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Old 09-17-2013, 12:15 PM
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Default How often do you and your SO fight/argue/disagree?

Just wondering what's normal or average.

How often do you disagree or just get irritated/annoyed with each other?

How often do you argue?

How often do you have a fight, as in heated words, really angry with one another, blaming, etc.?

Do you have the same issues causing disagreements, or do you usually solve it and fight about something else next time? Did anything change the frequency if fighting, such as kids, living together, time, counseling?
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Old 09-17-2013, 12:25 PM
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How often do you disagree or just get irritated/annoyed with each other?
Rarely. We disagree on things but we both act like adults and (generally) use our words without getting angry.

How often do you argue?
Never? I don't really argue with anyone in a heated manner. I've only ever seen him argue with his sister...

How often do you have a fight, as in heated words, really angry with one another, blaming, etc.?
Rarely. I've been really angry at him maybe 3 times in the 2+ years we've dated.

Do you have the same issues causing disagreements, or do you usually solve it and fight about something else next time? Did anything change the frequency if fighting, such as kids, living together, time, counseling?
Not really applicable.

I was super duper excited to find someone as not into fighting as I am. I know it sound silly but it's soooo nice to be with someone who doesn't really get uptight about things. Love it.!
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Old 09-17-2013, 12:28 PM
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How often do you disagree or just get irritated/annoyed with each other?
We get annoyed and disagree fairly often, but it usually is about little things.

How often do you argue?
We used to argue a LOT, but we don't argue too much anymore. We will snark at each other every once in a while, but we usually laugh about it later. We do argue about finances sometimes, but for the most part we have found a system with handling finances that works for the both of us which has decreased the amount of arguing over finances.

How often do you have a fight, as in heated words, really angry with one another, blaming, etc.?
Very rarely nowadays

Do you have the same issues causing disagreements, or do you usually solve it and fight about something else next time? Did anything change the frequency if fighting, such as kids, living together, time, counseling?
We usually solve it but sometimes we will argue over the same stuff. We use to argue so bad and I almost left him over it so we did do counseling and a communications class and that made a big difference in our relationship.
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Old 09-17-2013, 12:29 PM
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Old 09-17-2013, 12:52 PM
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Well honestly, we are like the Bickersons in our day to day life. But serious arguments or disagreements? Rarely, maybe once or twice a year at most. And knock-down fights? I can't remember the last time.

Honestly I think we just got old and learned to accept each other's quirks and stuff without trying to change them. That goes a long way towards not fighting about stupid sh*t.
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Old 09-17-2013, 12:56 PM
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How often do you disagree or just get irritated/annoyed with each other?
Not that often.. sometimes he forgets to pick up things after work but after 8yrs, it's just expected he won't remember& so I've stopped expecting it when I do ask. Now it's just a pleasant surprise if he remembers LOL!

How often do you argue?
Umm.. not often? I actually can't think of the last time we argued. So I'm going with probably a handful of times over the years.

How often do you have a fight, as in heated words, really angry with one another, blaming, etc.?
We recently got in a huge fight but it was really more that he hurt my feelings in a serious way& made me upset about our relationship. Other than that, I would say we have a big heated fight less than every 2yrs and, in the end, we realize the big fights weren't worth the effort.

Do you have the same issues causing disagreements, or do you usually solve it and fight about something else next time? Did anything change the frequency if fighting, such as kids, living together, time, counseling?
Solve them& move on. If you can't get past it, either stop fighting about it or be done with the relationship. Moving in together didn't change anything, really. Maybe sometimes I'm a little more glad when we are apart than when we lived in separate places
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Old 09-17-2013, 12:59 PM
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Just wondering what's normal or average.

How often do you disagree or just get irritated/annoyed with each other?

How often do you argue?

How often do you have a fight, as in heated words, really angry with one another, blaming, etc.?

Do you have the same issues causing disagreements, or do you usually solve it and fight about something else next time? Did anything change the frequency if fighting, such as kids, living together, time, counseling?
1. I honestly don't think there is a normal or average. No relationship is like the next, they are all pretty unique!!!

2. We generally enjoy each others company, but we have times we annoy one another. It's quite fleeting though, and we tend to laugh about it reasonably quickly. I think it's usually when we are tired or fed up. I'd say it happens.... Err dunno, don't count! Once a week?? Sometimes it's often, sometimes it's rare. We like to wind each other up, and we annoy each other, but it's usually kept playful.

3. We rarely argue. I hate arguments for one. I'd say we've had a handful in the last 3.5yrs. And I could probably tell you the details of each argument, and they were all justified I'd say too!!! We've had more in the past year as things have been pretty tough, for lots of reasons I'm not going to list here! I think most people would have cracked if they'd been through what we have (lots of stuff, all at the same time so couldn't fix one with out something else going wrong).

4. As above... There's only been one major event to cause us to really argue, and it was very serious, and it was mainly me arguing and him grovelling. There's only been one real occasion when I stayed angry with him for any period of time. Day to day we don't stay mad for long. The other arguments were more out of stress.

5. We don't shout and scream at one another, so can't say we have heated words a huge amount at all. We tend to just have serious discussions lol

6. We argued about the same stuff. We had a very, VERY tough year and it was all a bit too much in the end. As the year has come towards an end, issues have resolved themselves, we are closer again, the other issues are resolving, things are moving forward (or back to where they were I suppose). They weren't just random arguments for the sake of it, they were very specific about specific stuff.


Honestly, I wouldn't want to be in a 'passionate' fiery relationship. I like the fact we love one another's company and laugh A LOT. The stuff we have been through has been hard, but even then we weren't arguing on a daily or even weekly basis. It was now and then. And usually after a build up of stress. And we aren't horrid to one another, we tended to just...... Talk it out. We never leave the house angry with each other, we don't go to bed angry with each other.
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Old 09-17-2013, 01:05 PM
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Whenever he's wrong.
Basically.

How often do you disagree or just get irritated/annoyed with each other?
Whenever we're in the car. He tries to play with my boobs while I'm driving. NOT SAFE, RICK.

How often do you argue?

Once every few months. Always about moving, which is finally happening soon... so.

How often do you have a fight, as in heated words, really angry with one another, blaming, etc.?
No.

Do you have the same issues causing disagreements, or do you usually solve it and fight about something else next time? Did anything change the frequency if fighting, such as kids, living together, time, counseling?
Always moving. Not an issue any longer.

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Old 09-17-2013, 01:26 PM
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We enjoy each other's company - like a lot, which is good because we literally spend all day every day together at work and home.

We (well, I) get annoyed or stressed about silly things at work, usually my colleagues or stupid situations, and sometimes take it out on him for a brief moment until he brings me back to reality and tells me that everything is just fine. In our personal lives, I also get stressed or annoyed with the way he deals with money, but he calms me down in that aspect too and I've learned to be less stingy and uptight about it.

We've never had a heated argument or have been mad at each other for more than 10 minutes.

We have a rule that we can only fight if we're holding hands and/or naked

I don't think there's a normal or average. All people are different and all relationships are unique. It just so happens that K is very level headed and the most patient man I've ever met, and I'm pretty low key as well.
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Old 09-17-2013, 01:31 PM
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