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#21
07-07-2006, 10:03 PM
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I have never agreed with how you were (and probably still are) treated. Someone with as much knowledge as you has sooo much to offer the board (*thinking back when Dr helped Buddy parents with some stuff*  ) and I am so very glad that you decided to stay!
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#22
07-07-2006, 10:08 PM
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And theres no real way of being able to guess how a persons situation at the moment might color how they read your words... We cannot control that... The only thing we can do is examine the intent of our words, and consider how we might feel in that situation... Often times prefacing something you know might sound harsh (in a way you dont mean it to) that you cannot figure out how to reword with something like "I know this is going to sound harsh, and I dont mean it to..." and then perhaps explaining after the advice where *you* are coming from "the reason i feel so strongly is that I once had a...." Kind of like a father having to punish a child for doing something that was wrong. You can still be what you need to be, but wrap it in a little love. Was it marry poppins? "a spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down" 
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#23
07-07-2006, 10:17 PM
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| I had to take a deep breath before even hitting the reply button on this thread. I think that it's so hard sometimes to convey things that you're passionate about without reading the faces of the people you're talking with. In my "in person" life, I'm not exactly known for being pushy or b!thcy...but on here I think it's hard to read people at times. I really wanted to leave Chaz early on because I just felt UGLY in the way I responded to the criticism...now I just don't reply when I know I'm starting to feel the "OH YA, IT'S ON" persona coming on...  I do think that you make some great points. I read a thread the other day and while I felt the frustration and sadness for the pup for whom the thread originated, I was shocked at the level of attacks thrown at the OP and how quickly they progressed. Passion can bring out some "off the hip" kind of comments that really don't solve anything at all. After reading a few level headed helpful responses, I moved to another thread without responding..
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#24
07-07-2006, 10:20 PM
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You were very good to me during that time and I won't forget it.
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#25
07-07-2006, 10:25 PM
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And yea... sometimes silence can be much more helpful than noise... It's hard to find the answers which are helpful to your question about potty training when people are arguing about whether a dog can feel guilty or not
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#26
07-07-2006, 10:27 PM
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| I know what you mean dr2little, sometimes you just feel that "oh no you didn't *waves finger*" attitude! LMAO I'm a hothead in real life too, I find it harder to be that way here though, it's too much typing and I don't get to yell to release, so I usually stay calm! LOL There are some hot topics that seem to get brought up a lot that are in the "personal" category that are debated about a lot. I've gotten involved a few times, but it just goes round and round until your back at the beginning again. I think the main thing, is to not hold a grudge. Not to name any names but I will just because I know she's thickskinned , I know at one time I felt Red was very blunt maybe even borderline rude. But being the thickskinned person myself, I looked beyond that and found a great online trainer/helper! LOL.If you hold grudges you lose out on valuable information. It's best to patch things up and leave it behind you. |
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#27
07-07-2006, 10:45 PM
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Seriously though, while I don't tend to be hot headed in real life, I too have hit reply and thought.."uuugghhh, why'd I do that"..I think we all have. I really do enjoy Chaz, I wouldn't be here so much if I didn't....well that and the fact I have no life..heheheh
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07-07-2006, 10:48 PM
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#29
07-07-2006, 10:48 PM
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| I think people just need to stop, count to 10 and THEN post! I've been guilty of being rude myself and have since dropped that habit. I've learned that sometimes people just don't know any better and that's why they have come to Chaz... to learn.. so that they WILL know better. |
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#30
07-07-2006, 10:51 PM
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Maybe sometimes?? I need to get me a bullet, yup a bullet..that's what I need.
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