Do you ever suprise yourself with men (or women)?

[Dizzy]

You meet people who could make you swoon just walking past them, and think are waaaay out of your league and they are interested in YOU?!

This has happened a few times to me over the summer (sort of) and I think I'm going to have to re-evaluate what I think my league is!! I mean, I'm the scruffy one who isn't skinny and certainly doesn't have legs up to her armpits.

What about you?

Ever suprised yourself?

Do you think your OH is about the same "good looking" as you, or more, or less... harsh question I know

We all know looks don't count but you can't deny having someone nice to look at as well as spend time with isn't a bad thing

 

[GlassOnion]

It's fluctuated a lot. My longest relationship was with a girl who was smoking hot and was surely out of my league. But my shortest relationship was with a girl who was out of my league as well but not as good looking (though very nice). But she had all sorts of crazy about her so ah, yah...


Really I just want a good looking Southern woman. I don't need her to be a supermodel or anything. She does have to like being adventuresome though (that was the problem with the longest one, she didn't like to do much that would get her dirty).

 

[bubbatd]

Depends on what you consider your league . No one is better than anyone else !

 

[PWCorgi]

You meet people who could make you swoon just walking past them, and think are waaaay out of your league and they are interested in YOU?!

no.

We all know looks don't count...

Pfft. They do where I live.

 

[noludoru]

You meet people who could make you swoon just walking past them, and think are waaaay out of your league and they are interested in YOU?!

Dittoing PW. I must be out of the loop or something, because no one makes me swoon. And I never have that 'out of my league' feeling, either, but I think that might be directly related to me not having any crushes anyway...

 

[sparks19]

Maybe when I was in highschool and slightly insecure I had that "out of my league" feeling. but once I realized that what people thought about my looks didn't matter too much to me anymore and that I was happy with the way I was then I didn't get that feeling anymore.

If I saw a guy I thought was hot I went for him. I was confident in myself and that resulted in a lot of positive reactions. Sure I have been turned down... but usually it was based on my looks (as they didn't know any more than that) and I figured why would I want someone who is so shallow and then they become quite unattractive to me. but I was never too shy to go for what I wanted.

as for my OH.... I don't know what to say. I find him very attractive and he finds me very attractive but... we met online and hadn't really seen each other when we first started talking. So I can honestly say I got to know HIM before I really saw him and vice versa. We saw pictures of each other and would chat on webcam but you don't really get a good idea until you are up close and personal. when he drove all the way up to spend the weekend with me and he came through my doorway that very first time and we FIRST laid eyes on each other I was in heaven. Do I think I am very lucky to have nabbed him? I sure do... but not because he is a super model type but because he is SOOOOOOOO good to me. He takes care of me cooks for me, cleans for me, does anything he can to make me happy even if I don't ask and most importantly... he loves me for who I am. and he's not bad to look at either IMO

 

[Renee750il]

The snag I always hit is the type that I DO like - the guys who work and get their hands dirty and wouldn't have it any other way - assume that I'm the type who won't be bothered with anything but a Suit *shudders* And even if I make the effort to bridge the gap, they just won't believe that I'm not just bored and slumming

But . . . my new rule is that I won't have anything to do with anyone who isn't just in the area on a temporary basis. I want them gone in a short period of time, no strings, no hurt feelings. That way I get to have some fun, spend the time with someone who isn't a jerk and don't have to worry that a nice guy is going to get hurt.

 

[Gustav]

I think it's different for you non Europeans.. Us europeans are more reserved and have less self confidence, we see someone who is incredibly attractive and the minute you clap eyes on them, you start thinking to yourself.. "They wouldn't be interested in me in a million years"

Now I know I don't look like the frog princess or anything, but I never thought that my other half was interested in me in "THAT" way.. I thought he was HAWWWWT with a capital H! Anyway, it wasn't until his friend said to me.. "You know, he hasn't stopped talking about you for months, he'd really like to get to know you MUCH better" that I thought to myself, well.. Maybe it wouldn't be such a bad thing if I gave him my phone number..

