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Old 01-14-2012, 12:13 AM
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Originally Posted by Paige View Post
I dunno. Cute girl willing to get stoned with him is all I am coming up with. She also has her son that day. I was invited by her to come too, then later he said he guessed I could come too... but the tone was there for me to pick up a hint that he'd rather me not. I dunno it just all screams odd to me.
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Old 01-14-2012, 12:34 AM
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I am a fairly trusting person by nature, but this makes my spidey senses tingle... I would be watchful were I you.
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Old 01-14-2012, 12:35 AM
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Originally Posted by Bahamutt99 View Post
I am a fairly trusting person by nature, but this makes my spidey senses tingle... I would be watchful were I you.
Pretty much exactly this.
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Old 01-14-2012, 02:39 AM
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I wouldn't really feel comfortable with it. Picking ONE person he's never interacted with before to hang out with, alone, and his only thing to say about her is she's cute? Ergh.

You're being really rational, Paige. I'd be more than a little irked. "I guess you could come" is kind of a rude thing to say to your girlfriend, lol, especially when the person you want to hang out with alone is one of said girlfriend's friends.
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Old 01-14-2012, 02:54 AM
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I too am pretty trusting (heck my boyfriend is one of those guys who has a bunch of female friends.) and this seems like a huge red flag to me.

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Old 01-14-2012, 04:52 AM
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You're stuck in the "i must not appear irrational and jealous" camp, however there are times you can question.

It's a tricky one. I trust my boyfriend, but he hasn't selected one of my "cute" friends to spend alone time with.... That would weird me out. A lot.
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Old 01-14-2012, 09:18 AM
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I'm pretty trusting, too, but that just doesn't sit right with me. In cases like this, when you're usually pretty rational, and your gut screams at you, go with your gut.

Also, he might not know that it's her day to have her child, but I think getting high around kids is just not ok. I have nothing against pot, but I guess there's a time and a place? And it's certainly not around kids.
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Old 01-14-2012, 09:30 AM
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Maybe you're trying to be rational because you don't want to break up with him, but in my opinion, this is not a good idea. I would tell him that after thinking about what he wants to do, you are not comfortable with it. See what he says. I would be very suspicious. Just because you think he & she won't do anything, doesn't mean it won't happen & you may not know about it. My husband would say men don't think with their heads (brains)!
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Old 01-14-2012, 09:39 AM
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No way!Big red alarms...why would he even give the reason "she's cute" as a excuse to hang out with!?
Nope,I would have just said "Wtf?Get your own friends,leave mine alone",saying that...any female friend I have would think it weird if my BF just added them on Facebook and asked to hang out.They would most likely let me know and be like ..."uh...."
Anyway you sound very calm and rational (well done),so just say to him

"You know what,I'm not completely comfortable with this situation.Why would you tell me you think she's cute?That made me feel uncomfortable!I think it's great that maybe you made a connection with someone and you think you could be friends.If that's the case then go ahead,and hang out with them but can you honestly tell me that's all it is?You also made me feel a bit down when you said "I guess you can come",is there a reason you don't want me there?She is my friend too.

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Old 01-14-2012, 10:06 AM
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Can't you just say, "Why on Earth would you want to hang out with her without me? You don't even really know her."

That just seems totally weird. Why wouldn't he want you to go? Wouldn't he feel more comfortable with a buffer there since they may have nothing to talk about considering they don't know each other?

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