildren. But I would like fried chicken without the rice.
Then around 19, I really got that instinct thing going. Something came welling up from my innermost core. It was a compulsive-like feeling. I wanted babies sooooo badly, I could hardly stand it. I'm very child-like myself and find children very interesting, fun and endearing. (when they're endearing type children.) LOL. Granted, there are many who are not appealing to me at all and some who are down-right annoying. But over all, I really do like kids and am thankful I was blessed with two great children.
My daughter is now 32 and we have the best relationship...so close, we are best friends as well as mother and daughter. My son and I are close too, but of course, my daughter and I are closer in that we do girl things together and can relate so well to each other. I loved the whole baby thing, even with the hard times. The teenagehood, I could have done without. LOL. NO....not entirely. Even then, there were great times and they were amusing, I must say.
So, I can't answer in the present tense because of course, I'm way too old to have more kids and I most definitely wouldn't want them now. Even a puppy might be trying for me. But I'm still enjoying my all grown up kids. I kind of wish they'd have kids so I could be a gramma. But alas....so far, not looking promising.
So do I want kids now? Not any new ones unless they're grandchildren. But I would like fried chicken without the rice.
For what it's worth I really like kids. A lot. I just don't have any desire to have ones of my own so far. I think I'll make a really amazing aunt
Not ruling out having my own but since my answer has been "not today" for the last decade, chances are it will be the same tomorrow
Not ruling out having my own but since my answer has been "not today" for the last decade, chances are it will be the same tomorrow
I do like kids, but I don't know if I want a kid.
I voted NO, NEVER!! Lol I am not the mothering type. I like my independence, and my quiet way too much. I like to visit my friend and her three children, but I'm always very happy that I know that I get to leave eventually and go back to my quiet place. I love my friend's 9 month old, she's so cute! Its fun to go over and see what she's learned to do since the last time I was there, first the sitting up, then the crawling, and now the pulling herself up on the couch into a standing position, and soon she'll be walking! I don't want the responsibility of raising another human being, but its fun to watch others do it.
That said I'm a pretty good babysitter (potty-trained kids only, lol) and kids like me, I think because I would just walk in the house and say, "ok, what do you want to do?" and we go play with toys/games/cards/outside, whatever they like. I think its funny that they NEVER choose TV or video games. Most of all, they just want to spend time with you, interacting with you, not stare at a box.
I think I'd be a good aunt. My sister will probably have at least one kid someday, but she's still only 24, not yet married, and still just having fun and going to school to be an occupational therapist. She wants to get her career going and enjoy the single life a little longer before having a kid.
That said I'm a pretty good babysitter (potty-trained kids only, lol) and kids like me, I think because I would just walk in the house and say, "ok, what do you want to do?" and we go play with toys/games/cards/outside, whatever they like. I think its funny that they NEVER choose TV or video games. Most of all, they just want to spend time with you, interacting with you, not stare at a box.
I think I'd be a good aunt. My sister will probably have at least one kid someday, but she's still only 24, not yet married, and still just having fun and going to school to be an occupational therapist. She wants to get her career going and enjoy the single life a little longer before having a kid.
