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I had heard some horrible stories/experiences from friends before going in for my c-sections.. so I was prepared for the worse, only to be surprised of how easy it was on me.

My doctor took the first cut at 7:00 p.m. Katie was born at 7:05 p.m.! By 7:40 p.m., I was holding her in the recovery room, and though I couldn't feel my feet yet, I was able to breastfeed her and take tons of her pictures :). The only discomfort thing I remembered about Katie's birth is how thirsty I was. They only gave my ice chips starting from ~8:00 a.m. when I checked into the hospital, until a couple hours after she was born - no matter how much I asked for water, the nurses just flatted out refused! Poor hubby couldn't spoon me the ice chips fast enough, but that did nothing to my thirst. When I was finally can drink, that was the second happiest moment of my day (next to holding Katie for the first time, of course!)

I stayed in the hospital for 4 nights with the nurses giving me pain med every 6 hrs for the first day, and every 8 hrs for the next three days. Hubby & Katie stayed with me at all times (we did not let the nurses take her to the nursery!) & I was moving around the room holding her, feeding her, changing her diapers just fine. It did hurt when I get up and down the hospital bed, but other than that, I experienced very little pain.

When I went home, doc prescribed a week worth of pain med, but I did not take any. I am not sure if it's because I was too excited, I totally forgot about the pain, or because I have high pain-tolerance or both, but the moment we came home, I was doing just about everything as I did before I had the surgery.

The incision was taped up very good, and completely healed eafter about 2 weeks. During this time, I was able to resume most activities normally.

I heard that once a person had a C-section, any subsequent deliveries would be via C-section as well... If that is true, and I would have to have a C-section this time, I would insist on letting the baby stay in as long as he/she wishes, and only check in when natural constractions begin (not pre-scheduled). Then, I wouldn't mind having another C-section again!!
 
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I had 3 with 1 being Ers and the other 2 planned. If I was to ever have more then it would be planned also. Get all the ducks in a row with ya mom and j and the kids. Plan on only doing as much as your body tells you. Your hospital should have a liason whom will walk you through there procedures . Don't forget slippers. When is the day ? With your history I would so do the section. Why risk it ? You can have the docs you are familiar with and mom and j all there. I do love the name to.
 

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"I heard that once a person had a C-section, any subsequent deliveries would be via C-section as well... If that is true, and I would have to have a C-section this time, I would insist on letting the baby stay in as long as he/she wishes, and only check in when natural constractions begin (not pre-scheduled). Then, I wouldn't mind having another C-section again!!"

That hasn't been the rule for many years. I had a vaginal birth after my c-section.
 

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That hasn't been the rule for many years. I had a vaginal birth after my c-section.
The medial community goes back and forth on it. For a while they will say go and try a VBAC, and then sway the other way and say it's dangerous.

Currently, doctors won't tell a mother they cannot try a VBAC after a previous c-section generally, but they'll make the risk of a uterine rupture sound scary, as well, it is, and if in a smaller community they may want you to go to a larger hospital in case a problem arises. When I was studying labour and delivery last semester we had a good long multi week discussion on VBAC, and in doing research for a paper, found more than a few 'mommy forums' where some mothers who had tried a VBAC for their most recent child had had problems and wish the risks had been explained better.
 
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There are a risks to a VBAC but IMO they are outweighed by the risks of a c-section itself in most cases. Then again, I feel homebirths are usually safer than hospital births
 

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THanks everyone Jeremy and I are going to read these through together and set up a plan for how to handle this! Ive noticed in other replies that it some of it has to do with how you feel about the csection? Thoughts?

Also would a tie front hospital gown irritate your stomach/incision? Im thinking of buying one because it would help alot with staying covered up and BFing also after around my house LOL.
 
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THanks everyone Jeremy and I are going to read these through together and set up a plan for how to handle this! Ive noticed in other replies that it some of it has to do with how you feel about the csection? Thoughts?

Also would a tie front hospital gown irritate your stomach/incision? Im thinking of buying one because it would help alot with staying covered up and BFing also after around my house LOL.
Only if it put too much pressure on the incision. Oh and make sure you have loose cloths that you can wear. I didn't have many cloths and it was hard to find something I could stand to wear for about a week.
 

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THanks everyone Jeremy and I are going to read these through together and set up a plan for how to handle this! Ive noticed in other replies that it some of it has to do with how you feel about the csection? Thoughts?

