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Have my first appointment in a week! The ultrasound will be the week after. I'm on pins and needles...just want everything to be okay and the baby to be healthy. I'm 7ish weeks along now. :)

I'm told it's normal, but I'm also a bit perplexed because I've lost 6 pounds in the past month. I was hovering around 144, now I've dropped to 138 (my ideal weight, I'm not too thin or anything). Just seems odd, because I've been eating almost constantly. Well, I suppose I've been *snacking* almost constantly. I'm not eating a lot at one time or I feel nauseous, so I'm just snacking throughout the day.

Now, I have a "baby reveal" question. I'm waiting to tell my parents until October when we're visiting for my brother's wedding. We'll be arriving up there on a Tuesday evening, with the wedding being Saturday night. Should I wait until after thr wedding to tell them, so I'm not stealing my soon to be sister in law's thunder, or is a few days enough of gap for the excitement to die down? I'm leaning on waiting to tell them until after the wedding, but it's going to be so hard not saying anything until then!
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Eh I'd tell them now. I'd tell my mom right away if I even got a positive pregnancy test. And we're not that close or anything, but I guess maybe it's because we dealt with infertility etc... and she had a miscarriage, so she'd get it either way.
 
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Eh I'd tell them now. I'd tell my mom right away if I even got a positive pregnancy test. And we're not that close or anything, but I guess maybe it's because we dealt with infertility etc... and she had a miscarriage, so she'd get it either way.
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I want to wait to tell them in person. This will be their first grandchild and I want to be there to see their reactions! If we weren't 1000 miles away I would have done it as soon as I found out, but since we're seeing them in less than three weeks I'm just going to wait until we see them.
 
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*blackrose said:
I want to wait to tell them in person. This will be their first grandchild and I want to be there to see their reactions! If we weren't 1000 miles away I would have done it as soon as I found out, but since we're seeing them in less than three weeks I'm just going to wait until we see them.
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I think I'll just as my brother and soon to be sister and law and see which they prefer. 4 days before, or the day after! It'll just be to my parents and siblings, no extended family (maybe my grandparents the day after) and I will NOT be doing it at the wedding.
 
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*blackrose said:
Have my first appointment in a week! The ultrasound will be the week after. I'm on pins and needles...just want everything to be okay and the baby to be healthy. I'm 7ish weeks along now. :)

I'm told it's normal, but I'm also a bit perplexed because I've lost 6 pounds in the past month. I was hovering around 144, now I've dropped to 138 (my ideal weight, I'm not too thin or anything). Just seems odd, because I've been eating almost constantly. Well, I suppose I've been *snacking* almost constantly. I'm not eating a lot at one time or I feel nauseous, so I'm just snacking throughout the day.

Now, I have a "baby reveal" question. I'm waiting to tell my parents until October when we're visiting for my brother's wedding. We'll be arriving up there on a Tuesday evening, with the wedding being Saturday night. Should I wait until after thr wedding to tell them, so I'm not stealing my soon to be sister in law's thunder, or is a few days enough of gap for the excitement to die down? I'm leaning on waiting to tell them until after the wedding, but it's going to be so hard not saying anything until then!
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Eh, I think as long as you didn't do it at or on the day of the wedding, or probably even the night before (like, at rehearsal dinner or something), then you'll be fine.

Though I have no kid and am not married, so, you know, take that with a grain of salt LOL
 
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I lost weight during both my pregnancies, I think that aside from morning sickness it could be hormones, changes in metabolism, losing water weight, etc (my very scientific guess). I think under 10 lbs of loss is considered normal, but I think most people's weight fluctuates by a few lbs anyway on any given week.

I'd probably wait to tell the family, but that's a hard one. If you're only telling your parents, I think it's safe to tell them a few days before because it's not as if they'll be talking about it all at the wedding (I told all our extended family at least a week before my daughter's party about the sex, purposely so they wouldn't be talking about it at her party, and that's all anyone talked about anyway). If your SIL to be is a bit of a bridezilla or might feel overshadowed, I'd wait.

If you tell your brother and SIL first, your parents might be upset you didn't tell them first, and SIL might feel obliged to tell you she doesn't care if you wait. If you were considering that, I'd opt to tell your parents a few days before, but wait to tell your brother and SIL until after the wedding, and tell your parents you don't want to distract from their big day, so they keep it under wraps for a few days.
 
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Well... If you can go the whole wedding without drinking and no one noticing you're not drinking... Good luck. That would have been my dead giveaway haha! Although I did manage a trip to my parents and feigned antibiotics, but was only a night or two.

I'd wait though.
 
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I'd find a way to tell them several days after so it's not associated with the wedding. Or now. Some people wouldn't mind sharing the limelight and others would never let that go.
 
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I think I would wait to tell your parents after the wedding (like the next day), and then tell you brother and new SIL when they get back from their honeymoon (if they are taking one). Then they get their chance at having a night about them, and you can have yours :)

I wouldn't do it now, either. But that is just me. I think telling them in person, like you are planning, is better.
 
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I think I would wait to tell your parents after the wedding (like the next day), and then tell you brother and new SIL when they get back from their honeymoon (if they are taking one). Then they get their chance at having a night about them, and you can have yours :)

I wouldn't do it now, either. But that is just me. I think telling them in person, like you are planning, is better.
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I would do this
 
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I just had some mild bleeding happen. :/

Now I just have this giant pit in my stomach. Ugh. If it keeps happening I think I'm going to try to get in tomorrow to be seen, see what's going on. Ugh.
 
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I just had some mild bleeding happen. :/

Now I just have this giant pit in my stomach. Ugh. If it keeps happening I think I'm going to try to get in tomorrow to be seen, see what's going on. Ugh.
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it can be completely normal. Sometimes I wish the early detection pregnancy tests, all the ultrasounds etc would just go poof and just let things happen for a while. sorry, mini side rant
 
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Will be heading to the hospital shortly. No more bleeding but for that very small amount last night, but some very slight dark spotting this morning. My OBGYN office didn't have a physician on staff today, so they referred me to tge hospital. Crossing my fingers it's nothing, bracing myself that it is. Could use some vibes that, regardless of the outcome, things are okay!
 
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When I had my CP in June, I learned that some spotting early on is absolutely normal, but if there are a lot of clots, it can signal trouble but NOT always. Sometimes they have you just take it easy for a few days. Maybe give you some progesterone.

All the vibes for you!!! Hoping everything is all well and good.
 
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Sparks !!!!!!! Yes!!!!! I'd wondered. I think it's when people stop trying it happens!

Black rose thinking of you and hope to hear good news soon!
 
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Well, some good news and bad news.

Good news: baby has a heart beat. Growth says it's almost 6 weeks (5w, 5 days or something like that). My bloodwork didn't show anything abnormal.

Bad news: the heart rate is low. 93bpm. Should be over 100bpm. Due to the low heart rate and symptoms, doctor diagnosed me with a threatened miscarriage. 50/50 shot one way or the other. I'm to have a follow up first thing Monday morning to recheck a certain blood level (something that's supposed to double daily?) and recheck the fetal heartbeat.

I'm not sure what to feel. Trying to stay optimistic is hard when you're also trying to brace for the worst. I broke down into tears earlier. Now I'm just kind of numb. This sucks.



And congrats Sparks! :) That's awesome news.
 
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Blackrose, I'm so
Sorry!!! Praying for health!

I can't say we were trying super hard. We were just not preventing lol then when it didn't happen after months and months
We figured it wasn't going to happen and preventing was no longer needed lol
 
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