Birth control?

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Condoms aren't even 100% effective with proper usage, and with how often they break, it's realistically about 80% without backup.

Pulling out, if done correctly, is 100% effective. The idea you can get pregnant from pre-ejaculate is a myth. The only problem with it really is that you're relying (as a woman) on someone else.
This. Condoms have broken a lot, I'd really rather just not have it in there. haha. Plus, towards the end of my last relationship, I was having issues with reactions; not sure if it was because of the latex or specific brands/lubes used in them, but it kind of made me shy away from them.

Brian wants kids much less than I, so I don't have a problem with relying on him. lol
 

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Condoms aren't even 100% effective with proper usage, and with how often they break, it's realistically about 80% without backup.

Pulling out, if done correctly, is 100% effective. The idea you can get pregnant from pre-ejaculate is a myth. The only problem with it really is that you're relying (as a woman) on someone else.
Not that I'm advocating this as birth control LOL but this is pretty much the system we have used since Hannah was born and no pregnancies yet.

HOWEVER, we are comfortable with this method because having a second child would not be devastating and we would be happy either way. so if you are absolutely trying to prevent pregnancy at all cost I wouldn't suggest using this method solely lol.

I was on a low hormone BC after I had Hannah briefly and it KILLED my sex drive and after I used them up we just decided not to renew the prescription and I've not been on any form of BC since and we don't use condoms (I am also one that has reactions to condoms and nothing kills the sex drive more than uncomfortable nether regions).

Whatever you choose I would double up if you really really can't have another pregnancy occur.

But yes the only 100% guarantee is abstinence but it's really not as bad as it sounds. there are LOTS of ways to be intimate that will just as effectively (if not more so) "get you there"
 

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No, its not. Nothing is 100% effective except abstinence.

If used correctly every time, withdrawal is about 96% effective.
If used correctly every time, condoms are about 98% effective.

I'm not sure where you are buying your condoms from, or how well you are checking expiration dates on those, but if you break them 20% of the time, you're either using cheap condoms or you're doing it wrong.

percentages used are going by memory and may not be exactly accurate. College was a long time ago. :p


As for the OP, when I was on BC, I was on Alesse. Can't be on anything hormonal right now, though, due to drug interactions.
This. I didn't take the pill for 2 years. Condoms were all we used. No kiddies yet - and we never had a problem with them breaking.
 

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Well we use none so I can't advise you lol

And I'm not pregnant, so either we are infertile or we are doing something right!

There's a lot to be said about a guy with self control.

*disclaimer - this is not good birth control and I don't recommend it. We aren't trying for kids, but we also wouldn't be devastated if it happened. We are both adults, financially secure and old enough to cope! And talk about having them in the next....... Well, that bits debated.
 

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Yaz, so the pill. I'm happy with it :) I put a reminder on my phone to take it at the same time every day so it's fine.

Condoms are also always used.
 

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I don't really have a good relationship with oral BC either, I just don't react good to them. We use condoms (& make sure we use them correctly & every time) & they seem to work very well (well I am not preggers yet so I assume they do lol) I might when I can go to PP & inquire on tubal legation because I know for sure that I don't want to have kids :/

Is using condoms ok? As long as thy are used correctly & carefully & every time? Besides tubal legation (which is not something I can afford right now :/) they are our only option right now is condoms.
 

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I don't really have a good relationship with oral BC either, I just don't react good to them. We use condoms (& make sure we use them correctly & every time) & they seem to work very well (well I am not preggers yet so I assume they do lol) I might when I can go to PP & inquire on tubal legation because I know for sure that I don't want to have kids :/

Is using condoms ok? As long as thy are used correctly & carefully & every time? Besides tubal legation (which is not something I can afford right now :/) they are our only option right now is condoms.
What kind of condoms are you using? I would make sure, since they are your only form of protection, to go for a quality brand. I have had big problems with "free"/cheaper condoms before :rofl1: glow in the dark? NEVER AGAIN! LOL

Use them correctly and you should be fine.. but ALSO you might want to head to your local CVS or planned parenthood and get the morning after pill and have it on hand, I have two always ready and if anything seems "off" (condom may have torn or slipped etc..) I pop one as soon as possible.

The side effects will be much like a period for most (mild cramping, etc..) but it's certainly better than the alternative and the worry lol

Also
- Spermicidal lube
- Pulling out
- There is a great app called "my days" or something for the iphone and it lets me know (by tracking when I had my period) what days I am especially fertile. I am extra careful on those days.
 

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The pill and condoms.

