couples therapy (little vent)

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- I don't want him. It is not neccessary to grab his arm possessively when I pass by, begin talking animatedly about your dinner plans and stroke his face.

- I don't want you. Just because I smiled at you and spoke to you briefly while we waited in line at the grocery store, it doesn't mean I'm going to rape you. You don't have to keep playing with your wedding ring and talking loudly about your wife and children. I get it. You're taken. I'll have to find a way through the pain, somehow.

- There is a name for women who enjoy their man's rudeness to other women. It begins with a c.

- Do you really need to consult your SO about frozen peas? Is she that picky? No wonder sperm counts are dropping in the Western nations; all the men are in the grocery store, on their cell phone pleading with their girlfriends/wives to tell them exactly which size to buy, the 3oz or the 5oz can of stewed tomatoes.

- The idea is for a man to open and/or hold the door for women. All women. Not just the woman you're currently engaging in sexual relations with.

- You are not on Noah's ark. You do not need to promenade down any given public space arm in arm. Physical separation is possible and even healthy.

- Children are not the means by which God has granted you dominion over the Earth. Wielding your screaming, sleep-deprived toddler or his 30'x60' stroller/diaperbag/etc. as a weapon is actually not a perk of being a parent. It's a gross misuse of reproductive organs.

- Couples can be composed of two normal individuals; I've seen it. It's not a rumor. You're a freak because, well, there's something wrong with you. Or with your relationship.
 

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Those people you describe above are insecure and nothing else. they are insecure with themselves and their relationship.

I am just glad that my relationship is not like that. and I can't stand women that behave that way. a husband is a privilege not a possession

Although if I touch my husband affectionately in public as you happen to be walking by please don't think it is because I am threatened. I simply love my husband and love to touch him.
 
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Some people are physically demonstrative of their affection and some aren't. If you happen to witness a couple who is, and if it offends you, don't watch.

If you ask a man to stop at the store, BE SPECIFIC about what you want him to pick up. Otherwise you will end up with either one of everything or nothing because he didn't know what you wanted. Saves on your minutes, too ;)

I can't remember the last time a man who held the door open for his wife/gf/so didn't also hold it open for me . . . :confused: Or a time when a guy was rude to me - whether it pleased his female companion or not. But maybe it's just me . . .
 

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Some people are physically demonstrative of their affection and some aren't. If you happen to witness a couple who is, and if it offends you, don't watch.

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Exactly.

My way of thinking is.... you never know when it will be the last time you get to hold that persons hand or give them a kiss or let them know you love them. the one time you don't do this because you are worried about how others view you could be the time you don't make it home :(
 
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Some people are physically demonstrative of their affection and some aren't. If you happen to witness a couple who is, and if it offends you, don't watch.

If you ask a man to stop at the store, BE SPECIFIC about what you want him to pick up. Otherwise you will end up with either one of everything or nothing because he didn't know what you wanted. Saves on your minutes, too ;)

I can't remember the last time a man who held the door open for his wife/gf/so didn't also hold it open for me . . . :confused: Or a time when a guy was rude to me - whether it pleased his female companion or not. But maybe it's just me . . .
I agree Renee. I don't hardly ever run into a man who won't hold the door open for any woman who's walking through.

My husband still opens my car door for me...well...most of the time.:)
 

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that is just people who are insecure about themselves or in their relationships. IMMATURITY !!!
People are immature and others down right rude but also it is how you present yourself in the public arena.
I have yet to not have a young or older man hold a door open for me, and I always make a point of thanking them for their consideration and politeness.
I have helped many a man in a grocery to decide on what brand etc with only a very nice thank you for helping me response and I have asked many a tall man to help me by reaching on the top shelf to get something with their wife standing right there, No problems maybe because I pull out the old standard " God did not see fit to give me the height of a grocery shelf thing"
And if my husband wanted another woman how in the world could I stop that or would I want to be with a partner who was forced to stay with me. I only want him because he wants me. If he feels the need to no longer be with me then so be it.
It is all about being confident in yourself and your life. Also how you present yourself. If you present a flirtacious self to a man then you get the other reaction. If you present yourself as angry you will be treated like a .......
hope it makes sense.
 

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I have to agree with Renee and Aussie. I have never experienced a woman get upset because her Spouse held he door for me. Quite the opposite actually. I have actually witnessed a mans wife give him heck for being so rude as to not hold the door for me LOL. I love when my hubby shows how curteous and polite he can be by helping someone even though he doesn't have to. it makes me very proud to have such a considerate man in my life.

But like Aussie I don't present myself as a threat just as someone in need of a hand. Everyone needs a helping hand every now and then. :D This thread actually makes me glad to see that there are till lots of people out there willing to be friendly and helpful even if it takes a few moments of their time.
 

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I have to agree with Renee and Aussie. I have never experienced a woman get upset because her Spouse held he door for me. Quite the opposite actually. I have actually witnessed a mans wife give him heck for being so rude as to not hold the door for me LOL. I love when my hubby shows how curteous and polite he can be by helping someone even though he doesn't have to. it makes me very proud to have such a considerate man in my life.

But like Aussie I don't present myself as a threat just as someone in need of a hand. Everyone needs a helping hand every now and then. :D This thread actually makes me glad to see that there are till lots of people out there willing to be friendly and helpful even if it takes a few moments of their time.
:hail: :hail: ^^^^^^
 

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