Also would a tie front hospital gown irritate your stomach/incision? Im thinking of buying one because it would help alot with staying covered up and BFing also after around my house LOL.
I think attitude about having a c/section can make a difference. Mostly because I have seem a lot of people dead set on an all natural birth and then if they end up with a c-section, they act like it is the worst thing in the world. They will get depressed, some resent their children, etc. I hate seeing this because I can't imagine being that concerned over how my baby got here, all I can think about is how amazing it is to be holding this little person in my arms after carrying them inside for 9 months. I am more concerned about me and baby being healthy than how baby is delivered. Yes a c-section is more recovery, but if it means that both mom and baby are healthy otherwise, then that's the important thing.

Also I think a lot of those people have more trouble with c-sections because they labor for SO long before hand trying to avoid the c-section and the longer you labor the more difficult the c-section is.

As far as the tie front gown, that won't be a problem. Just make sure anything with a waste band has a lose band and that you can wear it higher on your waste. Most my maternity clothes, even though they had elastic bands, they were all underbelly, so if I wore them and sat down, the bottom of the waste band would hit my incision.
 
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I tried everything I could to avoid a csection and am comfortable with the fact that I had them because I know I tried to avoid them and did what I could. For me, just doing one without trying to avoid it (unless there was a serious medical reason which there are some definitely!) would not be ok. C-sections not only have a longer recovery, they are a bigger risk to both baby and mother....doesnt mean in certain situations they arent the safer option.

The women I know who have issues, its because they were pushed into them for false reasons. The doctors either bullied or pushed them into them threatening them. Its scary that the csection rate SHOULD be around 3% yet here in the US the rate is about 30%!!!

oh and I dont have the source for this, but I do remember one of the theories on why some women have a hard time accepting and dealing with their c-sections had to do with not having labor and the hormones that are released during it.
 
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zoe, I have actually been asked on several occasions if I ever felt "robbed" of childbirth. They make it seem like I am less of a woman/mother than they are, and that I should feel shortchanged or something.

Ummmm.....I GAVE BIRTH to 3 boys. It doesn't matter how they came out-they were in, and then they were out.

All 3 of my boys survived, and all 3 are wonderful, healthy boys, so no, I don't feel "shortchanged".
 

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Also would a tie front hospital gown irritate your stomach/incision? Im thinking of buying one because it would help alot with staying covered up and BFing also after around my house LOL.
I don't know if every doctors do the same, or it depends on the position of the baby at delivery time, but my OB made the cut well below the bikini line... I remembered touching my belly afterward trying to find the incision, but couldn't.. so I had to ask my husband to look for me where the cut was :) I watched some videos that showed doctors made the cut accross the lower part of the belly, but that wasn't my case.

During my stay in the hospital, they provided me disposible panties that are very soft and elastic to eliminate the pressure on the wound. Hospital gowns are one-side-fits-all, so I was kinda swimning in it, and it did not touch anything at all.
 

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zoe, I have actually been asked on several occasions if I ever felt "robbed" of childbirth. They make it seem like I am less of a woman/mother than they are, and that I should feel shortchanged or something.

Ummmm.....I GAVE BIRTH to 3 boys. It doesn't matter how they came out-they were in, and then they were out.

All 3 of my boys survived, and all 3 are wonderful, healthy boys, so no, I don't feel "shortchanged".
To a lot of people it does matter though. My friend is one of those women who does feel robbed after having a c-section. It was not a true emergency and she was pressured into in a vulnerable moment. That does not mean your birth is less than because someone else struggles with having to go through the same birth experience though and that's so rude of people to imply. Lots of moms are happy with their c-section experiences and I'm glad they are. I wish no woman had to have negative feelings towards her birthing experience.
 

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To a lot of people it does matter though. My friend is one of those women who does feel robbed after having a c-section. It was not a true emergency and she was pressured into in a vulnerable moment. That does not mean your birth is less than because someone else struggles with having to go through the same birth experience though and that's so rude of people to imply. Lots of moms are happy with their c-section experiences and I'm glad they are. I wish no woman had to have negative feelings towards her birthing experience.
I never feel any less of a mother because of the way my baby is delivered. At that time, I was too eager to meet my daughter, and all I could think about is the baby's safety, therefore, whichever way is quickest and safest is what I like :). I had an emergency C-section with Katie, but am considering requesting a C-section this time, under the condition that it's not pre-scheduled, but follows the baby's signal as to when he/she wants to come out.
 

