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Old 09-22-2012, 03:07 PM
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Training today was bleh - Katalin was spazzy and freaked a couple times; no biggie but it was bothersome. Weather's cool but still abit damp and humid, makes me drowsy and achy. Life isn't good today.
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Old 09-22-2012, 03:21 PM
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It may not even be legal, Barbara.
It's not, but Josh technically has this job under the table...so not a whole lot we can do about it.
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Old 09-22-2012, 03:33 PM
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It's not, but Josh technically has this job under the table...so not a whole lot we can do about it.
Well, then, the boss could be in a ton of hot water with the IRS There is such a thing as leverage.

Or, when Josh finds another job, there's always the bounty the IRS offers. I'm still contemplating turning Charley's ass in.
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Old 09-22-2012, 04:25 PM
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Stephy, how they conduct themselves after her death is pretty indicative of how they cared about her in life.

The one positive thing I can say about it is at least they aren't being hypocrites?
Welp, I obviously didn't care about my grandmother, apparently. Definitely went out for dinner and drinks an hour after she passed. *shrugs*
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Old 09-22-2012, 04:38 PM
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I bought the wrong cat food and have some horribly bloody **** going on with the ferrets
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Old 09-22-2012, 04:42 PM
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Emiley's parents were out at a fancy restaurant looking very festive - I happened apon someone or other's facebook account and under "mobile uploads" I saw a familiar looking face. I clicked out of curiosity and guess whom popped up....

I know it's kinda stalker-ish and whatnot (my fb has extremely restricted access to my other internet accounts, I next to never do mobile uploads, and I NEVER use check ins, four square etc - you want things kept private, then keep them OFF a public site I say.) but still it irked me. Your daughter has just been discovered dead by her own hand due to something possibly related to your treatment/neglect of her and you find the spirits to go paint the town red with friends??? I'm sorry - I'm disgusted by that. No damned excuse.
People deal with loss in different ways. Not everyone mourns in a way that is generally accepted..some cry. some lash out, some end up in heavy denial, some drink, some party, some do drugs, some go shopping, some appear to be happier then ever.. people deal with horrible things in all kinds of ways.

They lost a child.
That is a loss that NO PARENT should ever have to bear. How they wake up in the morning, deal with that loss and go on with their lives is an epic struggle that I feel we (people who aren't them/haven't lost a child/have no idea what they are feeling/what they have been through/what they are thinking) have no right to pass judgement.

You may be dealing with the death of your friend a certain way..the only way you know how/can. Well, so are they. How would you feel if somebody judged you or poked your already open wound at a time like this?

Sorry. Pet peeve of mine. When I lost someone dear to me.. I smiled and went about my business like any happy teenager, and was really hurting inside and dealing with that hurt the only way that made me feel like I could go on.
People judged and it honestly made the pain even worse. To even THINK that the loss didn't affect me because I wasn't mourning in a way they thought was appropriate was frankly, insulting.
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People deal with loss in different ways. Not everyone mourns in a way that is generally accepted..some cry. some lash out, some end up in heavy denial, some drink, some party, some do drugs, some go shopping, some appear to be happier then ever.. people deal with horrible things in all kinds of ways.

They lost a child.
That is a loss that NO PARENT should ever have to bear. How they wake up in the morning, deal with that loss and go on with their lives is an epic struggle that I feel we (people who aren't them/haven't lost a child/have no idea what they are feeling/what they have been through/what they are thinking) have no right to pass judgement.

You may be dealing with the death of your friend the only way you know how/can. Well, so are they. How would you feel if somebody judged you or poked your already open wound at a time like this?
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Old 09-22-2012, 05:23 PM
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They lost a child.
That is a loss that NO PARENT should ever have to bear. How they wake up in the morning, deal with that loss and go on with their lives is an epic struggle that I feel we (people who aren't them/haven't lost a child/have no idea what they are feeling/what they have been through/what they are thinking) have no right to pass judgement.
While I agree to an extent... it's really hard to be sympathetic to these specific people when they neglected their child and when that person is dead (a death that could well have been avoided had she gotten more family support) then abandoned their child's remains and left Stephy to cover all her funeral expenses.
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Welp, I obviously didn't care about my grandmother, apparently. Definitely went out for dinner and drinks an hour after she passed. *shrugs*
There's a big difference between losing someone at the end of a long life, especially, like with my grandmother, if it comes after a long, debilitating illness. I know, hard as it was to know she was gone from this plane of existence, that I felt some relief for her, and having someone (especially a child) take their life when it's barely begun.

The fact that Stephy took care of her last rites speaks volumes. Really. What parent does that? It's a totally different lens, though, than if you've been raised in a family that loves you and shows it. It's bound to be alien. Some parents really don't care.

Who knows? Maybe they're relieved it's over. But not taking care of her funeral and all . . . that just tells a story.
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Old 09-22-2012, 05:48 PM
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Fran & Jess,

While normally I would agree - these certain people are exceptions. They DIDN'T care. Period - about her life at all. They wouldn't have done a thing for her in life - and it looks like it's the same in death as well. She told me how they treated her, how they made her feel, what they did, their lack of support and cold shoulder treatment after she decided on her lifestyle...there's a history that I know that no one else really does.

They have been nothing but cold, unfeeling, unsympathetic, judgmental, and negligent. After being as close as I was to someone that had them as a parental unit and suffered the damage that she did - I have extremely little sentiment left for them.

In Emii's own words:

"They aren't my parents - we share a gene pool. That's it."


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People deal with loss in different ways. Not everyone mourns in a way that is generally accepted..some cry. some lash out, some end up in heavy denial, some drink, some party, some do drugs, some go shopping, some appear to be happier then ever.. people deal with horrible things in all kinds of ways.

They lost a child.
That is a loss that NO PARENT should ever have to bear. How they wake up in the morning, deal with that loss and go on with their lives is an epic struggle that I feel we (people who aren't them/haven't lost a child/have no idea what they are feeling/what they have been through/what they are thinking) have no right to pass judgement.

You may be dealing with the death of your friend a certain way..the only way you know how/can. Well, so are they. How would you feel if somebody judged you or poked your already open wound at a time like this?

Sorry. Pet peeve of mine. When I lost someone dear to me.. I smiled and went about my business like any happy teenager, and was really hurting inside and dealing with that hurt the only way that made me feel like I could go on.
People judged and it honestly made the pain even worse. To even THINK that the loss didn't affect me because I wasn't mourning in a way they thought was appropriate was frankly, insulting.
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