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Old 06-09-2014, 10:38 AM
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This is interesting. I never really thought about it.

My husband works 7-4 and I work 9-5, so I don't see much of him in the mornings. He's home when I get home and we'll spend time together cooking, doing an activity or just lounging on the same couch while he plays video games and I browse the internet on my laptop. I'm out for a few hours Tuesday nights at agility classes and my husband claims that he gets bored and lonely without me around. However, it's just one day a week so as far as I'm concerned he can cope. I normally walk the dogs on my own and that can be for 30-60+ minutes each evening. We go to bed together each night.

Weekends are whatever. We normally shop, play and see friends together. It's an unusual weekend when he goes off to see friends without me. A couple weekends a month I'll go off on my own to attend a trial or demo for one day out of the weekend. I used to be away doing demos almost every long weekend but my husband wasn't happy with us being unable to go out of town for them so now I try to keep it to a minimum.

I consider us both laid back and independent. But then I think about how we almost literally never run errands without the other and I think it's kind of excessive. But we've been best friends for over a decade and we enjoy each other's company. I think my husband could use a few more local friends and some more hobbies that keep him busy when I'm not around, but to date it's been fine.
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Old 06-09-2014, 10:47 AM
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I don't really know. We live together... And we are around each other a lot. But how much of that time we are directly interacting, I don't know. On and off I suppose!! We live in a pretty isolated place, so it's not like we can just nip out and see friends or go places, so that makes us spend more time together!! We like each other's company so it's no big deal. We did spend 2 years only seeing each other once a fortnight though.
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Old 06-09-2014, 11:21 AM
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Um pretty much all the time. We never tire of each other's company. We've been together for three years...the honeymoon period never ended :P

We have our own friends who we do things with, we have no problem doing things without each other, but we are always ready to see each other again. When he has a couple of days off in a row, we will normally spend that time doing everything together, and we never get tired of it Which really says something about him, because I am SO not a people person, and always wanted to be alone before I met him. We have the same interests, make each other laugh, and love each other dearly.

So yeah, we are totally that super sappy, madly-in-love couple that everyone hates, but it works for us
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Old 06-09-2014, 11:30 AM
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Josh and I started our relationship seeing each other only on weekends - and sometimes it'd be once every 2 weekends.

Last year we lived together and he most often worked 9-5, and I was all over the map, but we'd usually hang out for a good 3-4 hours each day and more on weekends.

Now, I am living in his hometown for the summer. I have no job at the moment, but I am taking classes online and have a lot of weekend commitments. He's working 8 hour shifts that switch each week Days-Nights-Afternoons.

On day shift I typically see him the most because he's on my schedule. I get up early and I go to bed early. So I see him off to work and we're usually in bed at the same time. So we get 4pm-10pm usually.

On nights, I see him quite a bit too because he comes home when I get up.

Afternoon shift is what kills me, and is also this week. I've been up since 7, he will be in bed for at least another half an hour. Then he gets home around 11 - sometimes goes to the bar after because he knows I'm ready for bed. And then he'll wander into bed around 3-4am.
The only good thing about afternoons is that I can actually get some cleaning done once he's gone
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Old 06-09-2014, 02:18 PM
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Sometimes I think about how much time the average person spends with their SO or spouse.

Josh and I generally spend 2-3 hours together at night before he leaves for work. Occasionally we will have a little longer, but unfortunately this is average. I have one day off a week while he has between 2-4 days off every other week.

He's on a 4 day weekend. We spent ALL DAY together yesterday, including the night before and last night (and he's got tonight and tomorrow night off). IT WAS/IS AMAZING. And then I got sad because I realized most people probably don't cherish that time together because they get it all the time. And partly jealous because time together.

I'm rambling. So, how much time do you spend with your SO/DH on a normal week?
I am in the cherish all the time club...

