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Old 10-03-2005, 08:28 PM
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Ok, my husband said I am spoiling Lily and I hope that I am not. I sometimes let her sit in my lap and I will carry her in and out of the house if she refuses to walk. I let her up on the couch and let her take an afternoon nap with me. Is this spoiling, or just loving my puppy? I don't want her to grow up to be spoiled. Also he says I brush her too much. I brush her once a day for about fifteen to twenty minutes (only because she likes it so much and sits like a good girl when I'm brushing her). Am I brushing her too much, and if I am what will happen if she's brushed too much. I know I'm TOO paranoid with her but I can't help it, I don't want her to grow up to be a spoiled brat and think she can do whatever she wants. I know I wasn't like this with Hannah but Lily is just so poofy and cute you can't help but let her crawl up on the couch and sit on your lap.
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Old 10-03-2005, 09:06 PM
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LOL. No, you're not brushing her too much. That's good for her and good for your bond. I would try and coax her to go in and out on her own though, at least most of the time.

You know...some of those things you asked about are so hard to answer in black and white. You, first of all are second guessing yourself too much. This, in and of itself is showing a lack of confidence, which is understandable if you're not too familiar with this. BUT.....you do not want to pass this atmosphere onto your dog. That's where most people get into trouble. If you like taking naps with your dog, you should be able to do so. It's when you do want something your way or you do have some rules and you DON'T enforce them that you often get problems with a dog. Decide....write down on a piece of paper what you want from your dog, what things you expect, what you don't want your dog to be doing, how you want your dog to behave in certain situations and then write down a plan on how you're going to teach those things and how you're going to enforce them, even when you're distracted by conversations with people or trying to get things done around the house etc. Teach your dog manners and have your dog earn some of the things she likes and needs. Be firm, consistant and insistant, but patient, calm and rewarding. Don't let her have everything her way. But...you have to teach her what you want, show her what you mean. And make it rewarding when she complies.

I love taking naps with my dogs...a little squishy on the couch with one Chihuahua, one Chi mix and one 95 LB Doberman. My Chi sits on my lap lots of times while I'm on the computer. I wouldn't think of not having a Chihuahua sit on my lap. And my Doberman can't be on the couch with me without having at least on body part touching me or draped over me....not in his vocabulary. LOL. Is this spoiling? Well, not if I'm not having any behavior problems. My dogs do as they're told, follow the rules, are polite when they want something, don't knock me down going outside, wait for things, come when called. They don't beg or whine, not much anyhow. LOL. Not one of them has ever once showed any miniscule hint of resource guarding toward me or any other type of "nastieness." They get along most all the time...sometimes one little vocalization from Chuli or Jose toward Lyric when Lyric is being a pest and wanting to play and they don't want to, but nothing much. Lyric never ever has shown one iota of nastiness to them. He is such a sweet natured, happy two year old Doberman. I just love that dog. And my little Chi chi's are awfully sweet too, spoiled if one wants to call all that stuff spoiled. But spoiled is really, by definition ruined....like food that's gone bad. So, unless you let her have her own way about everything and tell you how to run your household, you shouldn't have problems at all. Be a clear, confident, gentle, but firm leader and she'll repect you. Decide ahead of time what you want and then make a plan to go by.
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Old 10-03-2005, 09:22 PM
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Ah spoil the baby !!!! LOL!! I used to brush my pups at least 10 to 15 minutes every day. Granted they were 4 to 9 weeks old, but they learned the words stand, lay, over,sit etc from day one. ( Checked " THE" book !!??) The lay on their back while you do the tummy to me was the most important... it's the submission position, but you are pleasing them with the soft strokes and voice tones. Don't confuse Lily though with you can nap with me, but can't sleep with me.....just be consistant ..
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Old 10-03-2005, 09:28 PM
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A puppy is considered a puppy (a baby) until about 2 years old. If you enjoy spending time with your pup, and your pup enjoys it, what's the harm? I wish more owners were as loving to their pets as you are....and I am not talking about people here. We all know who we mean.... you have seen, heard and read about it. Take joy in your involvement....dogs don't live as long as most humans, so enjoy your time and embrace it. In your latter years, you will be able to reflect on fond memories.
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Old 10-03-2005, 09:46 PM
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spoiling your baby will not hurt them unless you are going to do something special and it wont mess that up it will just make it expensive.... we spent 120 for our dobes bed... two of them at 60 a piece... and they get a toy everytime we go to petsmart... LOL... there is nothing wrong with spoiling the baby...she is a baby.. just love her to death and give hre what she wants
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Old 10-03-2005, 09:58 PM
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I take naps occasionally with my dogs on the couch or watch TV or read with them on the couch with me. But, I don't like them to sleep with me in my bed. I don't have room for my Dobe because I like lots of space when I sleep and the Chi's make me too hot. I just don't sleep as well that way. Plus I prefer not to have dog hair in my bed, although if it's time to wash the sheets anyhow, sometimes I let the Chi's sleep with me. Normally they sleep on a bed on the floor next to me or in their crate or on the couch....where ever they like. So, they don't seem confused at all. They accept the difference in that respect just fine.

They also can learn that it's OK to be on my couch, but not on my mother's couch when we visit. They just somehow understand when you show them and don't scold them, but put them back down, say "off" or "stay off" and reward when they do...took a few repititions and they had it. At my daughter's, they are allowed on the couch. So when we go there, up on the couch they go. We go to my Mom's and they stay on the floor. LOL. Smarter than we sometimes give them credit for. But at home, if they're allowed on a particular piece of furniture one time and then not, then yes, then not...that's no good.

But my bed is too high for the Chi's to get up on by themselves and Lyric knows that's always off limits for him. No exceptions with my bed for him. LOL. I have a silk comforter and I don't want black hair and mud on it. LOL. He has a plush, cushy bed of his own right next to me. It all works out. Just decide how you're going to do it and then do it. LOL.
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I let the dogs nap with me but at night they are in their crates. I guess that I'm just too worried that I am going to turn her into a spoiled poodle that needs to eat out of crystal bowls and drink nothing but bottled water. My husband keeps telling me that if I keep brushing her all her fur is gonna fall out (and sometimes he jokes around and calls her Q-tip head just to be funny because he knows it makes me mad).
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The lay on their back while you do the tummy to me was the most important... it's the submission position,
She does that too. She will lay on her back and let me brush her belly and she'll usually start falling asleep. She basically lets me do what I want with her, touch her anywhere, I tried the temperment test and she did really good on it, she got mostly 3's with like two 4's.
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Good job !!!! That's important !!
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Old 10-03-2005, 11:34 PM
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Good job !!!! That's important !!
I wanted to make sure that I got a puppy that would be ok with my daughter when they were full grown. She did much better than her sister did on the tests which is why we choose her.
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