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Old 03-02-2012, 06:04 AM
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Honestly, it does take time. I've been living in the UK for a few months now and I still have moments where I miss home and friends and everything I know. I'm totally out of my comfort zone here and I'm sure you are too. At least for me I know it's temporary (I'm moving back home to Canada in the summer), I can't imagine how hopeless I'd feel if it were permanent (plus, not to mention I'm here for a university course, so it's not like I'm stuck at home all day which would be terrible). It sounds like the two of you need to sit down and have a good talk and sort everything out. It sounds like Macon might be a good compromise if you're able to find work there.

My best advice .. think for yourself. It might sound selfish, but it is YOUR life, and these years really are crucial in determining what you're going to do and who you're going to become. You might end up resenting him more if you feel like he's holding you back. Not saying that you feel that way now, but you just never know.
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Old 03-02-2012, 06:11 AM
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Honestly, it does take time. I've been living in the UK for a few months now and I still have moments where I miss home and friends and everything I know. I'm totally out of my comfort zone here and I'm sure you are too. At least for me I know it's temporary (I'm moving back home to Canada in the summer), I can't imagine how hopeless I'd feel if it were permanent (plus, not to mention I'm here for a university course, so it's not like I'm stuck at home all day which would be terrible). It sounds like the two of you need to sit down and have a good talk and sort everything out. It sounds like Macon might be a good compromise if you're able to find work there.

My best advice .. think for yourself. It might sound selfish, but it is YOUR life, and these years really are crucial in determining what you're going to do and who you're going to become. You might end up resenting him more if you feel like he's holding you back. Not saying that you feel that way now, but you just never know.
Thank you.

That is my biggest fear, resenting him. I do not ever want to do that but it could happen, which sucks.
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Old 03-02-2012, 06:25 AM
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Yeah, you just never know. Especially if you wait it out now, and a couple years down the line you feel like you could have done a lot more with this time. I mean it is your youth, right? (I assume so anyway, I'm not quite sure how old you are, but it sounds like you're probably around my age. I'm 21)
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Yeah, you just never know. Especially if you wait it out now, and a couple years down the line you feel like you could have done a lot more with this time. I mean it is your youth, right? (I assume so anyway, I'm not quite sure how old you are, but it sounds like you're probably around my age. I'm 21)
I agree with you.
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Old 03-02-2012, 07:21 AM
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like many others here, it just took time.

I moved down here to PA and that was the first time that I'd been away from my family, heck I didn't even live on my own before that. I lived with and took care of my dad. That was REALLY hard for me. I would cry my eyes out at night thinking about how my dad must be home all alone eating baloney sandwiches and wearing dirty clothes cause he can't do the laundry or something like that lol. I wanted to go back SO badly. To be honest, I don't know how we made it through that first year because I was so depressed and all I did was sit around the apartment in my pajamas barely even showering and I was moody and all over the map. I didn't know at the time that I was depressed.

Then I did go back without Brian. I lived back up in Canada for a year (I had an apartment and my dad rented the extra room for me) and it was then that I realized how much I missed PA. I didn't want to live in harrisburg anymore... but I also didn't want to live in London Ontario anymore.

Now? I couldn't IMAGINE being anywhere else. Lancaster, PA is my HOME. I love it here and I could never go back to my hometown... it's not the town I grew up in anymore. Now it just seems run down and the neighborhood I grew up in is now one of the worst areas in the city. it's just not the place from my childhood.

So it could be that it just really takes time. being away from your family (especially if it's for the first time) is really hard but it does get easier. To make it easier on me I started calling my mom every single day just to chat. maybe you could call your dad everyday and make it a routine to call just to chat about your day. even if it's just a bunch of "well we didn't do much so uhhhhh I don't have much to add"... it doesn't matter just hearing their voice helps.
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Old 03-02-2012, 07:30 AM
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like many others here, it just took time.

I moved down here to PA and that was the first time that I'd been away from my family, heck I didn't even live on my own before that. I lived with and took care of my dad. That was REALLY hard for me. I would cry my eyes out at night thinking about how my dad must be home all alone eating baloney sandwiches and wearing dirty clothes cause he can't do the laundry or something like that lol. I wanted to go back SO badly. To be honest, I don't know how we made it through that first year because I was so depressed and all I did was sit around the apartment in my pajamas barely even showering and I was moody and all over the map. I didn't know at the time that I was depressed.

