The thing is, you're DOING something, paying attention. I don't care how wild a kid is as long as the parent(s) is/are aware and making an effort, especially if it's something intelligent like redirecting and working with the child.
But I totally understand when it's all too much and the dreaded TRIP TO THE CAR happens
We couldn't go out to restaurants until my sister was well over four. She'd come unglued. Temper tantrums -- full on screaming, purple-faced, flailing, hitting . . . real beauts. At least she timed it before we'd order, lol.