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Old 03-30-2012, 12:21 AM
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No advice, but I know the day for me will soon be here. I am 21 now and often feel like I SHOULD be out on my own by now, but both parents practically beg me to stay, LOL. And I'm also not complaining because it's REALLY helping me out while still in school.

I still split my time between both houses, because I go to college 10 minutes away from my dads house, so I spent 3 nights a week there. I have a sibling at each house (4 year old sister at mom and stepdads, 8 year old brother at dad and stepmoms) and they each miss me greatly when I am gone for the few days that I am - it can be tough, because I love to spend time with them, but then sometimes just NEVER get a moment alone. But I don't want to complain, 'cuz I have it really easy.

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Old 03-30-2012, 12:48 AM
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I still live at home... part of me wants to move out like, at this very moment. But I know it'll be super weird. Plus my mom has worked at home for most of my life so I'm used to her always being there.
We are a close family though and I know I'll never move far away, so it really won't be that big of a deal lol.

Interesting tidbit is that all my siblings that moved out, ended up moving back home at least once. So I guess once you leave, doesn't necessarily mean you're gone for good

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Old 03-30-2012, 02:37 AM
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I moved out at 19, a few months after I finished school. I come home on weekends because I like hanging out with my parents - and because my mom is doing a weekend course and needs help with the household. I generally don't come home during vacations except for weekends and christmas holidays.

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Old 03-30-2012, 07:56 AM
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I moved out with my boyfriend (we had been together for 4 1/2yrs. at the time) when I had just turned 22. We bought a house together, so it was a pretty big deal.

But, I moved like.. 5mi. away from my parents LOL. I didn't plan it that way, just happened to find a great house that was that close. It's worked out really nicely though, because they come watch my pets if we go to a dog show or something.. and I do the same for them.

But I'm very close with my parents (I even work with my dad at our company), I'm sure some people want to get as far away as possible!

The first few months was just weird for me, but I never really had any depression or anything like that.
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Old 03-30-2012, 09:01 AM
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I moved out when I was 18. Went into the dorms in college and cried myself to sleep for the first week. Then I moved back home for the summer and was like, NEVER AGAIN. Lol. I moved 2 1/2 hours away and have not moved back since. We currently live about two hours away from my parents and I think it's perfect. We don't visit very often but I always have the option and that makes all the difference (to me). And I am a very family oriented person - my dad used to worry about me in high school because I didn't go out partying, I worked and hung out with my family all the time. LOL.

It's going to be hard at first. But once you get used to it, it's SO nice to be on your own (or on your own with the person of your choice ).

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Old 03-30-2012, 09:23 AM
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I left for college a few months after I turned 18. I lived in the dorms (I had my own bedroom but shared a bathroom with one other girl) and I HATED it. I ended up going home EVERY single weekend. I was dating my now husband at the time who was still in high school which made the home sickness worse (he lived about 2 miles from my parents). I scheduled all of my spring classes on Tuesdays and Thursdays, so I would be able to pack up on Thursday night and drive 3 hours south to go home until Monday night.

The following year Ian came up to the same college I was at, which made things MUCH better. I hardly ever went home.

Now, after living on my own for 8 years, I could NEVER imagine moving back with my parents and sister. I LOVE the freedom I have.

It's definitely hard at first, especially when you have a good home life and love your family. It gets easier, and soon you'll be sooo happy being on your own!

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Old 03-30-2012, 09:29 AM
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Right after high school, moved to college. Rental house, not a dorm, so I could have Ilsa.

I didn't find it hard at all, but I'm a fairly independent person.

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Old 03-30-2012, 09:39 AM
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Originally Posted by ravennr View Post
Phonecalls make the transition much easier. Also, even if it's weird, I think that having my mom's recipes helps to keep me close to her. When I make her recipes for dinner sometimes, it's like she's there with me. It sounds silly but it's just something that comforts me.

I call my mom every single day even when we have nothing new to say lol. it definitely helps to be able to talk to her all the time.

it does get easier. it's not a daily struggle to be away from them now or anything but I do miss them. The hardest is when they come here for a visit and then the day they leave I'm a weepy mess. Sometimes I just WANT MY MOMMY lol

I agree too that making things that remind me of her help too. LIke last night I made sort of a shepherds pie type thing (except really not at all like shepherds pie but I don't know how else to describe it LOL) and I made a crust for the top and then hubby laughed and pointed at my pants... I had flour handprints all over my pants. That is such a "my mom" thing lol. when we used to bake cookies together for christmas when i was a kid we would both end up covered in flour and our dogs back (she was black) was white with flour too hahaha

So those moments make feel closer to her too

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Old 03-30-2012, 10:47 AM
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I don't have a happy leaving the nest story. Lol

I jumped out of my mother's house first chance I got, 18. It was an often escalating bomb threat. There was a lot of choices she made about my life, and of course it was always my life and my opportunities that suffered - whether it was a job or school or something as simple as learning to drive. I tried quitting cold turkey, but she would always draw me back, playing "good mommy" and the next thing I knew I was paying out again. Didn't matter if it was my wallet or my time, or she was guilt tripping me about the dogs SHE was supposed to care for. It was always "my" fault. The more I tried to distance myself, the more "hateful, childish, evil" so on and so on I became. Her husband often sent me threatening phone calls and texts, and also - I swear - sabotaged my car.

Last time I went anywhere near that house was to get Zander and get the hell out. Even then, I was obviously evil, spiteful, and selfish because I wanted MY dog.....and I was "so wrong for taking him away from the only home he had known for 7 years". Because, you know, dogs are obviously ruined for life if they actually get the **** out of a house they've been stuck in for years, tormented and lacking even the basic of care.

Ooooh. Blood boiling.

Short story; I'm glad I moved out as soon as possible. And it's done. Her, and the rest of my family, completely cut off from my life. My only regret is that my little brother is still there.
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Old 03-30-2012, 11:54 AM
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I moved 7 hours away to college when I was 18. Decided that wasn't far enough away to really feel like being away, so after a semester I transferred to a school across the country. I came home the first summer and was bored and annoyed at living at home (despite a full time internship and summer classes at the community college), and never came back again for longer than 3 weeks at a time. My second summer I got an internship on the east coast, and then I graduated after my 3rd year and started my full time job in DC. I now go home once or twice a year for a week at a time.
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