Vent!

[iluvdogs]

I just got into a major fight with my boyfriend, He made me SO ANGRY!!...He punched his computer desk and I got up and left and he then slammed his door and threw something in the room....

I tried talking to him after and he wouldn't, he started blaming me for stuff that I didn't make him do..Like his work had a BBQ on, well he was sick with the flu and couldn't make it and he said it was my fault he missed it.

He said from now on he's going to do WHAT he wants to do if I like it or not..I then told him FINE go ahead, but you wont be with me anymore we are over don't come home tonight...He says....You just need to cool off..I will see you tonight and he drove off................

I dont know what to do anymore...

I am becoming convinced that many of the ladies on this board have jack ass boyfriends that like to punch things. Good luck to you.

[Denaluvscorgis]

I don't like it when people hit things or people when their angry. Temper tantrums!! I'm sure that everything will be fine when you both cool off. Good luck to you.

[GlassOnion]

Wait so you got mad because he punched his desk?

He said from now on he's going to do WHAT he wants to do if I like it or not

And how often do you control what he does? You probably won't always like what he does but that shouldn't limit him...

Another forum I post on is a motorcycle forum and the age old question is whether the girlfriend should decide on whether you can own a bike or not. A lot of relationships have ended because of the controlling girlfriend.


Just might be something you might wanna think about.



By the by this isn't an attack or anything. It's just that a lot of times the guy's thoughts never seem to considered and it's all our fault. The ladies never seem to evaluate themselves.

[iluvdogs]

NOTHING thats the thing..I dont control him!!..He was blamming me saying I do...when I dont??..All I said was why would it hurt you to call me up and ask me if I want to go to the mall with u?

Like my Birthday....It was on Friday...He didnt evan get me a card..NOTHING..

[GlassOnion]

Ah, then I can't help you.

Though I don't always call my ladies and ask them to go to the mall/wal-mart/wherever with me either. Sometimes but not often.

[bubbatd]

Red flag !! Anger issues !! Try it alone for 6 months and cool things down or toss him out. As they say , don't buy a cow if you can get your milk for free.

[MomOf7]

I dont really have any good advise except for this...
Get this book. Trust me it will help you understand more about yourself and more about relationships Dont take this the wrong way. Theres some very invaluable information in this book. You will never look at people and relationships the same.

Getting Love Right By Terrance T Gorski

It really has helped me and others who I have loaned my book to. It really turns a light on! Maybe more lights than you would expect. Very good reading!
Here is a over view of what is covered.
IT'S NEVER TOO LATE TO LEARN HOW TO LOVE

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* How to choose a healthy partner

If you are in a relationship or want to be in one, Terence T. Gorski will teach you that love isn't just something that happens -- love is something you can learn.

[JennSLK]

I am becoming convinced that many of the ladies on this board have jack ass boyfriends that like to punch things. Good luck to you

I think your right. Mine doesnt hit things but he is a jerk. Im thinking of leaving.

iluvdogs - Get out while you can. I am in too deep that it is so hard to get out, but please get out before you are barried.

[Babyblue5290]

I think relationships take work and if you don't feel he is or your not willing to continue working on it then leave. If you really truley can't see this getting better then leave. I think it's up to what you really want to do not what we tell you is right. I also think the book MomOf7 suggested soound really nice. I've never read it but from the brief description she posted it sounds like it may do some good.

Also this might be a good article for you to read through: http://www.drjoecarver.com/loser.html

Good luck and take care.