I like this way of putting it. In my case, Jackson and I need each other equally, whereas Lola needs me more than I need her, kind of. That sounds kind of harsh because I love her, I really do, but I could "do" life without Lola... I couldn't without Jackson. Obviously Lola's here for life now and I love love love her very dearly and if my parents for some reason ever couldn't keep her, I would take her in a heartbeat, but yeah.
I don't think it sounds harsh, and very much get where you're coming from. But on that note I want to clarify what I meant - Siege isn't a dog I need, but she's very much the dog I
want (possibly moreso than Trent
objectively).
It's hard to expand on how I feel without humanizing dogs to the extreme, but for me and these two, it's like Siege is my child, while Trent is my partner and my guardian (not literal examples, just the best way I could explain it). I feel protective over Siege, but never have towards Trent because he's the one that's protective of me, and so independently minded.
I can't imagine life without either of them, because their loss would devastate me in different ways. Siege would take away a huge part of my life and my heart, and Trent would take away a huge part of
me and all that we've built together. Siege is a bigger presence in my life because we're inseparable, but Trent has a bigger presence in who I am.
Because Rara and I technically have a very tight bond- she's the puppy I brought home in high school, and she was "my dog" and I was "her main human" first and foremost all the way up until I entered college. Then I only came home about every other weekend. I know she felt like I abandoned her, and according to my mom, became deeply depressed and would barely eat or move for about two months... as if I passed away or something. Also was partially the origin of her stomach ulcers- because she wouldn't eat. She then moved on to choosing my mom as her "main person" and had an era of acting angry at me/intentionally ignoring me whenever I came home for quite awhile. And whenever I said goodbye to her at the end of each weekend in "the permanent goodbye" kind of way, she would refuse to look at me or touch me and would run to hide in her safe spot. At one point, I thought she was just a dog with loose loyalty, but now I understand that it's not really the case either. She's just a very complex dog.
It literally took her about... three years? To finally "accept" the fact that I DON'T live at home anymore, and I will only be coming back every weekend or every other weekend. And since, she's only recently began expressing that tight bond again that we had before I left for college, even though she still mainly follows my mom around the house out of habit. She doesn't get angry at me or became depressed every time I leave each weekend back to my apartment.
Rara is just a very complex dog with apparently INTENSE loyalty, long-term grudges, and a lot of emotions.
LOL My mom would like to switch dogs with your mom please. Trent is the opposite and it drives her crazy - I brought him home at the end of my sophomore year of high school, and it took us a couple years to really bond and figure each other out.
Then I had to leave for college and my mom was the one feeding, walking, playing, and all around spoiling him. I'd only get to visit every month or so, but OMG the excitement every time I come home. Except that also included him being terrible to my mom every time I was around (mostly guardy behaviors that we've worked on). I was always worried that he'd forget me or that things would change, but he remained my dog completely and my mom started resenting me (jokingly, of course) when I came home. And that's when I realized where I stood in her mind :rofl1:
Ironically, he never cared when I left...