The Venting Thread

It sucks, i went to Hawaii and it sucked SO bad. I miss pineapple but i don't miss the sores in my mouth. I miss ALL those fruits actually except bananas because meh.

One time, my boyfriend got us a room at this fancy schmancy hotel... They added on some sort of romance package to it which had chocolate covered strawberries waiting in the room. He felt SO bad.

While I've never claimed a specific allergy, I will certainly admit that I frequently turn down dinner/lunch invitations to places I don't know and will just say "I have a lot of allergies, so eating out is hard" if someone pushes. The real answer is that, along with plenty of mental food issues, I have some sort of sensitivity that makes me horribly sick after eating most restaurant food. It's usually easier to just say "allergies" than "Sorry, if I join you for lunch, I'm going to be in the bathroom all afternoon and that's frowned upon at work". Socially, just saying allergy is easy. I'm not really sure how it affects "legitimate" allergies; if someone says allergy to me, I am going to just take their word for it. If they just don't like that food...well, whatever. I'll never know the difference.

It is good to know that restaurants take it that seriously, though. I can barely stand to eat out just knowing the food might make me sick if it has something in it my body doesn't like; I can't imagine how scary it is for people who are literally in a life or death situation.

It wouldn't shock me at all. My mother is "carry an epi-pen" allergic to paprika.

I hate when people say that... I'm extremly allergic to peaches - as in I have an Epipen with me because of it (peaches linger in alot of this ) and alot of people don't actually believe me. Only those who witnessed one of my reactions

I'm also allergic to apples, pears, apricots, tomatoes and carrots during allergy season since I have cross allergies. Aparently anything where the allergens are similar to birch allergens I break out. But only during spring time. Try explaining that one people. I've had so many people say to me: "Uhuh, so now all of a sudden you can't eat carrots - but I just saw you last month, I don't believe you"

I've had a hairdresser use shampoo with birch essence in it on my head That was fun... not.

I also try to avoid anything with aromas in them - I wouldn't say I'm allergic, but I do get horrible stumachaches

We had a lady come into my store and ask to see the list of ingredients in our chicken seasoning because she "was allergic to one of the ingredients"

She couldn't tell us which one she was allergic to, she had to see the list. Then pointed to silicon dioxide...which is essentially sand. The fact that she didn't know what she was allergic to struck me as odd. I mean, if you wanted a chicken without seasoning, just ask and be prepared to wait around while I cook it



As for my own allergies, I was told by a doctor that they were anxiety/stress related oral allergies. I'd never even heard of such a thing, but it seems to make sense. Certain fruits such as melons will make my throat very itchy sometimes but I can eat them totally fine other times. It's really odd.

One of my best friends is allergic to pineapple!

Try working in a hospital and having people list both meds and food as allergies and then later try to deny it when they can't eat a single thing on the menu but a bland piece of chicken or have one or two meds.

I had a coconut allergy when I was younger. I would break out all over in huge hives but liked the taste so would sneak it anyway! Mom never told my grandma so she was watching me once and it happened and she flipped out so I didn't eat it again till I was probably mid teens and no longer had a reaction.

Ugh, my feet/legs have been killing me, and I don't understand why.

It's always the TOP of my feet and toes, and shin, calves, and thigh. And it's never both legs/feet at once, it's always one or the other. Just a dull, aching pain that makes it so hard to sleep at night. It comes and goes, but always at night. Some nights it comes after hard exercise, some nights it comes after I spent the day lounging about inside.

I thought maybe peripheral neuropathy, but everything I see describes that as more of a numbness and a sharp pain, and mine is more of an ache. It's also one foot at a time, not both feet simultaneously.

Arthritis? Peripheral artery disease? Ugh. So many bad possibilities. No time to go to the doctor right now.

I am allergic to red dye 40 in large quantities - I don't usually list it as an allergy since it takes 3 cherry popsicles worth of dye to make me react, but yea, hives suck and red dye is in everything!

Picklepaige, try taking a supplement with magnesium and see if that helps - even a multivitamin might be enough. I've heard of night time leg cramps improving with it and it's an easy thing to try.

My husband had horrible leg aches and cramps and was deficient in a vitamin but can't remember what one it was? His neuro put him on a regimen of stuff to take which he still doesn't and still had them and he complains to this day. When I get back to the house later I will look and see if they are in the med cabinet. Want to say he told him a multivitamin and high dose of vitamin D but don't quote me on that yet. I know juice/ banana helped mine when they were bad.

Which by the way I locked us out this am. Good thing I had the barn till my mom can come get us!

Just out of curiosity, is the 3 cherry popsicles how you found out?

I've wondered about the eye because cherry starburst make my cheeks feel hot and red. But I in general don't eat sugary candy. I am a choclate eater.

C, D, and a multi vitamin is what he has. But he had to take a rx vitamin d for a while and have a blood test occasionally. He is ways in the sun to so he just tends to run deficient.

My car's windshield got smashed and part of the frame got dented while parked harmlessly at a suburban house. Stupid trees. And my insurance doesn't cover a rental for non-warranty repairs. No car until Wednesday and that when I leave on a business trip.

It's a giant cluster poop

LOL yea. 3 or 4 cherry popsicles one day during summer when I was like a freshman. Broke out in palm sized hives. Got an antihistamine (stronger than benedryl since benedryl did nothing but make me tired), took it for like 3-5 days, then the next cherry popsicle I had, BOOM, hives again. >.< I stopped all RD40 for about a year and gradually added it back in, but the allergy came back after halloween candy iirc. Hasn't been back since thankfully, now that I know what to watch for.

I hate adulting.

I was just looking at my student loans and have enough money saved up to completely pay them off. Right now.

But that is the money I'm intending as a down payment on a house.

