Friends?

[4dogs3cats]

Interesting.

You all know about the terrible break up I had, followed by the hospitalized breakup I had. (him not me.)

I'm not used to good breakups to say the least lol.

Well about 2 or 3 weeks ago, Matt, the EMT and I decided to just be friends. He decided more than I did, that he wasn't looking for anything serious. But he said, a couple times actually, he wanted to still hang out because he liked hanging out with me.

So I invited him over last night to see the new house and we hung out for about 45 minutes.

Aside from Chance JUMPING into his face on accident when he was bending down and essentially giving him a black eye, it really went well!

I've never done the "back to friends" thing before, so I didn't know if I could handle it. But I was proud of myself. He just really is a really nice guy and hes super funny, so I knew that I'd rather have him as a friend than nothing at all.

Go me!

[HayleyMarie]

aww that is fantastic! Good for you that you are trying out the friends thing and it is working out for you!!

[bubbatd]

Glad that you had him over !!! Sounds like a very good friend !

[4dogs3cats]

Originally Posted by HayleyMarie

aww that is fantastic! Good for you that you are trying out the friends thing and it is working out for you!!

Thanks!

Originally Posted by bubbatd

Glad that you had him over !!! Sounds like a very good friend !

Me too! I felt terrible when Chance jumped into him! I heard the smack, it was pretty loud. All I could do was laugh, and then ask him if he was okay, and then ask him if he wanted ice. Pfft, hes an EMT he can handle it!

[zoe08]

That's great that you can be friends.

Are you stilling talking to the musician?

[4dogs3cats]

Originally Posted by zoe08

That's great that you can be friends.

Are you stilling talking to the musician?

Yeah, we are. he says he's falling for me. he says he can't wait to see me.

We talk a lot, but there is no point in starting anything when we only had a week before he moved.

The way I see it, if it's meant to be with him, it'll happen. He still wants to come here, and I would be fine with that.

I just don't want the beginning of a relationship to be spent away from him. That's the fun part, where you get to know each other completely. And how fun would that be long distance? I have done long distance before, and I CAN do it, but I just don't want a relationship to START out long distance.

I went on a date the other night and the guy was really sweet and we talk non stop and he paid for dinner, and the movie, and opened the car door and everything.

I'm just kind of taking things a day at a time. Aren't you guys glad you got to see me in my obsessive ZOMGINEEDABOYFRIENDLIKEOMGRIGHTNOW! phase?

I've chilled a lot more. Figure, when it's mean to happen, it will.

In the meantime, I've got my sister in laws baby shower on Saturday that I organized, and the new house to work on, and great friends.

If I had a boyfriend right now, I wouldn't see my sister in law as much, and I have got to experience so much! I got to feel the baby kick the other day!

So yeah, it's back to normal Jenn! At least for now!

[tessa_s212]

I'm glad you are friends! I've always thought the friend thing after a relationship would be really weird. Never experienced anything like it, not even the break up part.

And good for you for settling down and waiting for the right guy to come. I think the more time people spend looking for Mr. Right, the more they might just miss him, kwim?

[4dogs3cats]

Originally Posted by tessa_s212

I'm glad you are friends! I've always thought the friend thing after a relationship would be really weird. Never experienced anything like it, not even the break up part.

And good for you for settling down and waiting for the right guy to come. I think the more time people spend looking for Mr. Right, the more they might just miss him, kwim?

My dad told me the other day, "You cant shop for a boyfriend like you shop for a big screen tv."

The other day I was at a family party and it turned into- "Bash jenn, her past relationship choices, online dating in general, and joke that she will never get married and be alone the rest of her life."

So I stopped them all, halfway to tears and I said, "Do you guys EVER think that sitting around with all of you so happy and married and having babies, and talking about how crappy I am at picking guys, ever think that makes me WANT to find someone worth your approval?!"

My aunts friend was there and she came and checked on me when I walked away (just to get my jacket) and said they were being pretty brutal and not letting up. I overheard my mom tell her, "Shes always been so sensitive but she really has developed a thick shell when it comes to getting teased about this. We just want her to be happy."

I think that seeing my brother and my cousin both get married (not to each other lol) in the span of 3 weeks, then my sister in law got pregnant, I think I went on this quest to find love.

but you DONT find love, love finds you.

I'm still not against meeting a guy online, but I'm not gonna force anything

[tessa_s212]

That's got to be hard. I always feel so badly for my sister. I know she feels the same way about me that you do about your brother and cousin. It's hard when you want love and everyone else but you seems to have it. I always try to not talk about how great my relationship is when I'm around people I know are having a hard time.

Sorry your friends and family aren't being helpful.. rubbing it it doesn't help you at all.

[Gustav]

I have stayed friends with a couple of my ex's.. It can be a bit awkward at times especially if you have shared alot or lived together, it's worse when one of you finds someone new and the other doesn't and you feel bad about telling them what's going on in your life because you don't want to rub in the fact that you have someone else and they don't.. Others I haven't necessarily fallen out with, we've just lost contact, life goes on and you just go on your merry way until you suddenly think.. "Geeze it's been 3 years since I last spoke to.... Joe bloggs.." And then you feel like you shouldn't contact them now, because you haven't in sooo long, so you just leave it.. There's no animosity, you just don't talk any more..

I think it's always healthy to leave any relationship as friends even if you have no intention of ever contacting them again.. If it's at all possible that is.