Chaz Moms and Moms-to-Be Chat (everyone welcome)

FG167 · Mar 4, 2015

I didn't even know there were prescription prenatals LOL I am just taking a generic otc. I brought the pills into the first dr and he said they were fine.

Baby is measuring a bit bigger than average, but not too surprising since DH and his brother were humongous.

Today and tomorrow I have cardiologist appointments. I have to wear a heart monitor for 24 hours and then have an ultrasound done on my heart.

Baby has started moving a lot more...now I am getting nudges throughout the day as well (used to be in the early am before getting up and at night as I get ready to sleep).

I'm itching to get the nursery finished up some more. We just have a crib, a dresser, and a small bookcase thing in there right now.

HayleyMarie · Mar 4, 2015

I am just so excited for you. You must post nursery pictures once it's done. My mind is too corrupted with baby and wedding thoughts right now lol

sparks19 · Mar 4, 2015

mmm but they taste good lol

honestly, I just took whatever my stomach wouldn't bring back up almost immediately.

Greenmagick · Mar 4, 2015

Carry over from the other thread....but yeah, nursing pictures are beautiful! Have we shared any/many here?

Sadly I really dont have any....mainly because I just dont have THAT many photos with me. I dont like being in them. I do have one though you cant really even tell I am nursing. There are some others on my dead computer that I never uploaded anywhere. Looking back of course I wish I had taken more, especially when they were older.

~Jessie~ · Mar 4, 2015

Greenmagick said:

I think breastfeeding is just so beautiful. I've been nursing Nora for over 7 months and I plan to continue until she's at least 2. I keep planning on having hubby take some good nursing photos of us. We're going to the beach or a park this weekend and hopefully I'll remember the camera!

milos_mommy · Mar 4, 2015

I have some breastfeeding photos on my computer but this is my phone. Lillian only breastfed for 5 months so I'm really hoping next baby does better. I think I had too many visitors early on with Lillian

we'll limit to only immediate family for the first two weeks

release the hounds · Mar 4, 2015

I think breastfeeding is awesome, I just don't get the allure of the pictures though. My wife had me take some with her because she wanted them. I can see why that bond would be something she wanted to remember, and something i can't really understand, but I still don't care if I see the pictures again or not

It certainly doesn't mean I have anything against it. I encourage every woman to feed as much for as long as they can with wherever they are. Just because I don't care for pictures doesn't mean I don't want to see it everywhere. If enough are doing it, I don't need pictures

anyway, I can't even remember how long our son actually breastfed. He's still getting breast milk, but it comes thru a bottle now. We have a big chest freezer full of milk bags

Should get him to 2 years. My wife has kept a pumping schedule like none other. Pretty much a necessity because of her work schedule, but I don't think I could have kept it up.

milos_mommy · Mar 4, 2015

Part of the allure of pictures for me is to participate in the "normalize breastfeeding" movement. (Aside from obviously remembering the bond, and how I nourished my child with my body and was a badass woman and all that nonsense lol).

I can make other women feel less self-concious about NIP (and other non-mothers feel less awkward about it over time) but NIP myself...but I only have a short range of time to do that. If I can post those pictures on my facebook, or forums, or on the wall in my house, I can do it for longer

joce · Mar 4, 2015

Maybe the prenatals have to cost less now with the insurance changes? Mine were 3$ for 90 day supply and my insurance is awful.

I'm really considering just breast feeding the first couple days and seeing how it goes when we have #two. I was so stressed thinking I had to do at least a year with Case that I was a mess and did not just get to enjoy him and just remember trying to get more milk

if it comes easier though we will see. I tried eating different things and supplements but I've heard sometimes second time is easier.

I was really thinking we'd go for number two now but I want to ride and enjoy the new place this summer and it's on hold. Husband will not let me do anything animal related pregnant and I am ok with that. I'd feel terrible if anything happened.

Case is walking and it's just so weird to think he was just crawling. He loves animals. He is a cat person. Our cat burrito would snuggle him all the time and my husband is also a cat person though he says he is not. Feral cats will even flock to him. He likes dogs to but definitely cats more.

Greenmagick · Mar 4, 2015

milos_mommy said:

This.

In our current society many people are not used to seeing someone breastfeed where it used to be (and in other societies still is) a totally normal occurrence. Many people who are uncomfortable seeing it wouldnt be if it was part of their normal. Same goes for women who are uncomfortable doing it.