Then I did go back without Brian. I lived back up in Canada for a year (I had an apartment and my dad rented the extra room for me) and it was then that I realized how much I missed PA. I didn't want to live in harrisburg anymore... but I also didn't want to live in London Ontario anymore.

Now? I couldn't IMAGINE being anywhere else. Lancaster, PA is my HOME. I love it here and I could never go back to my hometown... it's not the town I grew up in anymore. Now it just seems run down and the neighborhood I grew up in is now one of the worst areas in the city. it's just not the place from my childhood.

So it could be that it just really takes time. being away from your family (especially if it's for the first time) is really hard but it does get easier. To make it easier on me I started calling my mom every single day just to chat. maybe you could call your dad everyday and make it a routine to call just to chat about your day. even if it's just a bunch of "well we didn't do much so uhhhhh I don't have much to add"... it doesn't matter just hearing their voice helps.
Thank you, this made me feel so much better <3

I call my dad everyday as it is, I just haven't seen him since TJ and I moved in together when he brought my furniture down on Nov 4th and before that I haven't seen him since late July/early August. I'm just not use to being away from him. Being a daddy girl can suck sometimes lol
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Thank you, this made me feel so much better <3

I call my dad everyday as it is, I just haven't seen him since TJ and I moved in together when he brought my furniture down on Nov 4th and before that I haven't seen him since late July/early August. I'm just not use to being away from him. Being a daddy girl can suck sometimes lol
yeah it was the same with me. I'd lived with one of my parents my whole life and I wasn't ever planning on moving out of my dads house because I was convinced he couldn't take care of himself lol turns out he CAN he just didn't WANT to lol.

Now the most difficult part is being away from my mom. now that I am a mom, I want my MOMMY lol. it's always going to be hard to be away from your family but, in my experience, it gets easier with time.

The key may be getting out of the town you are currently in and moving to one more suited to you guys and your lifestyle, things you enjoy, etc. If you find a place you love it makes it that much easier.

Let me also just add that after moving away from my dad and then moving back to canada for that year and living with him again... OMG.... I LOVE my dad but I couldn't live with him again lol. I think I could live with my mom quite easily but my dad would drive me bonkers. I never noticed it when I lived with him because it was just what I was used to but after being on my own those little idiosyncrasy started to drive me CRAZY lol.
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Old 03-02-2012, 08:21 AM
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yeah it was the same with me. I'd lived with one of my parents my whole life and I wasn't ever planning on moving out of my dads house because I was convinced he couldn't take care of himself lol turns out he CAN he just didn't WANT to lol.

Now the most difficult part is being away from my mom. now that I am a mom, I want my MOMMY lol. it's always going to be hard to be away from your family but, in my experience, it gets easier with time.

The key may be getting out of the town you are currently in and moving to one more suited to you guys and your lifestyle, things you enjoy, etc. If you find a place you love it makes it that much easier.

Let me also just add that after moving away from my dad and then moving back to canada for that year and living with him again... OMG.... I LOVE my dad but I couldn't live with him again lol. I think I could live with my mom quite easily but my dad would drive me bonkers. I never noticed it when I lived with him because it was just what I was used to but after being on my own those little idiosyncrasy started to drive me CRAZY lol.
Well TJ and I have talked about moving out of this town when our lease is up in May. I think that will help A LOT, like extremely.
Even if its just in the next town over, it will help out so much.
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We had three years where we lived sixty miles from Jon's family, and 15 hours from mine. Now we're 6 hours from my family and 15 from his... It sucks on both accounts.

Could you find like, a midway point and move there so its only two yours for each of you to go home when you can?
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We had three years where we lived sixty miles from Jon's family, and 15 hours from mine. Now we're 6 hours from my family and 15 from his... It sucks on both accounts.

Could you find like, a midway point and move there so its only two yours for each of you to go home when you can?
It does suck
That's why we are talking about moving to Macon or Perry.
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