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Old 01-14-2012, 10:14 AM
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We talked about it last night. He actually brought it up and asked me if it made me uncomfortable as my friend Breana (best friend from back home, I talk to her two hours every day) told him off for it. I said I find it odd and wish he'd make his own friends instead because he's making the situation uncomfortable for me. He then asked if I wanted him to not go.

and I really am not the type of person to make a choice for someone else, so I told him that's up for him to decide but he knows how I feel about it.
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Old 01-14-2012, 12:14 PM
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I've never been good at "playing the game," but I would also suggest that if you acted like you didn't care and distance yourself a bit, maybe he would wonder why you didn't care and then gravitate back towards you. Hell, I don't know. Like I said, I'm no good at this.
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Old 01-14-2012, 01:47 PM
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We talked about it last night. He actually brought it up and asked me if it made me uncomfortable as my friend Breana (best friend from back home, I talk to her two hours every day) told him off for it. I said I find it odd and wish he'd make his own friends instead because he's making the situation uncomfortable for me. He then asked if I wanted him to not go.

and I really am not the type of person to make a choice for someone else, so I told him that's up for him to decide but he knows how I feel about it.
Glad you talked about it. the best thing you can do in a situation like this is be HONEST. if it bugs you... TELL him. it doesn't matter if you are being irrational or not. He still needs to know how you feel and if you feel off about it then the best thing to do is tell him it makes you feel off and why it makes you feel off.

if you don't tell him how you feel then you can't very well be upset if he went. He's not a mind reader and even if he were... it's not fair to anyone to play guessing games in a relationship. total and brutal honesty even if it's embarassing or irrational or whatever the case may be.

so I'm glad you guys talked and you told him how you feel. Now it's up to him to decide how he wants to proceed now that he knows your feelings on the issue.
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Old 01-14-2012, 02:02 PM
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He doesn't get it and is making me sound like I'm being crazy.
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Old 01-14-2012, 02:05 PM
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He doesn't get it and is making me sound like I'm being crazy.
how frustrating. I'm sorry.
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Old 01-14-2012, 02:06 PM
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He's being really weird about it. I guess my friend Breana told him off for it because he brought it up out of the blue to her. He doesn't ever talk to her unless we've had a fight and he wants her opinion.

Now I find it sketchy that'd he'd talk to her out of the blue because he know it'll get back to me. It feels like he's trying to cover his tracks now.

I went from being like "DUDE BACK OFF MY FRIEND" to "You're being sketchy" within a few days. Blah!
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Old 01-14-2012, 02:31 PM
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I think it's strange that he, of all people (being quiet and less sociable in general) would want to strike up a friendship with someone he doesn't even know at all because she's "cute." I wouldn't like it. But it may be true what Bahamutt says as far as keeping a little low key until and unless it materializes into something. It would be a red flag to me. I hope this doesn't become a trend with him. Best of luck.
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I wouldn't really feel comfortable with it. Picking ONE person he's never interacted with before to hang out with, alone, and his only thing to say about her is she's cute? Ergh.

You're being really rational, Paige. I'd be more than a little irked. "I guess you could come" is kind of a rude thing to say to your girlfriend, lol, especially when the person you want to hang out with alone is one of said girlfriend's friends.
Sometimes being rational turns into rationalizing before you realize you've crossed that line.

This is all sounding WAY too familiar to me. Almost verbatim.
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Old 01-14-2012, 04:21 PM
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It sounds very sketchy to me....
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Old 01-14-2012, 06:15 PM
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I can tell you that of the guys I know who are in successful relationships, they generally have no problem calling other girls "cute." They and their wives/girlfriends may even point out cute members of the opposite sex to one another. BUT! They do not then seek those people out and form friendships with them which exclude their partner. That is nervous-making. I would probably back off and watch discreetly. But I'm also single, so I'm operating from a nothing-to-lose frame of reference. ETA: I think no matter what you do at this point, its all going to depend on him. He knows how you feel. Up to him to man up and act right.
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