The pic I posted for example...you would not have seen that with my first at that young of an age (he was three months in the pic). The pic was taken at a family Xmas celebration and I was just out in the middle of it all. With my daughter, at that age I was still going into other rooms if it was more than a couple people that I was comfortable with. Now, some moms PREFER privacy for feeding, and thats totally cool. But they shouldnt feel like something is wrong if they dont. It can be very isolating especially when they are really young and nursing quite frequently. Who wants to miss 2/3 of the celebration you know?

amberdyan · Mar 4, 2015

Greenmagick said:

I'm glad that there seem to be a lot of chazzers who get this. My very close friend moved to another state and she sent me a picture the other day while she was nursing her newborn. She was pretty covered up but he was all cuddled up and his hand was on her right next to his face it and it was just gorgeous and peaceful and wonderful. I'm glad she's taking pictures of those perfect peaceful moments. On the other hand, I have a friend who's TTC that will be very private about breastfeeding, just because she's a very private person altogether. I definitely think the normalize breastfeeding movement is about mothers choice. You should have the choice to feed your baby anywhere that is safe for your baby to be.

Jules · Mar 5, 2015

I am one of those who prefer privacy. I'm not a prude, I don't care if I see someone else's nipple, it's just my personal preference. I'd rather sit in my car and feed Finley before entering a restaurant than in a restaurant. We were waiting at a doctor's office last week and he got really hungry and fussy. I asked the receptionist if they had a room I could nurse in, which they did. If they didn't, I wouldn't have had a problem nursing in the waiting room. I just wouldn't have preferred it.

On a different note, I wish the "breastfeeding community" would extent the level of acceptance and tolerance it wants to receive to mothers in general, especially any mothers who do not exclusively breastfeed. While trying to figure out Finley's issues and starting my elimination diet, we chose to put him on a formula for babies with sensitivities. Within 24 hours, we had a different baby. Not terribly bloated, not crying all day and night long after being fed, and most importantly, a steep decline in refluxing. When I turned to forums for advice to make sure that the transition from breast milk to formula were smooth, to reduce the risk of nipple confusion, etc., I was met with "BREAST IS BEST" attitudes. Yes, I, and the rest of the world is aware of that, that is besides the point. In my case, having a happier baby while I flush everything out of my system, was more important to me than being stuck on breastfeeding him and him being miserable longer than he had to.

There are plenty reasons, mothers can't or choose not to breastfeed, and I don't believe it is an easy decision for any of them. I know when I gave Finley his first bottle, I sobbed, and I knew that it was only for a short amount of time and I could get back to breastfeeding.

/rant over.

Jules · Mar 5, 2015

Torch said:

((((HUGS))))

I hope you will be successful soon! Let me know if you ever need to vent or need an ear to listen to you.

Fran27 · Mar 5, 2015

Jules said:

I am one of those who prefer privacy. I'm not a prude, I don't care if I see someone else's nipple, it's just my personal preference. I'd rather sit in my car and feed Finley before entering a restaurant than in a restaurant. We were waiting at a doctor's office last week and he got really hungry and fussy. I asked the receptionist if they had a room I could nurse in, which they did. If they didn't, I wouldn't have had a problem nursing in the waiting room. I just wouldn't have preferred it.

On a different note, I wish the "breastfeeding community" would extent the level of acceptance and tolerance it wants to receive to mothers in general, especially any mothers who do not exclusively breastfeed. While trying to figure out Finley's issues and starting my elimination diet, we chose to put him on a formula for babies with sensitivities. Within 24 hours, we had a different baby. Not terribly bloated, not crying all day and night long after being fed, and most importantly, a steep decline in refluxing. When I turned to forums for advice to make sure that the transition from breast milk to formula were smooth, to reduce the risk of nipple confusion, etc., I was met with "BREAST IS BEST" attitudes. Yes, I, and the rest of the world is aware of that, that is besides the point. In my case, having a happier baby while I flush everything out of my system, was more important to me than being stuck on breastfeeding him and him being miserable longer than he had to.

There are plenty reasons, mothers can't or choose not to breastfeed, and I don't believe it is an easy decision for any of them. I know when I gave Finley his first bottle, I sobbed, and I knew that it was only for a short amount of time and I could get back to breastfeeding.

/rant over.

Agreed. Heck we adopted twins with no warning and I got comments about not buying breast milk and not trying to produce milk to feed them. Ridiculous.

But either way, I would never have been comfortable nursing in public, personally.

sparks19 · Mar 5, 2015

Yeah I was also one that preferred to nurse in the car or somewhere quiet. Just wasn't my cup of tea and my arm hurt tryign to hold her up just right lol so I always needed some kind of arm rest haha.

