All of you ladies with gentlemen in your lives like that, you just need to know how blessed you are. Maybe some of you know that already, but you really are and I'm really glad for you.
Stories like that used to make me all bitter and depressed. My ex, despite being repeatedly told the same thing by counselors, despite being repeatedly asked by me for comfort vs. problem solving, almost always chose to do the opposite. Towards the end instead of problem solving, he'd berate me until I cried or shout me down.
"You're stressed out because you let the house get so dirty. You should clean it for once!"
"I'm not going to hold your hand. You're hormonal and that's enabling bad behavior!"
"I know you're not reading your scriptures and praying enough, because if you were you wouldn't be feeling like this. Next time come ask me for a hug
after you've taken care of your responsibilities."
"You don't deserve a hug."
So if your partner is awesome, listens to you, and cherishes you, cherish them. I'm never going to have that, which at this point is by choice. Twice burned, I'm never going to risk it happening again. Especially since I have two kids to care for and can't risk their safety.