Anyone want to adopt me?

[noludoru]

Or a short vacation from my parents... I'm not very particular.

My mom is finally having a talk with my dad about his behavior... and oh boy... you should hear what is coming out of his mouth. Wow. I find it hard to believe he realizes WHAT he is saying. As usual, I and my mom are being blamed for everything. Mostly me, but it's her fault, too. Oh boy. I think I am going to go to the store with her even though I'm not feeling so great... I'm not keen on the idea of being stuck here with him. He's being very hateful and has been drinking.... so it's not the best idea to be alone here.

*sigh*

JESS! Aren't you supposed to own me? Come pick me up please.

 

[Buddy'sParents]

You can come here anytime.. really...

 

[Sunnierhawk0]

Awwww

Hang in there, things will get better ((big hugs))

 

[Renee750il]

That's way past not good, Nolu

 

[drmom777]

Nolu, that sounds horrible. You seem to have managed to grow up remarkably well in spite of what sound like really tough circumstances. You are very tough and resilient. you should be really proud of yourself. I wish i could do something to help.

 

[Zoom]

Again...pullout couch and fenced backyard..and connections to the local dog places...

 

[noludoru]

Thanks everybody..

You can come here anytime.. really...

My mom wants to send me away for a few weeks... although I'm thinking she was hoping for somewhere a bit closer than, say, the west coast, LOL. BP? (((((((HUGS))))))) You are one of the sweetest, most caring human beings I have ever had the pleasure of knowing.

Thanks Drmom... those are compliments I'm honestly not sure I deserve. I'm only flippant about the situation on here because it's a way to get tension out.... god it sucks.

Well, we got out of the house.. I'm still feeling pretty bad, but at least not sick anymore.. we got burgers and ice cream. I think my mom may have made up her mind to divorce him. The two of us think things are going to get pretty ugly here over the next few months, and she wants me to get away for a few weeks and stay somewhere else. I have a friend who lives in Alexandria, so we're probably going to talk to her about it, as she's extended the offer more than once for me to come stay with her. I'd have to bring Middie, too, though, which is the only problem - she likes him, but one of her cats hates him and the other is scared of him. And I'm not sure how she would feel about a dog in her house... the puppy she adopted years ago bit her, and she's been a little afraid of dogs since. Anyhow, we'll talk to her about it and see.

He was just so... hateful. Utterly hateful to the both of us. I can see he's made up his mind on how things will be.

 

[noludoru]

Again...pullout couch and fenced backyard..and connections to the local dog places...

Stop tempting me. Hmmph. LOL. You know I'm dying to meet Virgo and Sawyer.

 

[drmom777]

I stand by the positive comments. And not because you are flippant about a truly dreadful and unfair situation, but because of the way you respond to people and their problems here. I don't know how old you actually are, but based on your responses to people about THEIR problems, I would have guessed 25-30, until I started to hear some stray details about your own life.

I reiterate, you should be proud of yourself. Yoour parents are not you.

 

[Zoom]

Stop tempting me. Hmmph. LOL. You know I'm dying to meet Virgo and Sawyer.

I'm closer than the West Coast, there's a great vet school about 2 hours from me (K-State), awesome dog parks for Middie and the rent anywhere around here is almost guaranteed to be better than the East Coast.

Just something to think about.

 

[noludoru]

I stand by the positive comments. And not because you are flippant about a truly dreadful and unfair situation, but because of the way you respond to people and their problems here. I don't know how old you actually are, but based on your responses to people about THEIR problems, I would have guessed 25-30, until I started to hear some stray details about your own life.

I reiterate, you should be proud of yourself. Yoour parents are not you.

I'm 17 (It doesn't feel like it most days, though). Thank you so much. I was never aware I came off that way until people on chaz told me... lol.

Zoom, I mentioned it to my mom.. she didn't even blink. She surprises me all the time.

 

[Renee750il]

Sounds like your mom is pretty serious about this. And worried. You do need to be elsewhere, Nolu.

And we're here for you. Drmom's absolutely correct - as usual

 

[noludoru]

Sounds like your mom is pretty serious about this. And worried. You do need to be elsewhere, Nolu.

And we're here for you. Drmom's absolutely correct - as usual

Yeah, she is. Some of the stuff he has said to her lately puts ME in a rage.... she tries to be philosophical about it and not let him get to her, but I can't even imagine how she feels. Some of the talks we have had lately... have been.. eye-opening. Not anything I'd talk about here, ever, because of some of the things that would be said to me for my opinions... but... it's a disturbing situation.

 

[Renee750il]

Well, you know how to get me if you need to unload some of it (((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))

 

[drmom777]

I am scared for you. It seems to me if your mom thinks you should get out of there you should take her word for it. I wish I could help you but I can't. Things are an unholy mess here, too, but for different reasons. Do you have to get through one more year before college?

 

[Jules]

And if you decide to come out to KC.... I'm here to help, too!


((((HUGS))))

 

[bubbatd]

Your Mom sounds like a wise lady wanting you out of the mix until she gets things settled .... I know that she'll want you " placed " with some one she knows and trusts , I would . Grammy's here if you need me or a spare room !

 

[PWCorgi]

My offer still stands.

My house is not the best place in the world, but if you need to get out now I can talk to my mom.

(((((HUGS))))))

 

[Sweet72947]

I'm sorry you're having a tough time.

I would certainly offer a room at my house, but you would undoubtedly at some point hear my dad's verbal abuse (directed at us not you), plus we have no fence for Middie.

 

[noludoru]

Thanks, Renee.. I'm probably going to take you up on that once I have things sorted out a bit more.. what he said was just.. appalling.

Your Mom sounds like a wise lady wanting you out of the mix until she gets things settled .... I know that she'll want you " placed " with some one she knows and trusts , I would .

Yep. That's really our only problem... finding a place I'm comfortable going to (I really don't want to go stay with any of my uncles) with someone she feels safe leaving me with for a bit.

Things aren't urgent now, but my parents are uncomfortable enough around each other and my dad has been drinking so steadily that I think when she talks to him about their marriage "uncomfortable" will be a thing of the past. I don't know if she's going to divorce him... but as it stands at the very least he's going to need to consent to moving out of this house and going to AA, I think. She wont push the point about him apologizing to me, not after today.

(((((hugs))))) to everyone here.... I know so many people have said it before, but you guys are the best. Really. Other than one or two friends, I think I have told you all more about my family problems than anyone, and I've received the most sympathy and love in return. It makes me feel so much more centered to know that you all care.