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View Poll Results: Wht is the age difference between you and your SO?
Nothing 14 21.21%
1-3 Years 18 27.27%
3-5 Years 10 15.15%
6-10 Years 10 15.15%
10-12 Years 4 6.06%
13+ Years 3 4.55%
Turkey bacon and sliced granny smith apples dipped in peanut butter 9 13.64%
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Old 07-19-2013, 10:50 AM
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Inspired by the musing thread. . . mostly because I'm glad I'm not the only one who had a gigantic age difference in their last relationship.

What is the age difference, if any, in your current relationship or most recent one? Has it been an issue or have people made it one? Which of you is the youngest?

I went out to VA to visit family this week and brought my ex to the big family get-together we had. . . my aunt hated him on sight. He's 15 years older than I am and I didn't introduce him as anything other than "hey everyone, this is C" and she assumed the worst.
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Old 07-19-2013, 11:05 AM
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There is 7 years between Brian and I. I don't think it's been an issue for anyone. Although, 7 years isn't that much. Right now we are both in our 30's but that changes next year

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Old 07-19-2013, 11:06 AM
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Rick is just under two years old than I am. I just turned 18, he'll be 20 next month.

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Old 07-19-2013, 11:07 AM
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We're a year apart.

I've had previous relationships with large age gaps. My first(and longest) relationship had a 9 yr age gap. My family really didn't like him at first b I was 17 and he was 26. They wanted to know what a "man" wanted with a "girl" and not a "woman." LOL. None of his friends approved of me either.

People got over it after a while, but I don't think it ever really became 100% ok with anyone. At younger ages the gap seems much bigger, and at older ages much smaller.

Personally, I don't care about age gaps... As long as both parties are getting what they want. 25 yr old with a 50yr old? As long as BOTH parties are happy with what is going on/getting what they expected who cares?

My SO now is only a year apart, but the main thing with this is that we're both at the same point in our relationship/want the same things at the same time. I wouldn't want to be ready to settle down and start a family and be in a relationship with a guy who was over the "wanting a family" stage in his life. That is were it becomes unfair and also(IMO) why relationships with gaps tend to not work out very often. However, I have seen some that both parties knew it was a short term deal and were just having fun for the time being. BOTH people involved were happy with it, so it was fine.
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Old 07-19-2013, 11:18 AM
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I'm a month and a half older than him...

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Old 07-19-2013, 11:21 AM
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Dan is 5 years older than me which really is nothing BUT we met when I was 17 and started dating when I was 19. It felt huge to him at the time, but not me
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Old 07-19-2013, 11:34 AM
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2 years, and I'm older. It did seem a little weird when I got pregnant at 22 and he wasn't even 21 when our daughter was born and tbh, I was definitely not dating him for his maturity level. If we were any older, I don't think it would even be a thought.

Biggest age gap, I briefly dated a guy 16 years older when I was 21. He was probably less mature than my current bf is. I'm sure some of my friends thought it was skeevy but no one said anything negative, if anything the comments were "he doesn't seem that much older" or the like.

My friend is "dating" a guy 20 years older, and it seems like a big problem, but more because he's had a traumatic divorce than anything...he could be 26 and have the same issues after a failed marriage.
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Old 07-19-2013, 12:03 PM
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Originally Posted by noludoru View Post
What is the age difference, if any, in your current relationship or most recent one? Has it been an issue or have people made it one? Which of you is the youngest?
12 years for us. Never been an issue. I'm 28 and he is 40...I think since we are both out of school, both supporting ourselves, have hobbies, are healthy etc...people just don't even notice. that because he's Asian? Seriously, people usually guess me in early 20's and Jason in mid-to-late-20's.
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Old 07-19-2013, 12:16 PM
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We're 4,5 years apart. He's turning 27 in August, and I turned 22 in April

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Old 07-19-2013, 12:31 PM
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My husband just turned 40 and I'm almost 25.

He's pretty much the coolest person on Earth and I didn't know how old he was before I fell madly in love I thought he was 36 -- which is still a larger age gap than I would have wanted but, hey, we are perfect together. And he doesn't look or act 40-- most people assume we're the same age.

I debated in my head for a long time whether I wanted to get involved with someone much older (I'm worried about losing him & being widowed young - which was the biggest issue in my mind, surprisingly, it wasn't what others would think or say, or the differences in the times we were raised or any of that.) until one day someone said to me, "Ashley, if you love him and want to be with him, enjoy the time you have together NOW and don't intentionally miss out on these years with him because you're worried what people might say or what'll happen in the future"

So I moved in, he asked me to marry him & I did!

It helps that we both live the same way (we work together, neither of us have or want kids, we like to do the same things, enjoy each other's hobbies, have awesome family and friends who have always supported us, etc)

But if you would have told me like three years ago I'd marry a man closer in age to my parents than to me, I would have laughed in your face!!!

(And to be hypocritical---- my 19 yo cousin is dating a man who is 38 --- and it makes me uncomfortable. Especially because he has 4 kids and the oldest is 16.)

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