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Old 07-10-2013, 04:02 PM
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This isn't really a vent, but I don't want to start my own thread and I don't know where to put it.

My sister just came out to me. I am proud of her for being confident enough and brave enough to begin telling people who she is, but my heart breaks knowing how much harder her life is going to be. She was in tears asking me advice how to tell our parents, and I didn't have anything helpful to say. I wish I had magic words that would make things easier for her, but all I could tell her was I love her.

She's on the opposite coast in Seattle, my family is in California, and I'm in DC. She is meeting my parents in Lake Tahoe for the weekend and wants to tell them in person. I so just want to hug her or be there with her to support her and there's nothing I can do.

And people in this world are going to be crappy and make her feel like a terrible person for being who she is and there is nothing I can do to protect her from it
**Hugs** to both of you! Hopefully your parents are understanding, and good for your sister for coming out Even if it makes things a bit harder for her when dealing with others, at least she knows who she is and she should be proud of that.

*edit* Also on the bright side she's in Seattle, so it's a lot more open than some other areas.
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Old 07-10-2013, 04:08 PM
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She will be ok she has you

My cousin came out to me a few years ago. She's doing great. Great! Its not all bad, times are changing and its easier to find like minded people. She isnt alone and can surround herself with positive people.

Tell her to look for a support network or even a forum to join
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Old 07-10-2013, 04:17 PM
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This isn't really a vent, but I don't want to start my own thread and I don't know where to put it.

My sister just came out to me. I am proud of her for being confident enough and brave enough to begin telling people who she is, but my heart breaks knowing how much harder her life is going to be. She was in tears asking me advice how to tell our parents, and I didn't have anything helpful to say. I wish I had magic words that would make things easier for her, but all I could tell her was I love her.

She's on the opposite coast in Seattle, my family is in California, and I'm in DC. She is meeting my parents in Lake Tahoe for the weekend and wants to tell them in person. I so just want to hug her or be there with her to support her and there's nothing I can do.

And people in this world are going to be crappy and make her feel like a terrible person for being who she is and there is nothing I can do to protect her from it
((((hugs)))) I'm with Dizzy, I think it'll be easier because she has an awesome caring sister. Are your parents going to be accepting? Because a weekend where she's essentially stuck hanging out with them might not be the best time/place to tell them.
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Old 07-10-2013, 04:36 PM
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Old 07-10-2013, 05:00 PM
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((((hugs)))) I'm with Dizzy, I think it'll be easier because she has an awesome caring sister. Are your parents going to be accepting? Because a weekend where she's essentially stuck hanging out with them might not be the best time/place to tell them.
My mom will cry, my dad will be extremely uncomfortable and avoid talking at all costs. (That's how they reacted when I told them I was getting married too ) I think it will be a relief at the end of the day for my mom, because she's been so worried about my sister's mental well being (she's been very withdrawn and unhappy lately, so hopefully this is a step in the right direction). My dad...I don't know how he'll ultimately feel. My cousin (his brother's son) came out last year, and my father's comment was, "It's been very difficult for your uncle." Dad and my sister are very close, so I hope this doesn't come between them.

I think she feels like she has to do it in person and this is the only time she'll see them before Christmas. I agree with you though, it could make for a very uncomfortable weekend if things go badly.
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(((hugs)) to your sister, and to you

It sucks that still, in this day and age, something as simple as who you love can cause such issues
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Cali that must be a hard thing for her to go through. It's something I've thought about many times just to try to realize what other people go through. I don't know what I'd do in that situation because I don't think my family would be accepting. It's sad to realize in this day and age it's still such an issue. I hope she finds peace and that your parents will be understanding.

My vent....

1. Why are all the great guys I meet married already!? Seriously why can't I find a single one?

2. When do people outgrow making fun of other people for being 'different' or 'weird'. I seriously do not get it. At all. Yeah these people are a little bit quirky. More than a little awkward but they are GENUINELY NICE people. Unlike you. You are seriously missing out on great people because you can't get past 'he/she's so goofy!' Maybe I just answered myself there though...
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