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Old 07-14-2010, 02:34 PM
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How would you feel if your child requested you prove you didn't take drugs?

Just out of curiosity
I'd laugh at them. My business as a parent is my own business.

Your children are your responsibility as a parent.

As a parent, you are their legal guardian and have the responsibility of raising them. Not the other way around.
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All I can say it that my husband's parents drug him to get tested, even though he said he wasn't doing drugs, and when the first test came back negative, they went further and further with it because they didn't believe him.

To this day, he has not forgiven them for it.
well, if after a negative test they told me they still thought I was doing drugs and lying and then started going more and more into my personal space... yeah I wouldn't ever forgive that.

Had it stopped at the test? then I would have just been like, happy now?
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Unless you have a reason for distrust, I feel it unnecessary and detrimental to the relationship.

Yes, kids lie (everyone does). Does this mean it's ok to polygraph?
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meh, my parents can test me whenever they want to, I would not care.
However, they trust me and know that I would never do anything like that, so there is/was never the need.
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How would you feel if your child requested you prove you didn't take drugs?

Just out of curiosity
If I requested she do it and she requested that if she had to I should too... I'd be all for it. Lead by example I suppose
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All I can say it that my husband's parents drug him to get tested, even though he said he wasn't doing drugs, and when the first test came back negative, they went further and further with it because they didn't believe him.

To this day, he has not forgiven them for it.
well yes this is way out of line.

If I had a reason I'd bring the test home. if the test was negative then it's negative. I wouldn't keep pushing and pushing and pushing. but if there was really something wrong that made me want to do the test in the first place I might take her to the doctors first before bringing home a test.

I'd rather have my kid be mad at me then be DEAD because no one paid attention
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I'd laugh at them. My business as a parent is my own business.

Your children are your responsibility as a parent.

As a parent, you are their legal guardian and have the responsibility of raising them. Not the other way around.
I asked how you would feel - not whether you would do it

It's all about how you view your relationship I feel.

If the relationship is at the point you are requesting drugs tests - I'd say you need some kind of help to remedy that.

It says a LOT.
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I asked how you would feel - not whether you would do it

It's all about how you view your relationship I feel.

If the relationship is at the point you are requesting drugs tests - I'd say you need some kind of help to remedy that.

It says a LOT.
I don't think kids being on drugs has anything to do with a bad relationship with their parents.

there are lots of kids with good parent child relationships who get into drugs and most kids aren't going to be like "hey mom I'm going out to get high because I got a bad grade and I'm depressed" that's not saying their relationship has failed.

But yes I'd say if you have reason to honestly suspect drug use in your child... that child needs help to overcome that and you need help in ways to best help your child overcome that.
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I asked how you would feel - not whether you would do it

It's all about how you view your relationship I feel.

If the relationship is at the point you are requesting drugs tests - I'd say you need some kind of help to remedy that.

It says a LOT.
And like I said, drug testing will be a non issue unless there is ever a reason to do so.

Part of the responsibility of being a parent is to keep your kids safe and healthy. I would never, ever, ever drug test unless there was a major reason I felt it necessary.

And no, I wouldn't like it if my kids asked me if I did drugs, but honestly I'd think they were joking. I'm a very open and honest person, and drugs will be a topic of early conversation with my children. I want my kids to be the same way with me.
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I would have been upset, My rents are very trusting of me and my brother and they know we are not stupid. I have never done drugs. Plus I know for a fact that my rents would have never asked that of me.

My brother on the other hand has smoked pot and does ocasinally. Do my rents know? Yes and do they care? No not really. They trust him and they know he will never do anything hard. Plus they did it when they were his age and it was never a big deal. My rents are really easy going and laid back. But that does not mean they would put up with my brother being constantly high and doing hard drugs because they wouldnt.

I think they might have made more of a big deal about it if he was doing it when he was younger, but we are both in out 20's.
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