He cheated on me.

[sparks19]

Originally Posted by Lyzelle

This.

It says a lot about a person when their first option is to use the kid as a bargaining chip in order to get this guy back in their life....rather than actually do what is best for the kid.

She needs to get her priorities in order, now. With a therapist. With her OBGYN. With her parents (where she is currently living). And if she can't do that and wants only to get this guy back, then she needs to make some serious decisions about the life of that child.

Right now in her hyper emotional state she DOES think that is whats best for the child. She's wrong of course but she's just too emotional right now to see it clearly. She's still reeling, this all JUST happened. She's grieving and she needs professional help from a good therapist but she doesn't deserve to be sh!t on by everyone else on top of it. That's not going to break her out of her funk. There is tough love and there is just being mean and I think this thread has been teetering on that fine line.

[release the hounds]

Originally Posted by sparks19

Right now in her hyper emotional state she DOES think that is whats best for the child. She's wrong of course but she's just too emotional right now to see it clearly. She's still reeling, this all JUST happened. She's grieving and she needs professional help from a good therapist but she doesn't deserve to be sh!t on by everyone else on top of it. That's not going to break her out of her funk. There is tough love and there is just being mean and I think this thread has been teetering on that fine line.

I think you are right

[Baxter'smybaby]

In summary:Barbara is hurting.
Barbara should be tending to taking care of her own needs, and the needs of her unborn child.
Perhaps Barbara should seek support of the professionals who can help her navigate this situation in her real life instead of through an internet forum.

I think there is really no more to be said here.