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Old 09-18-2005, 07:47 PM
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I want everyone to know I had every intent on getting the cat and bringing it to the shelter mself when I realized she kept blowing me off when I'd ask her about getting the cat. I just had trouble catching the darn thing. When they first moved I saw the cat outside roaming around. I immediately called her on her cell phone and told her. She told me she knew he was out but that he had slipped out the door when they were moving stuff out of the house. I thought nothing more about it because that could happen. Then when it got out the second time and we caught it they said to put it in their garage that they were moving stuff out again and that her father in law accidently let the cat loose. So, again... I thought it was just a freak thing that it happened again. I know how crazy it is when you're moving. So at that time I really really thought they wanted the cat and were just having a difficult time with the move and once they got settled they'd come get him. I accused her of abandoning him and she totally denied that and said they were gonna keep him. If I could have caught him two days ago when I saw him he'd be alive now. Cuz I told her if she didn 't come get him I was taking him myself. So, I have a lot of guilt about this. But I tried several times to catch him. He was so timid being outdoors and he ran like a banchy when anyone tried to come near him.
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Old 09-18-2005, 08:19 PM
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Nancy...there's no sense in beating yourself over this. Your letter was good, you did what you could. Just let us know if they pick up the poor cat !! If they don't, bury it in their front yard as a memorial with a sign to tell all what horroble people they are/were !
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Old 09-18-2005, 08:51 PM
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How awful for you and your husband and daughter (and that poor kitty). It's a shame when people just can't live up to their responsibilities.
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Old 09-18-2005, 09:21 PM
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Nancy,
Please do not feel like this was your fault. This is a prime example of a neglectful cat owner. This is the owners fault for not taking the cat with them in the first place. I would not move furniture from a vacated house first, the first to go would be my animals. With the history of this neighbor and your good intentions, this is totally not your fault.

Don't feel bad about not putting this cat in a shelter, because she led you to believe that they still have interest in the cat, and were going to come for it.
If the cat had ownership (which it obviously did) it is not your responsiblity to rehome their cat.

I am just so sorry your children had to witness the effects of a neglectful owner.

I hope you can explain to them the cause and effect of the whole situation, maybe it will help them to understand.

Maybe you could drop the remains off at their new house, just as a reminder of their neglect.

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Old 09-18-2005, 10:11 PM
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Will they be back to their old house ??? I'd still build a huge memorial to remind them !!! Add balloons, etc !!
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Old 09-19-2005, 08:33 AM
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I'm sorry but I don't agree with everyone... What mattered here was the cat. I think you should have taken the cat to the shelter right away after they left him the first time, especially with what you know they had done with the dogs. How many times did she have to tell you she was going to take the cat before you took him there??? I understand being naive, but there are limits. Had it been someone I know, she would never have been my friend for one, and I would have taken the cat to the shelter at the first chance I had.

About the engine, well everyone is a bit careless sometimes, but I think your husband is right to feel guilty because he knew the cat had the habit of going there, and he didn't check.

Not trying to accuse you or anything, just giving my opinion. I agree that your friend is an idiot though, but that didn't make it right to let the poor cat roam around for a full month. It should have been obvious after a week that they were not going to get him.
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Old 09-19-2005, 09:05 AM
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You shouldnt feel any guilt at all. I dont know how everyones local humane society or animal shelter works but ours keeps a log of any and all animals you adopt from them, you have to show id, attend classes on caring for your animal etc. If you local dept. does this keeps track please by all means turn this nimwitt in to them and let them know. She has no business adopting any animal. I am sorry but animals are not like yesterdays newspaper you just todd them out when you are done with them. I am sorry your daughter had to witness this. Poor kitty.
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Old 09-19-2005, 09:37 AM
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Fran,

"Not trying to accuse you or anything, just giving my opinion" sure sounds like an accusation to me. And where do you get off insinuating I am some kind of piece of crap because this girl was my friend. I did not know she was such a bad pet owner until after the fact of becoming friends with her. And she has never actually neglected her pets or abused them. She'd decide they were too much work and find a home for them. I'm not saying that was right... because I don't think it was. The only thing that I considered neglectful was when she'd let one of her dogs go out loose to go the bathroom and it would run up and down the street. But should that have set a red flag off in my head??? I guess I should think ALL people that do things like that are bad pet owners then.

