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Old 08-17-2012, 01:21 AM
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Thumbs down Bombshell... Cold feet....

Not mine. My boyfriend dropped a bombshell last night of basically telling me he wasn't sure about getting another dog.

We've planned this over a year, and it was HIS choice to get a puppy, go to breeder etc (i wanted to rescue). We've talked every step of the way, I've constantly checked along the way that this wasn't just MY plan, told him every worst case scenario (and he agrees with all this, I've not hidden anything at all)...


He's been reading horror stories about crazy gsps and speaking with a gundog man and basically has major coldfeet now.... 4 weeks before D day. He's worried about what happens when I'm at work, and getting a dog sitter if we go out/away and mess and la la la...

As you can imagine I am pretty annoyed because he knew all the answers to these things (again, planning for over a year!!!), and upset because I feel like he's led me up the garden path.

He said he'd get it because he knows how much it means to me and he wants me to be happy, but I'm annoyed because it was OUR plan, not mine, and I love him and want him to be happy too, not miserable with a puppy making a mess!!

Just tainted everything... I've suggested him coming to meet the breeder so he can meet the dogs and see them interacting in the home to reassure him a bit. He doesn't get that these are show line dogs, not working line... That's WHY I went with the breeder. Or that bodhi needs just as much work and exercise (she's a go go dog).

Anyway..... This is more a venting rant than anything... No one else would get it

I love him so much, but he's a big fat wally, and he knows dogs were part of my package (he doesn't deny this).

Sure we'll sort it, but I feel like I can't talk to him today!!! There has been tears!

/end rant.
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Old 08-17-2012, 02:14 AM
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Oh my gosh Dizzy!!! Tell him to grow a pair. Lol

It's kind of sweet that he's taking it so seriously, but it's not fair to just chicken out weeks before you get the puppy that you've been planning for. There are horror stories about every breed of dog, I promise you that. And you know what's behind 99% of those stories? Inexperienced, unprepared owners. You're so far from that!!! And you're going to a good breeder, with sane dogs who are pets. I've heard of some hunting GSPs being high strung, but they're also kenneled their whole life, trained using harsh methods and encouraged to be over the top energetic.

I'm super picky about dog breeds. But GSPs are honestly one of the most special, wonderful, soulful breeds of dog. I've handled thousands of dogs and out of the few who I really bonded with and would take home 3 were GSP boys. The girls are much more energetic and high strung IME! The boys are energetic, but not more than a Lab, when they're puppies but so adorable, sweet and silly while asst the same time incredibly intelligent. I find them much more easy than the majority of herding breeds and their energy and smarts are perfectly suited to someone with experience and a sense of humor such as yourself! My friend has the sweetest boy named Bosco, who is gorgeous, charming and an obedience champion. I wish your dude could meet him! He's an active dog but at the same time so cool, polite and gentlemanly.
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Old 08-17-2012, 02:52 AM
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That is pretty irritating alright. Definitely take him out there and show him how your future puppy's parents behave. MAKE him enthusiastic again lol.

The last thing anybody needs when something is supposed to be a mutual choice is for them to back out and then start the whole "Well we did this for you, so..." Nu nu nu no. Even if you would've gotten a pup by yourself, to have support and assurance and a sense of mutual input for a year and then to have that suddenly fall away, well, its disheartening.

A new puppy is a big commitment, but HOPEFULLY once he meets the pups (especially if you have one picked out!!), he meets the parents, and he has some assurance that though it's a lot of responsibility, it's also a lot of fun, a very memorable way of opening a new chapter in your life, and it's really not unmanageable, he'll come round again.
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Old 08-17-2012, 03:42 AM
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He's not doing it on purpose, and he thought about not saying anything, which would have been a disaster. We just want to make each other happy, but I feel like I'll feel bad whatever the outcome now

He genuinely wanted this dog, I think he's just had a moment of realisation that it is happening. He loves dogs and says he'll love it, but he's worried about the impact.

He's had a year to consider this. He feels very guilty. Rightly so!! I want him to be happy with our choice, he wants me to be happy... It's nice really, just want to kill his dumb ass!!!
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Old 08-17-2012, 03:44 AM
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Everyone has puppy regrets!!!!!!! I cannot even fathom how many times I cried and wanted to give Fozzie back... now he's the best dog ever, and I wish he was a puppy again. that's just human nature, we're dumb and fickle.
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Old 08-17-2012, 06:10 AM
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It sucks that he is unsure and it is unfair, but would it be a major hassle to wait a little longer until he is sure? A puppy is a major commitment and all members of the household should be 100% on board before bringing him/her home.
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Old 08-17-2012, 07:24 AM
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It sucks that he is unsure and it is unfair, but would it be a major hassle to wait a little longer until he is sure? A puppy is a major commitment and all members of the household should be 100% on board before bringing him/her home.
I agree, I won't add a dog at the expense of our relationship... He knows that. I love dogs, but I'd be very unhappy without him, he is great.

He also knows we would have waited, we've questioned every part of the process to make sure it was right. He's seen me getting excited and more committed to this decision every day. He's never had a puppy before and doesn't know what to expect, which is fine. And he works from home so feels panicky that he'll have a screaming puppy to deal with!

I'm feeling better than I did this morning. I suspect the puppy will come home, and he'll love it, but we'll see how he feels after meeting the breeders dogs. I won't force it on him, but I've made it very clear I see dogs in my life!! So does he, but not sure how he expects to add them!!!!!

Imagine what it'll be like if we ever have KIDS........ Gulp.
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Old 08-17-2012, 08:22 AM
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It's good that you're willing to compromise. In the long run, it'll make the commitment to your relationship and his relationship with your future puppy better. Kids are another ball game, and I'm not even visiting that park.
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Old 08-17-2012, 08:38 AM
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It's good that you're willing to compromise. In the long run, it'll make the commitment to your relationship and his relationship with your future puppy better. Kids are another ball game, and I'm not even visiting that park.
We're solid, I know how he feels. He'd get the dog even if he hated it because he wants me to be happy. I want him to be happy too, so we'll see. He knows this is a pet/hobby/dream/passion for me and not just a dog. He gets it.

Was a massive shock though, telling me over tea! Or dinner to you.

I couldn't look at him all night, managed a hug this morning because I refuse to ever leave on bad terms. Not worth it!
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Old 08-17-2012, 08:50 AM
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Well, if it helps at all, you can tell him that I see a decent number of GSPs at work. They are high energy, yes, and they can tend towards SA, true, but I would say most of ours that live with average families are very happy and their families are happy too. And several of ours are from hunting stock. And you guys aren't average! I've seen the hikes you go on and all the stuff you do with Bohdi... You'll have a blast! That's exactly the kind of home a GSP needs. I realize there are probably more concerns than just the breed itself, but as far as "crazy" GSPs, they do exist, but I think an active home with good dog knowledge goes a LONG in making them stable, productive citizens. I have no doubt yours would be a great fit for you.
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