I don't have any pictures from breastfeeding and I can't say that I ever really got that deep bonding connected feeling from breastfeeding. It was really just a means to feed my baby but I didn't feel all warm and fuzzy about it but I know I am definitely in the minority in that sense. We bonded in other ways obviously lol. I dont know if it's because from the beginning she was sick and in the NICU and pumping became something I did to provide her the best I possibly could and help her heal so it became more methodical than spiritual. I wasn't able to nurse her for almost a week so I was just exclusively pumping and when she was able to start eating, we had to feet her by finger with a tube taped on.

Taqroy · Mar 5, 2015

Jules said:

This makes me so sad. I'm sorry you went through that, making the best decision to feed your baby should never be something to feel guilty over.

((((hugs))))

When we were in the hospital and had to supplement with formula because Falon couldn't latch the nurse made me feel awful for asking questions. She basically threatened to send Falon to the NICU if we didn't supplement (I wasn't against it, I just wanted to know all the options). When the pediatrician came in she was pissed that the nurse had done that. In retrospect, I'm pissed about it. That's not how you treat people, especially new parents.

Dizzy · Mar 5, 2015

Well as I type I have a sad 8 week old baby munching on my booby (first injections

). I love breastfeeding, but it IS hard work!!! She won't take a bottle (although I'm going to try some different teats) so it's booby or nothing.

I don't take pictures of me feeding her, those women must be more flexible than me. I don't share photos of her on social media in general really, just the odd one here and there. I'd fully support anyone else's photo though, I don't think it's taboo and I don't see it as anything more than a photo of an adult eating a sandwich.

I breastfeed in public. And frankly I'm getting to the stage of not caring if I flash a nipple. Hungry crying baby trumps other people's opinion of me trying to feed said hungry crying baby. I've fed her in a VERY busy restaurant/pub. Doctors waiting room. My car. CafÃ©s. So on. At first it's awkward, but I'm not going to avoid places...

Before I knew people who breastfed I know I felt slightly awkward when they fed because it's not something I'd seen much of. Because it has always been something that happens behind closed doors.... Get it out there, normalise it. Hopefully people will see me feeding her and be like 'oh, it's not that exciting or interesting'.

And I know formula feeding mums get the same crap. You're damned if you do, you're damned if you don't. I can't believe feeding a baby gets so much attention!!!!!

Grab · Mar 5, 2015

sparks19 said:

Oh thank heavens someone else felt that way. I thought I was a weirdo. I have absolutely no problems with breastfeeding, and do believe it is best. I did bf Clive until my body no longer produced enough to sustain him. But, I never felt any immense bonding due to bf'ing. It was rather the same feeling I get when I hand him a plate of food now...just a means to feed him. Don't get me wrong, while I have no plans to have any more children, if I did have another, I'd bf again. However, it was never a warm, fuzzy thing. I also am very private, so while I dont' bat an eye if anyone else feeds in public, I chose to do it privately, due to my own comfort level. (not because I thought I'd offend anyone, but because I just was not' comfortable with it)

Greenmagick · Mar 5, 2015

I never felt a special bond through breastfeeding either. In fact, there were plenty Of times I was closer to resenting it. When they weaned I was actually quite happy while many of my friends were sad and missed it.

I totally surprised myself being as comfortable as I was bfing in public. I was the girl who wouldnt take her jeans off to try on wedding dresses in the big dressing room, who won't do showers at gyms, etc. I generally am really private but for whatever reason wasn't. I think for me it was because Lilah nursed SO often that I almost had to if I wanted to go anywhere lol

milos_mommy · Mar 6, 2015

Morning sickness is in full swing ugh. When I was pregnant with Lil I took zofran, but I'm pretty unwilling to do that again after hearing some of the effects and lawsuits around it. I'm only able to keep clear liquids and a few crackers down now though, and last time I was vomiting til 16 weeks, so I'm kinda worried about it.

As far as breastfeeding in public...never felt weird about doing it at the mall or waiting room or airport or library...felt super weird about doing it in front of family, probably because they freaked out every time I did. Gonna have to try harder to stand up to them this time around

I honestly think that sort of effected my ability to feed, too. By the time I was able to get myself and the baby and water and whatever into a bedroom or whatnot (or cover with a blanket with my mother hovering over me trying to "block" anyone from seeing my cleavage), Lillian was probably way frustrated about being hungry and difficult to latch. She didn't want to eat under a blanket in July and I don't blame Her. Gonna tell them all next time if they don't like me breastfeeding in public they don't need to hang out with me

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