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It was the 80's so I don't know if it's much different now, but back when I was a kid and my mom did daycare she had several Little Tikes play kitchen things... they lasted great even with that kind of multi-child abuse! She sold them to other providers when she retired.

I just looked some up and OMG I want one of these for myself LOL.
http://www.littletikes.com/preschoo...erroleplay/cook-n-grow-bbq-grill-/invt/633904
 
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Plastic holds up. We have two kitchens at the preschool where I work. They've been there
For years and endure daily use and they are still in excellent condition!
 
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My best friend had her first baby early this morning!
I'm so excited to meet baby Brooklyn, she is the first baby (and possibly only ever) one of our little group.
I personally don't think I want kids, but I am SO excited to shower this little one with love and gifts. :D

The original plan, before we knew the baby would be here so soon, was for a few of us to spend Halloween at their apartment having a nice chill night watching movies. But as I said, I'm new to the whole friends having babies thing, and wondering how big of a spectacle it will be at her place tomorrow? (She's got a huge supportive family).
Is there anything we should bring for her that we can surprise her with?
 
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With a huge supportive family, she probably has pretty much everything she needs already, so it's a tough one! I'd say, if you can, make a meal she can just reheat or something, but she might have people helping with that too...
 
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That's what I was thinking. Especially so soon after.

I know they also stocked up on food - made huge amounts and froze it, for when her husband is at work and she doesn't feel like cooking a whole meal.

I'm guessing by tomorrow she'll be so overwhelmed and tired that it might be nice to have a couple close friends over to sort of help out and provide a calm-ish "normal" night.
 
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You could bring her some coffee... that's always very welcome with a newborn :rofl1: Heck our adoption agency gave us some coffee thermos as a 'new parents' present.
 
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I might ask her directly 1. if she wants people over or not (with a big family she may want some bonding time just her, SO, and baby) and 2. What she needs. Then listen and make sure she knows that you are available to help as needed, whatever that may be.

I know I've heard from several people that just having someone ask about how MOM was doing, not just baby, really helped as they felt like they kind of disappeared after the baby arrived.
 
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I really want to make one of those wooden kitchens from an entertainment center- I love the look of them! When it comes time to actually do it, though, hopefully I can find the time.
 
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I think when I was a new mom I just wanted someone to do my laundry or sweep my kitchen for me. Everyone comes over and wants to help by hogging your baby while you rest but really I needed help with basic chores and stuff. Magazines, DVDs, crossword puzzles would also be appreciated.


Lillian's learning a lot at day care, like how to squirt her water or milk across the room between her teeth. Am I better off ignoring this and cleaning it up and hoping she gets bored of it, or taking her drink away if she does it? (Which makes her scream)?
 
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Thanks everyone :)
I made sure to ask how she was doing yesterday. I also asked if it was okay if my mom (a nurse at the hospital) stopped by to see if she needed anything while she was on shift.

Both her and the baby are doing very well :) They're hoping to be sent home this morning, but could be held in hospital for up to another 20 hours just to make sure everything is going the way it should, her being a first time mother and all.

We will give her a call today and see how she's feeling and if she would like us to stop by, and if she needs anything.
I'll be sure to keep in contact with her every so often asking if there's anything she needs (the other friend lives 3 hours away so it's not quite as easy for her right now).


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Lillian's learning a lot at day care, like how to squirt her water or milk across the room between her teeth. Am I better off ignoring this and cleaning it up and hoping she gets bored of it, or taking her drink away if she does it? (Which makes her scream)?
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Could you get her to help clean up after each time she does it? (Could be enough of a deterrent to stop, plus teach an early "responsibility for mess" sort of thing)
 
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milos_mommy said:
I think when I was a new mom I just wanted someone to do my laundry or sweep my kitchen for me. Everyone comes over and wants to help by hogging your baby while you rest but really I needed help with basic chores and stuff. Magazines, DVDs, crossword puzzles would also be appreciated.


Lillian's learning a lot at day care, like how to squirt her water or milk across the room between her teeth. Am I better off ignoring this and cleaning it up and hoping she gets bored of it, or taking her drink away if she does it? (Which makes her scream)?
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Amen to that. We were selfish. Everyone wanted the baby and all mom and dad (me) wanted to do was be left alone with the baby :)

People learned quick they weren't getting him for a while. He's new, he's our's and when he falls asleep on someone, it's going to be one of us. I understand you love and want to hold babies, but you had your's, this one is ours. I made it pretty clear pretty early. Someone came to take him from me when he fell asleep in my arms and I was like, "I wanted 9 years for this one, you're going to have to wait" Word spread pretty quickly after that :)
 
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release the hounds said:
Amen to that. We were selfish. Everyone wanted the baby and all mom and dad (me) wanted to do was be left alone with the baby :)

People learned quick they weren't getting him for a while. He's new, he's our's and when he falls asleep on someone, it's going to be one of us. I understand you love and want to hold babies, but you had your's, this one is ours. I made it pretty clear pretty early. Someone came to take him from me when he fell asleep in my arms and I was like, "I wanted 9 years for this one, you're going to have to wait" Word spread pretty quickly after that :)
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My mom was the same way with me.
"This is mine, no you cannot touch her she is mine"

Luckily (for them I guess?) I really have no desire to hold a babies until they can at least hold their own head up. I'm more than happy to take their dog out and clean the house though lol
 
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We got our 30 week ultrasounds yesterday. No 3D this go round. Unfortunately, she is measuring about 2.5 weeks ahead because of the gestational diabetes, and I will probably have to be induced at 38 weeks. I was really hoping to go naturally and avoid pitocin this time, but it's better than a c section, which they aren't worried about... Yet.
I honestly just can't wait to be done with being pregnant. I'm so tired, and crazy, and nothing fits any more... I'd like to hold a nice, healthy baby, like... Now. LOL
 
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Ozfozz said:
Could you get her to help clean up after each time she does it? (Could be enough of a deterrent to stop, plus teach an early "responsibility for mess" sort of thing)
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Good idea, but she LOVES cleaning. She at least doesn't (usually) spill anything on purpose but she gets so excited to wipe up a spill if there is one.

She seemed to pretty much stop on her own...did it a little bit again last night but I just sort of walked away from her and started cleaning up and ignoring her, and she didn't keep doing it :)
 
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Hi everyone. Its been a while.

I delivered my precious darling on 24 March at 13.42. She weighed in at 2.36kg.

All went well except she couldn't cry. We left it alone until 3 months on doctors orders. At 4 months old Stella was operated on for subglottic stenosis. Long story short, it all went horribly wrong.

We nearly lost her twice and she remained in NICU for 2 weeks, ventilated for 10 days. Eventually they performed a tracheostomy.

We have just found out that all attempts to increase airway diameter failed. She will undergo a cricoid split at 2 years old. So she will remain trached.

She is my world, my soul, my everything.
 
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