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I desperately loved Lucy. Like if I had wanted different things, I would have kept her. However, she went to the perfect home and they love her to death and she's everything they ever wanted.

It isn't easy, but I think you will kick yourself living with a dog that can't do the things you want.
Me too. :( Maybe she's just a rebound puppy. Who knows. Maybe I'm falling this hard for her because I miss Middie.

What about a mobility cart? It can help give enough support to allow for longer periods of comfortable exercise while still allowing her to use her legs and build even more strength.

The last thing I wanted in Nextdog was paralysis, then Rook needed an emergency foster home after I helped with the rescue of her and the other 34... and she just never left, because taking on such a high needs dog made us fall hard for each other.

But she is a young husky, so even though she isn't the agility prospect I wanted my next dog to be, she is still pretty active, and is getting a custom cart now that she's done growing so she can be even more active and become my jogging partner.
Yeah that would not fly while hiking. At all. Or running.

I agree with this 100%. Not so much if things happen and you can no longer do the things you want - every dog gets older - but to willingly take in a dog you already know is not the type of dog you want... well, YMMV, but I think it is a mistake.

Love helps but it doesn't override the disappointment of having a dog who isn't what you really want.
Yeah I think you two are right.

Chris pointed out that most of the reasons I love Star (smart, trainable, chill in public, snuggly) are traits that a puppy I get will have or can be trained to have. Hes not wrong. And I'm will be happier with a dog who can keep up with me, won't have pain issues, and isn't terrified of loud noises. A confident dog.

It doesn't help that as soon as I say publicly that I want to keep my foster dog, the breeder I'm talking to accepts my application and another one calls me to talk about the two available puppies she still has. And she'll be passing through my neck of the woods and could do a home visit within, oh, a week or two.

W. T. F.
 

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Yeah that would not fly while hiking. At all. Or running.
You definitely can't do technical hikes with them, but I'm not sure why running would be an issue if she's strong in the front and has the mental desire. I can't keep up with Rook when she gets going, and she has zero use of her body from the waist down.

That said, if you are in a position to bring home a new dog that is everything you want, I think you might be disappointed keeping her if there isn't something she offers that another dog can't. In my case, I had a future spot saved for a rescue dog like Rook, I just didn't plan on the timeline to be how it ended up. I will still get a sport prospect after Zoe is gone, so Rook didn't really change that part of my Nextdog plans. If I had to replace that Nextdog with Rook, I think I would have done things differently. Maybe.
 

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*sigh*

I reallyreallyreally like this tabby kitten. But I already said she could adopted by this really sweet couple. Dang it.

There is no shortage of kittens. There is no shortage of kittens. There is no shortage of kittens.
 
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Memorial day is a hard day for me. In fact, I got up feeling like crying and I know this little dark cloud will hang over me all day. Losing my battle buddies one after the other for years on end has really been hard, and to see people off "CELEBRATING memorial day" really gets to me. My family and I will be REMEMBERING Memorial Day by heading to the local veteran's cemetery and laying out flowers and cleaning up graves that look less cared for. Today isn't a day to celebrate. Today is a day to reflect, and I'm reflecting on way too many. I miss them all so much it hurts, every day, not just today.
 

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Nolu go with what your brain and heart tells you.

I brought home this little shih tzu puppy for the week from work. Sweet, adorable, cool little guy. Nothing phased him and he was a cuddly sweet jerk. No real plans on keeping him or even thinking about it, but giving him back was one of the hardest things I've had to do and I sat in the parking lot for 15 minutes sobbing and cuddling him. It's been two weeks and I've thought of him every day since, and it's going to haunt me the rest of my life. In my head I hope he's being awful and they bring him back, but I know they adore him and he's in a good home.

Never again am I going to bring home a pup for a week I like. Though if the cards are right I may add another pup next year, but that's not even being thought of right now.
 

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I feel like an author watching my characters get everything that they could ever want or need and I'm just sitting on the sidelines, losing.

I've run out of time to get anywhere.

Gosh that's cryptic, lol.
 
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I agree with this 100%. Not so much if things happen and you can no longer do the things you want - every dog gets older - but to willingly take in a dog you already know is not the type of dog you want... well, YMMV, but I think it is a mistake.

Love helps but it doesn't override the disappointment of having a dog who isn't what you really want.
I also agree with this, although your situation is a little different as you already are in absolute love with the dog, I wasn't in love with Chloe, nor did I think she would ever be the type of dog I would want. She was never supposed to be my dog, but things happened and she ended up with me anyway. Personally I think she improved behaviorally and in confidence with me more than she would have with the other people she was supposed to go to, and now I absolutely love her and she is my baby.

But I am also upset that she is not, and never will be, the dog I wanted for my next dog. So now I will be getting more dogs than I would prefer, in order to get a dog that can do the things I am wanting and planned to do, I will just have to wait longer than I originally planned (until I get a house since places to rent don't allow more than 2 dogs typically).

With that being said she does everything to please me and has come such a long way with her confidence, getting much better than I ever thought possible for her, so I am very proud of her for that and will continue to work her and see where she ends up.
 

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What's the point of adding vanilla flavor to a tube feeding formula if it completely changes the consistency of the formula and causes it to flow very poorly through a tube? When I started helping Lucky with his care after he got out of the hospital, the formula was unflavored and would drain out of a gravity bag in about 45 minutes. We ran out of that, and now this syrupy vanilla crap (same brand, isosource) takes about three hours to drain, sometimes more, for the same amount. His feed schedule is every four hours.

He's understandably getting cranky about spending at least three of every four hours tied to his IV pole, and I can't figure out why the hell flavoring for a TUBE FEEDING FORMULA even exists. Like seriously why? Nobody who ever uses that is going to taste it. lol
 

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the leave of absence I initiated to take care of lucky after he left the hospital was denied today.. I no longer have a job.
 

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I hope you know what you're doing RD, I worry about you!
I third this... I have been there, and it is not an easy place to be... Especially when you've got someone like me, and it's just the blind leading the blind. Anyways. I'm sorry that you lost your job on top of it :( *hugs* I hope that Lucky gets better quickly.

Brushnazzy... X20000. A tick crawled on my hand today. I am so over ticks. I keep forgetting to spray Roxie's f/t spray on her (Vayas off etsy, works amazingly when I actually use it lol) and just frickin yuck.

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It's not my place to suggest or presume, but perhaps having a home health person help with his care might be beneficial. Both in that you can take time for you (and work) and so he can get some distance and perhaps get help for whatever caused him to take that path. You did not cause his actions and I hope you aren't being guilted into thinking so.

That aside and on the subject at hand, they flavor all sorts of weird things. Is it a prescription? You may be able to ask the pharmacist or his doctor
if they have a different option.
 

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