It's frustrating because I have a lot of money tied up each month into paying for these loans, which therefore really limits how much I can afford as a house payment. But obviously if I pay off my loans, I don't have the money to move out. Long-term it of course would be smartest to dump these stupid loans, and then just continue saving for another year or 2. But I sooo need to move.

Instead I'm trying to come up with the next best solution, which is to put all the money I can towards paying off the ones with the highest interest rate first. I wish I had been doing that this whole time, I have like 6 loans that I just consolidated into one monthly payment, so a small amount each month goes to each loan... I never really paid aattention to it and didn't know I could specify that the money go to a certain loan.

Do I need a shirt or a sign or something to let runners know that it's okay to say "runner on your left" or "runner on your right" when they come up behind us?

I mean, especially on SUPER skinny parts of the trail, I'd like some warning so I can grab my dog up and move ourselves to the side so she doesn't get spooked.

Or, y'know, I suppose they just wanna get elbowed in the gut. Because that's always fun when you're running, right?

the only thing worse than that is people on bikes :wall:

I'm legally an adult. And... I don't want to adult.

So I've been upset about this all afternoon.

Early this afternoon my mom came home and said they were running to the hardware store, did I need anything or need to go. I said I was just looking at shelving units for my garage so I would go. I said I thought it was a nice day and since my dad was busy working at my grandma's house, I would clean out my garage.

My dad said "Don't clean your garage, I won't be able to find anything."

Excuse me?
"It's my garage," I said, and he cut me off before I could continue saying that *I* currently can't find anything in it and said "yeah but all MY tools are in it. And I just found such-and-such which I've been looking for since you cleaned up so you could put up your Christmas tree."

I told my mom I wasn't going to the hardware store after all, came back inside, put Payton's harness on and we went for a hike in the woods for about three hours. Three hours in the woods later and I was still angry and upset. And now it's 9:30 and I'm still angry and upset.

I bought the house so I would have my OWN house and my OWN space so nobody could tell me what to do. I am ****ing thirty years old but I try to respect that I am living in their house so I try to obey their rules. But that house is MINE. I do NOT appreciate anybody telling me what I can or cannot do with MY HOUSE.

I appreciate that my dad has been spending a lot of hours helping me fix it up. But I also know he keeps doing things that I did NOT ask for. I did not ask him to take the water heater out and repair the floor underneath it. I did not ask him to put the water heater in the garage where it then broke because my garage is completely unconditioned and it froze and the bottom fell off. I HAVE asked for the new water heater to be installed - FOR MONTHS I have been asking for the new water heater to be installed. One day I specifically announced "we should install the water heater today!" and he said he didn't feel like it, and I said "but today I'm here to help you do it" and he said "I don't need help doing it." MONTHS ago this was.

That's just one example. Over and over again he keeps announcing to me he did this, that, and the other thing - none of which I have asked him to do. He bought beadboard and installed it above my cabinets, which I honest to God do appreciate but I told him specifically "I said I wanted to do that EVENTUALLY" and more than once I told him "I don't want to do this now, I want to get the water heater installed so I can move into my house." And he still went out, bought the beadboard, and installed it anyway. I helped him get the oven ready to install. He told me he thought we should do the backsplash first before I moved in and started cooking "and getting food splattered all over the wall." This was completely negated by the fact that we had to clean and sand down the wall ANYWAY before we tiled, but I tried to be a good sport about it. I went out THAT DAY and bought the tile, the mortar, grout, tile spacers. He said he already had caulk so I didn't buy any of that. We did that last weekend so I thought okay, THIS week we will be able to get the oven in place and THEN get the water heater installed!!
No. Still not done.

And now this.

I am so frustrated, it has been almost two and a half years since I bought that house and I have not spent one single night sleeping in MY HOME that I have been shoveling every single spare penny into, and he keeps coming up with more things that need to "be done" before I can move into it and I keep saying "I don't want to do this now, I want to do the essentials and move into my house" and IT'S NOT GETTING THROUGH.


I feel so disrespected and I am tired of being disrespected. Almost everything I DO want to do on my house is an argument. We had an argument about the kitchen floor, an argument about the bathroom floor, an argument about the counter top, EVERYTHING is an argument and ****ing dammit I thought I bought MY OWN HOUSE all by myself and NOBODY could tell me what I could or couldn't do. And it continues to be an argument. I can't clean up the living room so I can make a space to put up my Christmas tree? I can't clean out MY GARAGE so I can get to MY STUFF in my garage?

At this point I want to tell him "If it is a problem for me to do what I want in MY house because of your concern about your tools, take all of your tools out of my house, I am moving in tomorrow, and I will figure it out on my own." I have no kitchen sink. The oven is still not in place. And of course no water heater. My gym is right down the street so I am honestly thinking I will just go to the gym every night and work out there and then use their showers for the hot water. I will use disposable dish wear, a microwave to cook all of my food, or set up my little George Foreman grill, or boil water in my electric teakettle, or **** it I will eat out. I will hire somebody to help me and I will spend every last spare cent I own to have it done and have it done now. Because if I call a plumber to put my water heater in he will just come do it and not tell me he just ordered some tip-outs to put on the sink base cabinet today.


I just don't know how not to be upset about this. Maybe I am just overreacting because TWO AND A HALF YEARS and I still don't live in my home. But I think maybe I am allowed to overreact a little at this point.

I can see how that would be very frustrating. I would feel very similar. Is it a subconscious (or perhaps not so much) issue on his part of not actually wanting you to move out? I have a coworker whose father did something similar when she was looking to move out. She did eventually just find a place (she rents) and move. He does still just pop into her house without asking though..

Probably more financially taxing, but it may just work best to move in and have someone come install the water heater when you're able to