He sent me a text telling me that he thought I was "Irresistable".. I nearly fell over backwards.. I thought... Me? Is he sure? Does he need glasses?

Apparently not.. Anyway the rest is history.

But yeah, I suppose us europeans have a self deprecating quality that we just can't shake off.. It's modesty in it's extreme. That and an inbuilt fear of rejection tied in with our naturally more reserved characters, it's a wonder that any of us ever get together with anyone.

 

[GipsyQueen]

I think it's different for you non Europeans.. Us europeans are more reserved and have less self confidence, we see someone who is incredibly attractive and the minute you clap eyes on them, you start thinking to yourself.. "They wouldn't be interested in me in a million years"

Now I know I don't look like the frog princess or anything, but I never thought that my other half was interested in me in "THAT" way.. I thought he was HAWWWWT with a capital H! Anyway, it wasn't until his friend said to me.. "You know, he hasn't stopped talking about you for months, he'd really like to get to know you MUCH better" that I thought to myself, well.. Maybe it wouldn't be such a bad thing if I gave him my phone number..

He sent me a text telling me that he thought I was "Irresistable".. I nearly fell over backwards.. I thought... Me? Is he sure? Does he need glasses?

Apparently not.. Anyway the rest is history.

But yeah, I suppose us europeans have a self deprecating quality that we just can't shake off.. It's modesty in it's extreme. That and an inbuilt fear of rejection tied in with our naturally more reserved characters, it's a wonder that any of us ever get together with anyone.

:rofl1: Except, I have noticed that southern European Men (Italians, Spainish ect.) are VERY confident! If I look back on the guys who started talking to me on the train, they were mostly Italians, or Turks, Germans are shyer - but better looking.

Yep there are/were guys who made me swoon just by walking by, but now that I look back on my swooning.... I could slap myself, because WHAT was I thinking!

 

[Romy]

Well, Robert is 1,000 times better looking than me...but then he turns around and says the same thing about me. I guess we're suited to each other in a lot of ways. I'm really grateful to be with him, he treats me better than any ever has.

I know his looks aren't just through my eyes though, because everybody always makes comments to me about his hotness, lol! He started working for UPS and my friends were asking me if he ever comes home in the little UPS shorts.

 

[ACooper]

I am by far no beauty queen, but I have always had the confidence to talk to anyone I wanted to talk to. My sparkling personality has gotten me dates I never would have imagined :rofl1:

If we are talking only on looks, I have dated men WAY beyond my league, and also dated men far below my league...........looks have never been my deciding factor as far as relationships. I am not above looking at something very nice and thinking "Hawt d@mn" hahahahaha, doesn't mean I want any more than a gander though.

When Kevin and I first started dating, I would say I was out of his league. Now after 10 years and another baby, extra weight on me, he would be out of my league IMO..........good thing I nailed him down to a contract! hahaahhaha

 

[Jules]

I think it's different for you non Europeans.. Us europeans are more reserved and have less self confidence, we see someone who is incredibly attractive and the minute you clap eyes on them, you start thinking to yourself.. "They wouldn't be interested in me in a million years"

Now I know I don't look like the frog princess or anything, but I never thought that my other half was interested in me in "THAT" way.. I thought he was HAWWWWT with a capital H! Anyway, it wasn't until his friend said to me.. "You know, he hasn't stopped talking about you for months, he'd really like to get to know you MUCH better" that I thought to myself, well.. Maybe it wouldn't be such a bad thing if I gave him my phone number..

He sent me a text telling me that he thought I was "Irresistable".. I nearly fell over backwards.. I thought... Me? Is he sure? Does he need glasses?

Apparently not.. Anyway the rest is history.

But yeah, I suppose us europeans have a self deprecating quality that we just can't shake off.. It's modesty in it's extreme. That and an inbuilt fear of rejection tied in with our naturally more reserved characters, it's a wonder that any of us ever get together with anyone.

