An Actual conversation that just took place in my house

[milos_mommy]

This was a small portion of a much bigger argument, filled with the same logic.

My mom: I do all the laundry for everyone in this house. Except for your dad. And yours. Which I only don't do because I don't have time. But I'm the only one otherwise who does laundry.

Me: So why don't you tell your 18 year old son who sits in his room playing video games for 12 hours a day to wash his own **** clothes?

My mother: THIS IS NOT ABOUT YOUR BROTHER. HE IS NOT THE PROBLEM HERE.

Me: ....you just complained that you have to do everyone in the house's laundry except for mine and my dad's. THE ONLY OTHER PERSON IN THIS HOUSE iS MY BROTHER.

Mom: *walks away and slams doors*


She then blew up because my dad said to her "what do you want to do for dinner". She waited until he left the room and then started yelling at me for never making dinner. And if she doesn't make dinner no one will and my dad and brother will go to her at 10 pm and say they hadn't eaten dinner yet and they're starving.

They are two adult men. They're not going to starve to death. They are capable of feeding themselves. We have plenty of food in our refrigerator, most of which is already prepared. And, if that's too complicated for them, they both drive, have cars, and make enough money to go out and get themselves dinner - which is what they do every night if my mother is away for some reason.

[Dogdragoness]

Gosh I live with my folks right now part time (thurs-mon i stay with OH) but I pull my own weight by helping with dinner, doing my own clothes & feeding myself if need be.

Nothing pisses me off more then someone who won't pull their own weight.

[JessLough]

I feel like we live in the same house... except I have a sister here too. That conversation was way too familiar. Oh, and my brother is like, 20. Oh and my mom doesn't blow up about it... she just makes comments

[Dogdragoness]

Sometimes comments are worse then just blowing up lol

[milos_mommy]

Originally Posted by Dogdragoness

Nothing pisses me off more then someone who won't pull their own weight.

I have something:

People who flip out at a third party because others don't pull their weight, after said person DOES EVERYTHING for the ones not pulling their weight.

Or people who do something for someone else and then acts like they're the biggest saint on the planet and no one appreciates them and they're forced into slave labor.

[sassafras]

"I do one other person's laundry" = "I do everyone's laundry" lolderp

[Lyzelle]

Originally Posted by milos_mommy

Or people who do something for someone else and then acts like they're the biggest saint on the planet and no one appreciates them and they're forced into slave labor.

OMG THIS. So much of this.

[Renee750il]

Sounds way too familiar.

Ever hear the phrase "mothers with narcissistic personality disorder?"

Not saying that's going on, but what you're describing sure fits parts of the behavioral patterns.

[Beanie]

((((HUGS)))) ugh. Been through arguments like that. =< Here's what I've started doing... remembering that I do not have to attend every argument I am invited to... and if I can tell it's not productive, I say that, and I leave the argument.
Of course this INFURIATES my mom when I point out we are not having a productive discussion so I am not going to argue anymore, but I sure feel a lot better...

[AdrianneIsabel]

Move. Move far away. My relationship with my dad got better when I wasn't in the same house as him. People are crazy when confined together.