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Old 06-13-2006, 01:40 PM
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Well I think you should realize first and foremost that,as you said, your family has been taking up the job of helping with the dog so this isn't something that YOU have to deal with on your own. You need to come to term with the fact that it is not something that you will be taking care of by yourself 100% of the time. Now that doesn't mean it is time to rely on the kids for everything because, well, kids are kids and they aren't going to be on the ball all the time. You are not going to have to go through this alone and once he finds a place in your heart you will completely forget about this panic you are going through now.
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Old 06-13-2006, 02:09 PM
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Thank you for that - I think you have it spot on. I have just talked to my kids about it all and explained to them how I have been feeling. I have reassured them that I won't be taking him back and that I will learn to fit him into our lives. They have done their very bet to understand (in fact the eldest two actually do) and have told me to try to think of him as THEIR dog not mine so that maybe I won't feel quite so overwhelmed by it all (if only I had half their sense eh?)
I feel better for talking to them about it now and they have promised that if I'm really knackered sometimes at the weekend they will make sure they play with him so I can stay in bed for an hour. Fingers crossed that we have reached the bottom now and are starting the climb up the other side!!
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Old 06-13-2006, 02:14 PM
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Just read the posts from Bailey + Raplh and Momof7 - thank you both and I will certainly try the tips you have suggested.
I am overwhelmed by all the support I have been given by all of you people who I have never met and most of whom are on the other side of the world.
Momof7 I sympathise with your depression and feel for you having to give up your meds when you feel that you could probably still do with them. Have you tried St Johns Wort (get in health food stores) it s supposed to be 'natures prozac'.
I will keep you all updated on my progress and hopefully you are all proud of the help you have given me so far- I am soooo grateful
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Old 06-13-2006, 02:49 PM
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you'll do fine, and hell, just kinda thought of this, maybe the problem was in the fact that you were so upset that your kids would be upset if you had to take him back if things didn't work out that somewhere in the back of your mind that emotional turbulance triggered the panic. Now that you have set things straight and you and the kids are on the same page maybe you'll see better days!!!! Depresion is a bitch, but so is missing out on all the fun times you and your family will have with your new loved one. GOOD LUCK!!!!
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Old 06-13-2006, 03:20 PM
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I am so glad that you are starting to feel a little better about things

Stick around on the boards and have some fun with us lot now
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Old 06-13-2006, 04:04 PM
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Thanks guys -
Rogan went outside to pee and poo tonight and is now in his crate - not sleeping but quite content so I'm off to get some sleep!!!
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Old 06-13-2006, 05:31 PM
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Lyn - Hi!

You are NOT ALONE.

When I first got Bodhi, who I was well prepared for I cried and cried!

I was SO stressed, I thought I had made a mistake. I thought, maybe, I picked the wrong puppy!!!

That made me not only feel sad but GUILTY.

You can search on here for my puppy stress threads! If they still exist...

Bodhi is now 9 months old. And I couldn't have asked for a better dog.

They get BETTER week by week. It takes awhile for you to bond with your puppy, and a while to get to understand there routines, their body language and habits - but you DO learn.

I PROMISE you will feel different eventually - he will become part of the family before you know it.

My only advice is PATIENCE. Never scold or shout.

However STRESSED!! I got, I never shouted or looked threatening, and what I put in, I have reaped the rewards!!

If you ever need to vent - feel free - been there, done that
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Old 06-13-2006, 05:37 PM
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Glad things are better !!! Now enjoy this forum with fun posts !!! Go Doodle !!
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Old 06-13-2006, 09:26 PM
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Lyn I can truly see the day coming when you post a message here about the great day you and your family had with the puppy. These sweet creatures have a way of getting into your heart and being a wonderful source of comfort. Although not as bad or as long as you have suffered with depression I did battle that demon myself after the loss of my husband. With the combination of meds for a short term and the fantastic snuggling with my furpals as well as learning again to enjoy a laugh at their antics helped bring me back and wanting to enjoy each day. Although I am no longer on meds there are still days when I get low and believe me Farley & Chloe have been an invaluable source of comfort at those times. Dogs can be very in tune with us and in a way be a form of therapy. I can envision this pup, who seems to be the trigger of your anxiety now, becoming your source of comfort and peace in the future. Warm noses, soft fur and the unselfish love of a dog for us can do wonders.
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Old 06-14-2006, 06:28 AM
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Day 3 and things are no better, have spoken with my doctor and it appears that getting Rogan has just triggered something that has set off an episode of depression/anxiety. She is referring me for some counselling. Talked to my friend who said that it would be pointless sending pup back because things will never be the same as they were before - I would still have to deal with all of the feelings that this has triggered and add to that the guilt I would have about the kids. I guess there is an inevitability about how I am feeling - maybe if it hadn't been the dog it would have been something else. There appears to be no way back and I just have to work through it now but I still can't stop crying......
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