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Yeah that's different though than being bullied into it. She doesn't regret or resent her son. She is the most amazing mother I know. A vaginal delivery meant a lot to her though and having that experience for her was horrible.

But us vaginal birthers shouldn't be all up on our high horse, my birth was better than yours because I took no drugs yadda yadda crap that a lot of people spew. Birth is such a beautiful thing regardless of how baby came into this world. I'm not preachy and I had a drug free vaginal birth with Briggs. I consider myself really blessed to have a body that reacts really well to the natural labor process.
 

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zoe, I have actually been asked on several occasions if I ever felt "robbed" of childbirth. They make it seem like I am less of a woman/mother than they are, and that I should feel shortchanged or something.

Ummmm.....I GAVE BIRTH to 3 boys. It doesn't matter how they came out-they were in, and then they were out.

All 3 of my boys survived, and all 3 are wonderful, healthy boys, so no, I don't feel "shortchanged".
I hear that , i left 3 different mommy forums because of the mommy nazis. trying to make me feel bad because i did not agree/care how they felt.

I really dont want to hear about what is best for babies , "I" make decisions for my children and "I" dont need ANYONE telling me what is "BEST" for "MY" kids. sheesh if I would have waited for my body to do its thing "I" and "MY SON" would BOTH be DEAD.

so yeah

/.endrant (totally not aimed at anyone here just realllllyyyyyy stillll jerks my chain)
 

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I know that c-sections are done a bit more often than necessary, but I'm not sure I believe that vaginal birth is safer 97% of the time.

I made all the "wrong" decisions according to the all natural birthing community because I chose to be induced in a hospital night before my due date. However, I feel like I was really lucky I made that decision because Mason's heart rate dropped into the 50s TWICE BEFORE I was even in active labor (once before they even placed the cervadil). I was having contractions every 5 minutes for a week, but not active labor, I was not dilating at all. Had I waited til I went into active labor and then waited as long as possible before heading to the hospital or tried to birth at home, it is likely my baby boy would not be here, or would not be his healthy self because his cord was wrapped twice tightly around his neck. That right there confirmed my belief that waiting and going natural is not ALWAYS best.

I personally would rather take the risks of being in hospital and being monitored and/or having surgery and having the best equipment available if anything were to happen, than to be at home trying to avoid inference and then something bad happen.

I also trust my OB. She went through years and years of medical school and has delivered thousands of babies, I am sorry if I trust my OB's advice more than all the moms on the internet.
 
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Gah, I had a big long response typed up and I lost it!

I have no issue with women making choices for themselves and what they feel comfortable with. I do have issues with the medical community ignoring science and truth. Because of lawsuits, many drs feel they have to do all the interventions possible. The more they "do" even if not needed or they actually cause problems, the less likely they are to be sued or to loose the case.

I really do like my OB, she is very natural minded...but even she is a surgeon first and foremost. That is what she was trained to do and trusts in. There is NO reason in the world we should here in the US have such a high csection and induction rate (and not coincidentally also have one of the worst maternal and infant death rates).

I was wrong with my numbers earlier...it is not 3%, it is 5-10% of births should be c-section. According to the WHO, numbers over 15% cause more harm than good. US was down for the first time in a decade last year....at 32.8%!

Again, I am NOT saying any mother is wrong for whatever she chooses. I had two c-sections so obviously I understand that;) My point is the way the system is run in the country is screwed up. OBs no longer are even taught how to deliver breech or other issues. A good midwife is way more experienced than many OBs in actually delivering babies.
 

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I have a midwife this time so we talk about everything with her as well which has been great. She has said herself she wasnt sure I should go vaginal so that definatly made it alot easier for me to not question it. Both times I have pushed well over 2 hours (just 3 and 2 minutes shy of 3 hours) and had major complications (fainting and passing out to the point I dont even remember Morgan being born or pushing him out). My mom on the other hand is pissed about the section because to her my issues "werent that bad" even though she birthed a 7 and 5 lb baby with no issues *rolleyes*. So yeah its been back and forth for me but in the end I KNOW a csection is right for me. I have had 2 doctors admit that they should have csectioned me and Bev was minutes from being a csection. I wanted a all natural drug free birth (both of my vaginals were by the time the monsters came out though) but sadly my body produces more then I should have :(.
 

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