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Old 03-01-2012, 06:13 PM
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Please do not be harsh about this. I am coming to yall as yall are considered my friends and I am very lost right now. I wish I could just get a hug and it all be over with, but nothing is that simple, it seems.

As yall know I am with TJ, been with him since June 14th, been living together since Nov. 4th.
I love him. He is everything to me.
But I am so unhappy. It has NOTHING to do with TJ, but has everything to do with that I can't find a job, I can't go back to school right now unless I go through Penn Foster or Ashworth (which I am not to comfortable doing, but I want to go back to school so bad!), my relationship with my mom, I miss my dad & grandma & friends (who live about 4 hours north of me around Atlanta).
I have family and friends where I live but I can never depend on them and I can never talk to them, so I feel like I don't have a connection with them and they aren't really "here".

I have considered moving back to my dad's. Where I have friends and family, my hobbies like horses, dogs, camping, hunting, and I know I'll be happy.

But my unhappiness is affecting the way I feel about everything.
TJ treats me so good and takes care of me, but for some reason, its not making me happy anymore.

I don't know what to do. Each situation has is pros and cons. Whether its staying down here with TJ or moving back to my dad's. I know TJ will move up there in the same area as my dad so him and I can stay together plus have all the benefits of being back up near my dad but that would make him unhappy cause all his family is down here and his family is VERY VERY close. And I don't want to be selfish and say "well if you want to stay with me, you have to move up where my daddy is" I can't do that. I won't do that. I cannot take TJ from his family. I don't feel he is keeping me from my family either.

I am just at a cross roads.
I want to just go with the flow and ride this out and see what happens but I don't think I can. I am very decision oriented. I am a planner and a list maker. I am constantly running through plans about this in my head and constantly making list about this in my head.

Plus being off my BC and my hormones going crazy and being stressed out is NOT helping this situation, at all.

I am confused. I guess I just needed to vent and whine a bit. I feel a bit better now.

If you read all of this <3
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Old 03-01-2012, 06:28 PM
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((((((( HUGS )))))

Sometimes doing the right thing is the hardest but in the end you'll be happy you did it. Is there anyway you and TJ can move closer to your family?
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Old 03-01-2012, 06:29 PM
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I know this feeling. I moved away from my family and am not happy. Though my situation sucked where I used to live... living here doesn't make me happy. I miss my family. I miss my friends. I miss the area I grew up in.

I don't think it's been long enough to fully adjust to where you have been living. It can take awhile to really feel at home somewhere. Are you doing anything for yourself? I know for me just trying to get involved in things that interest me in the area I live in now has helped.

Worse comes to worst it sounds like you can go home. Why not try and make your current living situation work and if all else fails... well go back. Sometimes change is what we need and other times it just reminds us what we needed was what we had.
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Sometimes doing the right thing is the hardest but in the end you'll be happy you did it. Is there anyway you and TJ can move closer to your family?
Thank you.
Yes we could, its just finding at least him a good job. I know the Macon area is half way between here and my dad so he could be close to his family and I could be close to mine. But I don't want to be selfish.
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Old 03-01-2012, 06:30 PM
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Oh nevermind.. you answered my question in your post.. I just reread the whole thing.. lol!! Do what you know whats best for YOU. Follow your heart and the rest will follow
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Old 03-01-2012, 06:33 PM
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I know this feeling. I moved away from my family and am not happy. Though my situation sucked where I used to live... living here doesn't make me happy. I miss my family. I miss my friends. I miss the area I grew up in.

I don't think it's been long enough to fully adjust to where you have been living. It can take awhile to really feel at home somewhere. Are you doing anything for yourself? I know for me just trying to get involved in things that interest me in the area I live in now has helped.

Worse comes to worst it sounds like you can go home. Why not try and make your current living situation work and if all else fails... well go back. Sometimes change is what we need and other times it just reminds us what we needed was what we had.
Well where I live now, I lived here from the time I was 4 (lived in Germany from 1-4 yrs old) until I was 14, then moved to where my dad is now when I was 14 until I was 19. I moved back down here to go to school. So I'm not new to this area. But I just don't feel like I am home. TJ and I live not to far from where my mom does, which is the house I grew up in before I moved up to dad's.

But I understand what you are saying. I am going to give this situation the benefit of the doubt and try and make it work. But I hate being unhappy. I've never felt like this.

Where dad lives is where I consider home. I am a daddy's girl and even though I haven't lived with him since I was 19, it still sucks. I hate being away from him. I just want to feel like I am home, I guess.
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I've been there too. except mine was a whole country away.

Only you have the power to make yourself happy.

What can you do to fulfill yourself a little where you are? Any volunteer opportunities?
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Oh nevermind.. you answered my question in your post.. I just reread the whole thing.. lol!! Do what you know whats best for YOU. Follow your heart and the rest will follow
Thank you <3


Paige - I do some things for myself. I've gotten into reading (which I've NEVER done), I do yoga throughout the day (sometimes 3-4 times a day), I go jogging, I've started writing a book, I play video games (we have an xbox and I am a BIG call of duty nerd). I just miss everything at dad's; the horses, the dogs, camping, etc etc.
I can't have pets where I live. I want a dog so bad its killing me.
I have a fish tank with some fish but honestly, you can't do much with a fish.
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Old 03-01-2012, 06:37 PM
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I've been there too. except mine was a whole country away.

Only you have the power to make yourself happy.

What can you do to fulfill yourself a little where you are? Any volunteer opportunities?
The only place to volunteer here right now is the animal shelter. And they are looking for people to give the dogs their last walk (and stuff like that) before they put them to sleep, and I cannot do. That would make me even more depressed and Lord knows I can't handle that.

The YMCA will need volunteers but that won't be available until May.
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I haven't gone back because I know it's a lot healthier for me to live where I am... but if I was seriously miserable with where I was for no good reason other than wanting to go back I'd probably go back.
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