Frodo and I take our pills at the same time. One night I even wrapped my pill in bologna and nearly fed it to him :yikes: At the last minute I was like...this feels wrong...ABORT ABORT! :rofl1: I got to take a bologna flavored bc pill that night :p
 

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The pill and condoms.

Frodo and I take our pills at the same time. One night I even wrapped my pill in bologna and nearly fed it to him :yikes: At the last minute I was like...this feels wrong...ABORT ABORT! :rofl1: I got to take a bologna flavored bc pill that night :p
I laughed so hard at this!! :rofl1:
 

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the pill and condoms.

Frodo and i take our pills at the same time. One night i even wrapped my pill in bologna and nearly fed it to him :yikes: At the last minute i was like...this feels wrong...abort abort! :rofl1: I got to take a bologna flavored bc pill that night :p
HAHAHAHA

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This. I didn't take the pill for 2 years. Condoms were all we used. No kiddies yet - and we never had a problem with them breaking.
Same here, I have been in a 4 + year relationship & after the first year (once I lost my health insurance, that & I have never found a pill that agrees with me :/. I might try the injection or the implant.

Those who couldn't handle the pill (I had no libido, was bloated, & bled almost constantly) is the shot or the implant better? Would it work for me? Could I go to PP for it (thats the only place I could afford :/)
 

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I used the pill for years, but I had bad headaches when I got my period. Right now I just use condoms. I may end up going with Depo or an IUD but I'm a little afraid because it's not like you can just...stop taking it if there is a bad reaction. I've also heard depo and IUD horror stories of oops babies. :yikes:
 

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Planned Parenthood's chart, as well:

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/he...l/birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm

And condom versus withdrawal:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/condom-10187.htm
Failure rate of 2% if used correctly every time, 18% if not used correctly every time.

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/withdrawal-pull-out-method-4218.htm
Failure rate of 4% if used correctly every time, 27% if not used correctly every time.

PP also does not agree that it's a myth you can become pregnant from pre-ejaculate.
 

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What kind of condoms are you using? I would make sure, since they are your only form of protection, to go for a quality brand. I have had big problems with "free"/cheaper condoms before :rofl1: glow in the dark? NEVER AGAIN! LOL

Use them correctly and you should be fine.. but ALSO you might want to head to your local CVS or planned parenthood and get the morning after pill and have it on hand, I have two always ready and if anything seems "off" (condom may have torn or slipped etc..) I pop one as soon as possible.

The side effects will be much like a period for most (mild cramping, etc..) but it's certainly better than the alternative and the worry lol

Also
- Spermicidal lube
- Pulling out
- There is a great app called "my days" or something for the iphone and it lets me know (by tracking when I had my period) what days I am especially fertile. I am extra careful on those days.
The glow in the dark and other "fun" ones all have a warning that they aren't to be used as BC :p
 

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Well we use none so I can't advise you lol

And I'm not pregnant, so either we are infertile or we are doing something right!

There's a lot to be said about a guy with self control.

*disclaimer - this is not good birth control and I don't recommend it. We aren't trying for kids, but we also wouldn't be devastated if it happened. We are both adults, financially secure and old enough to cope! And talk about having them in the next....... Well, that bits debated.
This, verbatim... it's worked for like 4 years thus far, lol. It may have a lot to do with my juvenile diabetes + irregular cycles as well... I don't know.
 

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Yaz (estrogen) made me insane. Very hormonal, a lot of PMS, but regular cycles.

I'm on Implanon now. It's an implant, but it goes in your arm. So if you are squeamish about something being shoved up your cervix(I definitely am), this might be more up your alley. It's progesterone, the same as Depo. I have no periods, but still have regular PMS symptoms. Much more level emotionally than I was on Yaz. Active for 2-3 years, then you either get off of it or have it replaced. Very expensive if you don't have insurance, though.
 

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Well we use none so I can't advise you lol

And I'm not pregnant, so either we are infertile or we are doing something right!

There's a lot to be said about a guy with self control.

*disclaimer - this is not good birth control and I don't recommend it. We aren't trying for kids, but we also wouldn't be devastated if it happened. We are both adults, financially secure and old enough to cope! And talk about having them in the next....... Well, that bits debated.
This. As of right now we aren't using any. Condoms really irritate me since I'm sensitive to everything down in that department. Don't do pills because every kind I've tried has made me sick. Haven't really tried other alternatives. Occasionally we do the withdrawal method, but even that is rarely. I personally think one of us might have some fertility issues and we may need medical help if we aren't pregnant within the next few years. So... We aren't exactly trying for kids, but I can't say we are exactly preventing either.
 

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