I totally agree

When I met Dan, I thought he was an arrogant player because he was really handsome (at least I think so!) ... he was talking to every girl in the single bar, it seemed, but me. Could have been, because I purposely turned my back towards him to chat with a friend. He thought I was interested in my friend and was too shy to talk to me. Well, I guess, it all worked out eventually, haha.

Except, I have noticed that southern European Men (Italians, Spainish ect.) are VERY confident! If I look back on the guys who started talking to me on the train, they were mostly Italians, or Turks, Germans are shyer - but better looking.

Yep there are/were guys who made me swoon just by walking by, but now that I look back on my swooning.... I could slap myself, because WHAT was I thinking!

Hahaha! I have to agree with that (although the Italian stallions... hmmm... :rofl1: And I can second the regretful swooning, too!


P.S.: Sorry had to take out some smilies! lol.

 

[SharkyX]

Ah I had that feeling in highschool but overcame it when I got to college...

Couple tricks.
When you see someone who you think is out of your league or really hot... picture then doing something gross like going #2. It completely humanizes then in an instant and strips away alot of the hotness to the point that it's actually very easy to talk to them.

Also keep in mind that no matter how good looking a person they might be, somebody somewhere is sick of there sh*t.

 

[ACooper]

Ah I had that feeling in highschool but overcame it when I got to college...

Couple tricks.
When you see someone who you think is out of your league or really hot... picture then doing something gross like going #2. It completely humanizes then in an instant and strips away alot of the hotness to the point that it's actually very easy to talk to them.

Also keep in mind that no matter how good looking a person they might be, somebody somewhere is sick of there sh*t.

Very true, and good advice!

 

[xpaeanx]

Also keep in mind that no matter how good looking a person they might be, somebody somewhere is sick of there sh*t.

:rofl1::rofl1:


my current problem is not that the guy is out of my league looks wise... he's out of my league cash wise, therefore gets girls who look amazing. I'm not trying to be self-centered or anything, but I would say i'm on the better half of average. He's well... he's a big boy but he gets girls that look like supermodels

Personally, I think he's adorable, and he's got a great personality... but, all the girls he's with are super thin, blonde, and look like they should be on the cover of vogue.

 

[Puckstop31]

as for my OH.... I don't know what to say. I find him very attractive and he finds me very attractive but... we met online and hadn't really seen each other when we first started talking. So I can honestly say I got to know HIM before I really saw him and vice versa. We saw pictures of each other and would chat on webcam but you don't really get a good idea until you are up close and personal. when he drove all the way up to spend the weekend with me and he came through my doorway that very first time and we FIRST laid eyes on each other I was in heaven. Do I think I am very lucky to have nabbed him? I sure do... but not because he is a super model type but because he is SOOOOOOOO good to me. He takes care of me cooks for me, cleans for me, does anything he can to make me happy even if I don't ask and most importantly... he loves me for who I am. and he's not bad to look at either IMO

Hehehehehe.... The meds I slip in your food seem to be working. Sucker.

Errr... Did I say to much?

:rofl1:

Love ya sweetie.

 

[sparks19]

Hehehehehe.... The meds I slip in your food seem to be working. Sucker.

Errr... Did I say to much?



Love ya sweetie.

LOL ... whatever you are putting in the food it's DELICIOUS so don't stop

But that explains why I have a goofy smile on my face 90% of the time and why I am so flighty sometimes... perhaps you should lower the dosage just a little

YA... You better love me because you are stuck with me forever now :rofl1: now who's laughing lol

 

[jess2416]

We all know looks don't count but you can't deny having someone nice to look at as well as spend time with isn't a bad thing

Sure they count...

well they count to me...

 

[M&M's Mommy]

My hubby's hair was what caught my eyes the first time we met, but he cut his hair soon after... yet I still stick with him.

Thanksfully he has something else beside the hair to keep me interested!

 

[a.baker]

LOL I don't notice anyone unless they need some sort of assistance or are unbelievably sweet. I notice old people a lot lol. Feels homey. I have no idea if anyone notices me. Once in awhile if I look around and see someone is looking at me I want to hurry up and get out of there, yeah I'm a little self conscious. I figure if they are looking at me something must be wrong.