What would you have done?

[GipsyQueen]

What would you have done if your Ex that you broke up with 8 months ago called you about 15 times on your home phone between 1:30 and 2:30 in the morning, because he is drunk and walking home from 2 towns over and it is raining. (You'd walk about 2 hours.)
I woke up extremly confused to two text messages and 6 unanswered calles on my cellphone as well as 2 messages on my answering machine around 2 in the morning. I took him out of the phone book, but I remember his number by looking at it. -.- One text message said: Im walking home, completly drunk from xxx town to home town. You don't by any chance want to come get me? Love you. (1:36am)
The next text said shortly before I woke up:
"Wow, at least now I know that I don't mean anything to you anymore and that I am extremly dumm for driving you home half a mile at very different time in the night. I still love you though. And I hate myself for that. (1:56am)

Well, not only was I extremly tired, but I was totally pissed, that he blamed me for not getting him, my EX at 2am.?!? He has no right to be mad at me. (IMO) On top of that, he never drove me home after about 1:30 in the morning, maybe once but that was because I had to catch a flight in the morning so that I had to go home. Other than that I'd just sleep over, and then take my bike home.
Anyways, after I woke up, I got dressed but then I was just pissed, because he kept texting me, that he was now mad at me? wtf. Anyways, so I got back into my PJs and decided against getting him - even though I was up. And I felt sorta bad, but I don't have any need to get him at 2am. We seldon talk.
On top of that I have just enough gas left to get to and from work today and then get gas monday morning, because its cheeper then. If I had gotten him, I'd have to get gas on my way to work. On sundays its about 0,05€ more expensive -.-
Anyways he continued to call me about 10 times, I just put my cell on silent and my home phone on silent. But my answering machine kept getting it. I didt want him to know I was up, so I didnt turn it off.

I feel bad though. What would you have done? Would you have gone out and gotten him?

Sorry long rant ^^

[Liza]

Ugh how horrible of him to wake you up that late and then accuse you of never loving him? You're broken up, it's not like you're close now. If I were in your shoes it would really depend on the terms of the breakup. If it was a messy breakup I wouldn't have gotten him. But if things just kind of fell apart mutually and there wasn't a huge fight etc., I probably would have done it.

[Gustav]

I certainly wouldn't have gone to get him..

He made a concious choice to go out 2 towns away and get steaming drunk without having a plan as to how he was going to get home, maybe he should have drunk less and then he would have had the money for a taxi!

You're not with him anymore, therefore he's not your responsiblility.. It's not like you've even stayed close with one another, you said that you seldom talk..

Even if he WAS my boyfriend I wouldn't have gone to get him.. What a cheek, go out, get yourself into an alcoholic state with no means of getting home, and then expect someone to get OUT of bed and sort out a mess of your own making? No way!

You did the right thing girl! I'd wait until he was sober and then give him a piece of your mind.. How DARE he be mad with you.. *Mutters about bloody men*

[GipsyQueen]

We broke up pretty mutaly, we had out issues. He'd blame me ALL THE TIME for something. Or I do everthing wrong. He called me again around 9:30 (wtf, how can he be up?) Asking me to drive him to go get his car where he left it. I told him, no and gave him a piece of my mind. 1) because if he really drank as much as I asume he did last night, he's still got alchohol in his system, and I have a HUGE problem with people who drink and drive. (my cousin was killed by a drunk driver, and he knows it.) and 2. Why should I? His best friend lives right across the street from him and not across town like me.
PLUS I still dont have gas -.-

On top of it all - I just remember theres a night time bus that drives through town every hour that he could have taken.

[ACooper]

Nope, I wouldn't have climbed out of bed to go out in the rain and get him. I don't care how nice the break up went...........shoot, I *might* not go and get him if we were STILL dating! hahahahaha

When people want to be stupid, let them be stupid...........you shouldn't feel guilty for not cleaning up after them. Not your duty to pick him up, not your duty to call another friend for him, and not your duty to know the bus schedule for him.

[Doberluv]

Originally Posted by Gustav

I certainly wouldn't have gone to get him..

He made a concious choice to go out 2 towns away and get steaming drunk without having a plan as to how he was going to get home, maybe he should have drunk less and then he would have had the money for a taxi!

You're not with him anymore, therefore he's not your responsiblility.. It's not like you've even stayed close with one another, you said that you seldom talk..

Even if he WAS my boyfriend I wouldn't have gone to get him.. What a cheek, go out, get yourself into an alcoholic state with no means of getting home, and then expect someone to get OUT of bed and sort out a mess of your own making? No way!

You did the right thing girl! I'd wait until he was sober and then give him a piece of your mind.. How DARE he be mad with you.. *Mutters about bloody men*

I agree 100%. You are finished with him. He needs to leave you alone. That is stalking behavior, drunk or not drunk. You better warn him if he ever does something like that again, you'll call the police. That would freak me out....that many phone calls. Unreal. I hope he never bothers you again.

[Doberluv]

Oh...what would I have done?

I might have told him, "It's the middle of the night. I'm in bed with my husband. Where are you? I'll send the police to pick you up. Don't bother us again."

[-bogart-]

I would have called his drunk butt back and been a total bitch about it.

seriously I can here myself saying

"HAHAHAHAHAHAH You dum f*&( , watch out for the puddles and have a good long stroll , and if you keep calling I WILL SEND the police to give you a ride. Quit calling and happy sloshing"

then turned off all ringers and had happy dreams.

I mean seriously , ya'll are broken up and you owe him nothing , dont feel guilty at all.

[FoxyWench]

i agree with the others...

had my bf done this WHILE we were dating i wouldnt have gne to pick his sorry butt home...if you want to go out drinking you PRE arrange for a designated driver, get a cab or take the buss...plain and simple...
i have no patients for people who go out and drink then EXPECT folks to just get out of bed and come rescue their butts...
an emergency is one thing...but 2am, 2 towns over people live closer to his home...hell no im not going to get his sorry butt...

as an ex...then its an absoluite no...
thats one cheeky bugger to thing he can call you like that...THEN think he has rights to get mad at you for not rescuing him?!
oh there would be hell to pay just for waking me up at that time of night! not to mention the cost of all those texts

[OutlineACDs]

I might have gone and got him. If I was low on gas and he offered gas money I would have gone.

The reason being, even if we were broken up and I didn't like the guy, he STILL made a descision NOT to drink and drive but to call someone he knew for a ride. Everyone goes out and makes descisions that aren't good (drinking too much, etc) and even in an inebrieated state, he would have made the good descision to realize he shouldn't drive and called someone.

I would have told him not to make it a habit, and someone else would have to take him to his car the next day.

We don't have public transportation where I live.