umm i cant decide ~warning emotional/umm stuff~

[-bogart-]

I was visiting on of my favorite gossip sights and came across this.

Duggers take pic of miscarried baby and display for memorial.
http://photos.tmz.com/galleries/dugg...cent&id=105263
Click links to picture page .

At first glance , i was like WTF??? Then I was all ~AHHHHHH DEAD BABY FEET~
Then it was all ~How the F..... could a mom snap pictures at a time like that~

Now i dont know how I feel . Such a touching message really but it creeps me out.

So what are you thoughts.

[AllieMackie]

I don't necessarily think the photos are gross or anything... personally I would never do that, to me it's creepy. I imagine there are more folks who might take photos like that then we might know, since not everyone has their entire lives recorded on TV, LOL.

I think what's creepy/disgusting is the photos of a wide-smiling Duggar family all dressed in black on a TV talk(?) show, with pics of their dead sibling plastered around... not to mention the photo with the text "Michelle holding Jubilee's hand!" like we're supposed to be amazed that she's holding the hand of a dead fetus... I dunno, it all strikes me as half creepifying, and half disgust at reality television.

[sparks19]

it's very sad but I can understand taking a photo. I don't know how I feel about plastering it all over for everyone to see but I can understand the photo itself.

I would be heartbroken, devestated, inconsolable but I can see wanting something to remember that baby even though he/she (?) was taken too soon.

I know Nancy has posted about families in her maternity ward that have had photos taken. it's the only physical thing they have from a child they never got to be with but always loved. I think everyone deals with grief differently. some need that "momento".

[-bogart-]

Yeah , after i think about it , I do think the picture is okay , but i do agree the plastered everywhere thing creeps me out.

I dunno maybe it has something to do with her , and my feeling she is exploiting her religion and kids for money. Like it was all "well i got to get all i can out of this one" horrid if you look at it that away. Maybe i am just cranky and need some chocolate. hahaha.

[Jules]

Well, it's all business, I guess to them? I mean, I would never ever in a million years want my personal life on TV for everyone to watch. That itself is kinda creepy/weird to me.

[Renee750il]

Originally Posted by Jules

Well, it's all business, I guess to them? I mean, I would never ever in a million years want my personal life on TV for everyone to watch. That itself is kinda creepy/weird to me.

This.

What's taken me aback is that I'm finding myself feeling way more sympathetic toward the Sister Wives families. They don't seem to be trying to hide the not-so-perfect stuff, like talking openly about dealing with problems with their kids and problems their kids are dealing with or even their own doubts and and occasional fears and little jealousies.

[-bogart-]

Originally Posted by Renee750il

This.

What's taken me aback is that I'm finding myself feeling way more sympathetic toward the Sister Wives families. They don't seem to be trying to hide the not-so-perfect stuff, like talking openly about dealing with problems with their kids and problems their kids are dealing with or even their own doubts and and occasional fears and little jealousies.

This ^^^

I do seem to be loving the sister wives. Even though i feel it is they are secretly Bisexual . I dunno why , just do.
I love how honest they are with each other, and the kids are all included , even the one by another man .
The first wife is rockin and i wanna be her best friend ,Mari is her name i think.
ow i also wanna work out with them , i wish there gym was in new orleans. i woudl join.lol

[nancy2394]

I have taken many photos of deceased babies over the last several years. Most parents want to have the photos done. It may seem morbid to some.... but to some of those families, I think it's a way to have some closure as well as a memory. It's always a sad moment for me when I have to take those kind of photos. I think that photo the duggers did was a very tasteful photo and a way for them to express that although their child didn't make it, their child mattered. As far as plastering it all over the place... i have no idea about that. It would be a personal thing for me... i'd only share it with people that i was close with.

[zoe08]

I don't think it is bad at all that they took pictures. I am sure I would want pictures too. And I don't think it was the mom taking them, I'm sure it was probably Ginger, since she is the photographer of the family, or maybe they had someone else take pictures for them.

Plastering them everywhere? Why because they are online, or because they put pictures up of their baby at her memorial service?

I don't see them as a "business" they have said many times that they feel it is more of a ministry. I think it is good that we have a good, Christian family willing to show their way of life, because everything else we see on TV shows is pretty much the opposite. If they were purposely doing it for business, I'm sure they would make up a bunch of drama just to up their ratings. But I have watched nearly every episode of their show and they don't seem like that at all. I just think people can't get over that there is a genuinely nice, Christian family willing to share their life with others.

I think it is kind of sad that the world is so messed up, that we can't even imagine there might actually be a happy family with a good marriage and house full of happy children.

[sparks19]

Originally Posted by zoe08

I don't think it is bad at all that they took pictures. I am sure I would want pictures too. And I don't think it was the mom taking them, I'm sure it was probably Ginger, since she is the photographer of the family, or maybe they had someone else take pictures for them.

Plastering them everywhere? Why because they are online, or because they put pictures up of their baby at her memorial service?

I don't see them as a "business" they have said many times that they feel it is more of a ministry. I think it is good that we have a good, Christian family willing to show their way of life, because everything else we see on TV shows is pretty much the opposite. If they were purposely doing it for business, I'm sure they would make up a bunch of drama just to up their ratings. But I have watched nearly every episode of their show and they don't seem like that at all. I just think people can't get over that there is a genuinely nice, Christian family willing to share their life with others.

I think it is kind of sad that the world is so messed up, that we can't even imagine there might actually be a happy family with a good marriage and house full of happy children.

I do agree with this.

by plastering I meant putting it online. I don't think I'd want to share the pictures with everyone but like I said... everyone grieves differently. But I hold no ill will for this family. They live their lives a lot differently than I do but that doesn't make them wrong or bad people.

i really agree with the last part of your post