I work 9a-6p and DH works 3p-11p an hour away. I stay up and wait for him to get home and we go to bed together - usually only up for about 30 min to chat every night. We spend about 15-20 min together in the morning before I go to work. That's it for the week. I have every evening all alone and I just moved to the area so it's generally just me and a dog (or two or three) hanging out/going to agility/walks etc. It's a big bummer for me actually (we're just newly wed). Then on weekends we usually stay up really late after he gets home on Friday night and have pizza/watch a movie/have some wine etc. Saturday is usually an "us" day. And then Sunday is IPO club day so we are gone from 7am until about 2-3pm and then have the evening to hang out, which usually incorporates a nap. We don't really get a ton of awake hang out time. Which is a pity because we have the same hobbies. Especially aggravating right now as I try to get Kastle ready for IPO trialing and my training director/president of my IPO club/husband can't train with me...
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Old 06-09-2014, 02:26 PM
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I don't really know. We live together... And we are around each other a lot. But how much of that time we are directly interacting, I don't know. On and off I suppose!! We live in a pretty isolated place, so it's not like we can just nip out and see friends or go places, so that makes us spend more time together!! We like each other's company so it's no big deal. We did spend 2 years only seeing each other once a fortnight though.
Directly interacting? that might be a different story lol. I mean we do spend a lot of time watching shows we both enjoy together... we like a lot of the same shows but then sometimes he wants to play his game on the computer while I watch one of my "smutty" shows LOL... that's what Brian always says. "I'm going to play on the computer... enjoy your smut" but our house is very small so we are always in view of each other unless one of us is in the bathroom and then sometimes even then There is no "getting away" from each other in this house. we always go to bed together unless it's his maintenance night at work in which case he doesn't get home until WAY late and I'm already in bed lol. Regular days though we go to bed together. He has to get up really early so if I'm not ready to actually sleep yet then it's a perfect time to read whatever book I'm working on at the moment

He always apologizes for going to bed early and says I don't have to if I'm not tired and I always say "are you kidding? this is the only time I get to read" lol
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Old 06-09-2014, 02:32 PM
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Not enough. I am so envious of those of you that live with your partners, even if you feel you don't see them enough.

We live a little over two hours apart now, and he works an outdoorsy job with 0 days off - unless it's raining, but that doesn't give enough advanced notice to plan anything.

So it's pretty much up to me to go visit him on my days off, which are few and far between and sometimes already taken up with other commitments. Plus gas is expensive if I borrow a pal's car to take Venice, and if I take the train I can't bring the dog so I have to ask my parents or another friend to watch her. We get to spend maybe two days together every month - except he works 9 - 6 if the weather's nice so... not many hours we're actually together during those visits.

It sucks so much, especially because we are one of those couples that are together 24/7 when we can be. We had two separate 6 month stints of living together but in the three years we've been together, only 12 months have been spent living less than 2 hours apart.

Trying very very hard to figure out an arrangement where we can be closer. But his work is there and mine is here. It's not a strain on the relationship and neither of us would give up just because of the distance, but we definitely wish we could be living together again. Even if we had opposing schedules it would be better than this.
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Old 06-09-2014, 03:21 PM
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Fiancé and I live 4 hours away. We see each other about 4 days a week for extended weekends, holidays, etc. Usually that time is spent 99% with each other doing things - we go out to eat a lot, camping, dog trials, etc.

I'm moving in with him soon and will get to see him daily, probably in the morning before work and a few hours in the evening, or days when he's working from home (which is awesome) since I have no idea how much or little I will be working, yet, it's hard to say exactly.
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Old 06-09-2014, 03:28 PM
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Fiancé and I live 4 hours away. We see each other about 4 days a week for extended weekends, holidays, etc.
Wow, I am super impressed by this. Do you both work full time?
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Old 06-09-2014, 03:34 PM
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Wow, I am super impressed by this. Do you both work full time?
I work about 38 hours a week. He is salaried at 40, but he can work remotely. So he will come up on a Wednesday night or Thursday night and stay for a week day or two and work from my house and then we'll do something in the evenings and over the weekend, we've had a lot of events lately too that I've had paid vacation time to take off so that we could go to CPE nationals, camping over the memorial day holiday, etc.

I just left his house today, I was with him since Wednesday. He's coming back up this Wednesday evening for another dog event in town, so he'll be here for 4 or 5 nights again. Dating a dog guy is AWESOME.
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