And I stand corrected... my hubby reminded me that the first two dogs I saw her with when they moved in were actually her sister in law's dogs that they were keeping because they were in the middle of moving themselves and when they got all settled the dogs went with them. But Cassie did have two other dogs that I do remember her getting at two different times and she found them to be too much and found new homes for them.

When I posted that post I was very upset and emotional. And I was wanting to talk about it and get some feelings off my chest that I was experiencing. And I just wanted to thank you fran for making me feel worse than I already do. And I'd like to point out that maybe YOU should make sure you check your engine each and everyday you go out to start it up because YOU are being careless not to check with all the stray cats everyone has. When I asked my hubby if he had checked the motor before starting it he told me that he thought they had come and got the cat cuz he hadn't seen him the past two days and he knew Cassie was just here two days prior saying she was gonna catch the cat and take it with her to her new house. And he also had NEVER seen the cat up in the motor on a hot sunny day either. It was always at night time he'd crawl up there.

As for taking the cat to the shelter the first two times I caught him... well, you just weren't here and didn't know all the circumstances. Did you not read the posting that explained that it was in the beginning when I caught the cat those two times and I safely put him in their garage at their request and at that time they sounded very sincere about being sorry the cat got loose and that they were DEFINATELY coming back to get him. That wasn't after several weeks of blowing me off about it... it was in the very beginning when they first started to move stuff out and weren't even officially moved out yet. They only recently have been staying at their new house.. they haven't even moved everything out yet. So, please don't sit there and act like I sat here for a month watching this cat be abandoned and suffer. I thought I was doing the right thing in the beginning because I'd be grateful if my animal got loose and a neighbor or friend caught it for me.. i'd be quite upset if they just up and took it to a shelter knowing it was mine and I was coming back for it. I myself wouldn't have gone to my new house without my pets... but Cassie obviously isn't me.

When I did realize she was just blowing smoke up my butt about it was when I could not catch the cat anymore. We baited traps with food and snuck up on it and almost caught him once or twice after that. But that cat became real timid and afraid and would run away before you could even get close to it. So, what was I suppose to do??? I had every intention of taking the cat to the shelter once I realized she wasn't coming back... but it's kind of hard to take it when you can't catch it... don't you think?

I think the way you stuck that knife in and twisted it all around was un called for. It was abvious how distressed I have been about the whole situation and what did it accomplish to make me out to be an airheaded ignorant person with blinders on?? Did it bring the cat back? Did it make all the irresponsible pet owners suddenly become responsible? I do feel everyone is entitled to their opinion and if that is yours... then so be it. But I would NEVER have come back with a reply like that to someone that was clearly having remorse for making the wrong decison and was looking for friendly support from other animal lovers. So, if it made you feel good to make me feel bad then more power to you.

For the rest of you who have been kind and made me feel a little better... thank you again.
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Old 09-19-2005, 10:51 AM
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Well sorry, but when you post such things on forums you must expect that some people won't agree with what you did. It's easy to blame others for things you could have avoided. So the reason I posted what I did was to make you realize that you could have done things differently, so that maybe next time you will. The fact that you already feel bad about it shows that you probably agree, too. So, I understand that you are upset about it, but look at it as a lesson.

And I never said you were a piece of crap. I just said I don't think I could have any friendship with someone who gets pets and gives them away to get another - which is what YOU said she did in your first post. That she did or didn't isn't even the problem really. But it's a PERSONAL opinion. Some people don't care what other people do with their pets, or like someone too much to resent them for that. There's nothing wrong with that. I know I wouldn't, but it's ME. To each his own. And yeah, I would certainly tell someone who leaves their dog loose in the street that they are irresponsible pet owners, because it IS...

And finally, I don't check my engine because 1) no way a cat can get in there, 2) none of the cats I know like to be around cars - or if someone gets in the car, they run away. But if I knew a cat tends to go in there... yes, I would check every single time.
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