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Old 06-09-2014, 12:24 AM
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And I have separation anxiety. So I can't go more than 2 minutes out of his presence or I'll start shaking and foaming at the mouth.
But at least you're foaming at the mouth with minty fresh breath.

The SO is overseas currently, so zero time is spent together. When that changes, it's going to be 24/7 for the week I have off and then any time I'm conscious and not working. After a month of that I'll freak out and need my space and I'll spend my weekdays off on my own DEAR GOD IF YOU TEXT ME I WILL KILL YOU JUST LEAVE ME BE. Seriously, in August or September you guys can come back here and be like "oh, yeah, she did say she was going to freak out. Let's ignore the fact that she's used up the last two pages of the venting thread with her complaining."

I need my own space, I crave it. I'll have one weekday and he'll have one weekday apart. Sundays will be spent together and most evenings and mornings before work. I have had friends that turn into that "we HAVE to do everything as a couple" couple and I don't want to be that person. It's ridiculous if friends that I used to hang out with one on one can't because of their SO. He will go do his own thing, as will I, and we will also do things together. Does that cover the time and space thing?
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Old 06-09-2014, 04:48 AM
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We try to spend most of our free time together, as he works quite a bit (but it's more time now as he changed jobs a few months ago). Some days (I'd say typically 2-3/wk) he's out of work at 3 (or goes in late) so we get like 5 hours together. He's usually off two days but not always consecutively...those days we're together all day except sometimes 2-3 hours if I have therapy, he works out, etc.

But sometimes I work on his off days (if they fall on the weekend) so I'm gone 4-8 hours...and other days we only get an hour or two together.

It's definitely a balance. I always treasure our time together and get stressed if it's lessened, but when he was between jobs after a week I needed a vacation lol.

I think I need alone time much more than him, but I think that's because I'm always with Lillian and he sees other adults much more than me, even if it's at work.
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Old 06-09-2014, 06:36 AM
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We spend about 2-3 hours together in the evenings, and then all day together on weekends if I'm not working. We would like to spend more time together but our jobs kind of limit that right now. At least we live together, so I guess sleeping together each night counts as time together too.
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Old 06-09-2014, 06:36 AM
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I need my own space, I crave it. I'll have one weekday and he'll have one weekday apart. Sundays will be spent together and most evenings and mornings before work. I have had friends that turn into that "we HAVE to do everything as a couple" couple and I don't want to be that person. It's ridiculous if friends that I used to hang out with one on one can't because of their SO. He will go do his own thing, as will I, and we will also do things together. Does that cover the time and space thing?
This is exactly how I am.. I'm reading some of these responses and thinking "OMG how do they spend that much time with them?!" LOL.

FWIW, Eric (husband) and I have been together for almost 10yrs. Married for a little over 2yrs. His job requires him to travel fairly often (he's gone now actually), so we sometimes go 2 or so months without "seeing" each other (we do get to video chat, so I technically see him haha). I will say that the longer trips do suck and I do miss him after awhile. Mainly because he's a really good cook and I get sick of eating Ramen.. I kid

But for example, this trip is only for 10 days and it's actually been really nice. I'm extremely independent and like doing my own thing, and I also don't need a bunch of people around me to feel happy/secure/whatever. I feel like relationships do better and are stronger when you get little breaks from each other. I can't stand girls who turn into non-functioning humans if their SO's aren't around to make a decision, hang out with them, etc.

Anyway. When he's home, he works quite a bit so on weekdays I'd say we spend.. 4ish hrs. together after he gets home. Weekends, eh, it depends. Some weekends we are here all day and do spend it together. Other times he'll go to a car show, and I'll go to a dog show, so most of the day is spent apart. I like that he has his hobbies, and I have mine. We do trade off sometimes and I'll go to a car show with him, he comes to a dog show with me. So, it works, I think!
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Old 06-09-2014, 07:46 AM
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We're really close, but also pretty balanced IMO. He works away from home and I work at home, so we're apart for workdays. When he gets home he wants to veg out at home, and I need an evening or two out of the house each week to stay sane. So we have our times outside of work where we do our own thing each week, and we both like it that way. Even if we're both home, we have evenings where we do our own thing and don't chat much. Otherwise, we do housework as a team, watch the same TV shows/movies and play a lot of the same games, so tons of social time together.

We do generally spend weekends together, and we spend a lot of time with his family (my family is not local). So yeah, lots of time spent together, but we need our "me" time too.
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Old 06-09-2014, 08:21 AM
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We eat together, we bathe together, (we work together), we even share the same piece of mint-flavored dental floss.

Sorry. Weird Al song lyrics.

We do spend a lot of time together--we work together, share same friends (well we've merged friends and love and visit them all). We have three day weekends every other week together with a "me" day on each side (I'm home on Thursday, we have fri, sat, sun off and he's home alone on Monday when I go back to work). I love that we have those "me" days. Then he has two weekends a year where it's just the guys -- Kentucky derby and a tubing trip in July. So I try to do something with the girls during those times, specifically.

But we watch the same shows, have similar hobbies, enjoy time off together and work really well together on a daily basis. In our work, the work doesn't end at five. You take a lot of baggage, stress and responsibility home each night--have dinners interrupted, sleep disturbed and holidays on call. It totally helps to have a partner in all of it and have a super great person to cuddle with on the couch after a long day or travel with on time off!
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Old 06-09-2014, 08:32 AM
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We spend most of the weekend together. Sometimes I go off and do dog things that doing interest him, but that is fairly rare.

During the week, it's normally around 3 hours per day awake & then sleeping.

The last weekend of June he is going to be at his folks visiting and I'll be home alone. If I'm not stuck working the entire time, it will be nice, just me and the dog and cat.
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Old 06-09-2014, 08:43 AM
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Probably about 2-3 hours a night and every other weekend a full day together.


Used to be very clingy but honestly love alone time now. Couldn't imagine working with him!!

He was gone this weekend on a four wheeling trip and honestly it was a very nice relaxing weekend for me.
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Old 06-09-2014, 08:56 AM
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I am a people person in general and just don't enjoy being alone. An hour here and there is nice but I don't crave being alone. I crave human interaction. I lived on my own for a brief period of time and it just wasn't for me! I have been that way for as long as i can remember. Brian works all day and sometimes downstairs in the evening and during the day is when Hannah and I do a lot of our social things with friends and groups. At night after being apart all day I am perfectly content sitting on the couch together watchig tv
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Old 06-09-2014, 10:26 AM
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4-5ish hours on a weekday - direct interaction is maybe 1-2 hours of that
Most of the day on most weekends.

Our current arrangement (put into place post-baby) is that we each get one night a week to do whatever we want. I use mine for agility and Matt uses his for gaming. Those nights are pretty much sacred and any other activity that requires one of use to single parent is discussed beforehand. I can't think of a time when one of us shot down an outing though - it just has to be brought up in advance so we can prepare.

I'll be honest - after a four day weekend entirely in the company of Matt I'm usually plotting a murder. I love him dearly but I am not made to be around the same person 24/7 for extended periods of time.
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