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Old 02-28-2015, 06:44 PM
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Default For chazzers in long-term relationships - how often?

Do you "do it"? Particularly with kids, and did it change after kids? Or without kids...I'm just nosy.

Someone in my mom group posted her fiancé is frustrated she has no sex drive...and that immediately got 12 comments of agreement and women commuting on the fact that the closest they get to their husband is a high 5 once the chores are done.

I thought it was bad sometimes we go more than a week without if we're busy. We usually have sex once or twice a week. Sometimes slightly more, sometimes slightly less. I'm wondering if we're in the minority?
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Old 02-28-2015, 07:06 PM
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Eh....maybe every other day? Sometimes multiple times a day. Sometimes every day. Average I'd say every other day.

We went a week one time due to schedules being busy and towards the end of it we were both incredibly ready to "get back on the horse". LOL

We don't currently have kids.

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Old 02-28-2015, 09:09 PM
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Early on, when I was really stressed from work it was once every two weeks. Currently about 1x a week, sometimes more, sometimes less, but I'm hitting 2 weeks without and DH was too tired and stressed from class he's taking on top of work, so it looks like it may be another week until that class wraps up and he does more than sleep, work, and do homework. Sooooo frustrated.

It really seems like my drive has gone up and his has slacked a bit. *sigh*
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Old 02-28-2015, 10:10 PM
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I'll answer even though we recently broke up, but my ex and I were together for over 8 years. It's hard to estimate, really, because it just totally depended on many factors...generally maybe once every 3 or 4 days? Sometimes every day, very rarely twice in a day, and also rarely there were periods of a few weeks when we didn't. Probably wasn't all that uncommon that we would go a week in between occasionally.

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Old 02-28-2015, 10:14 PM
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Over the 15 years it has had a huge range. A big part is how I am feeling...when I get more depressed or anxious about my weight, the frequency goes down.
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Old 02-28-2015, 11:16 PM
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Brynne- did he take Jasper? Sorry I know that is OT.

Depending on many factors, typically 1x per week.

Though as of right now I'm sitting around 2 without and getting pretty vocal about it. Lol! DH has a lower drive than I do, tho.

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Old 02-28-2015, 11:20 PM
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Of course ... we have no (human) kids. OH is super busy with work and he is sometimes really tired, so like, once a week? I guess? I dont know I never really count, its kind of an "when the mood takes us" thing.
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Old 02-28-2015, 11:27 PM
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No kids, but we'll hopefully have one within the next year. Been together for 5.5 years. Unless something weird is going on, it's usually 3 or more times a week. More in the smer when we don't have jobs (teachers).

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Old 02-28-2015, 11:58 PM
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Oh I should add....we have two kids. When they were very little and nursing round the clock, yes, it affected our sex life. But that goes away pretty quick for me...its other issues that affect it more. DH would be happy to at anytime though
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Old 03-01-2015, 12:00 AM
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I have like... negative drive. I could probably go the rest of my life without and I wouldn't feel deprived. So... our frequency totally depends on my BF and when he initiates. Early on definitely daily, now maybe once a week or every couple weeks.

And we have no kids.

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