Is it horrible that?

[PixieSticksandTricks]

I have absolutely no interest in a relationship? And that the thought of marriage and settling down with the same person for my entire life, and having a family......Just makes me cringe.

I know some of it has to do with Jesse. But alot of it is I just can't imagine myself as a mother or wife. I am okay with only having to worry about me. And of course the dogs. Its nice to know I can pick up and leave if I want to. Its a sense of freedom I like.

Im not saying I will never fall in love and get married. I can't predict the future. And the world is pretty big. But right now even a regular relationship seems too smothering and too much work.

Is it strange that im not chomping at the bit to get married and start a family like almost all of my friends my age?

Sorry I havent been on here alot. And this is a random post. But I was just wondering

[Zoom]

Nope, not at all! I'm getting rather close to 30 and I'm still ok with not being married and have very little to no interest in having babies. Most people my age have settled down and on their first, if not second, kid by this point. I am in a rather serious relationship, but I didn't go out looking for it, it just sort of happened. I'm still not sure if it'll end in marriage or if that's really and truly what I want.

Live your life, enjoy yourself, do things you want to do, so if and when you do find someone and things take a turn for the more conventional, you'll be ok with it and not filled with "but I never got a chance to..."

[Crowsfeet]

Not.at.all.... !

I think the american dream of having a spouse with children and a house or whathaveyou is old fashioned and at times, pretty narrow. This isn't to devalue anyones dream, as those things are definitely wonderful, they're just not right for everyone and if you don't have them, it certainly doesn't mean there is something wrong.

I don't know if I'll ever want to be married or have a child, let alone multiples. A dog has enough gravity right now, and while I really enjoy having a significant other, I don't feel as though there has to be someone.

I also enjoy knowing that I can go where I want and do what I want, when I want, with little to no obstacles

And for the folks who somehow feel that's selfish... that's just silly.

[Saeleofu]

Nothing wrong with that at all. I'm the EXACT same way. I never want kinds, never want to get married. I don't even want to date. I have had one date my entire life, and I did NOT enjoy it. At all.

I'm asexual, as in I don't have any sexual desire for anyone. I've learned to adapt my ways of thinking to "fit in' with conventional thinking. For example, someone explained to me that say, for example, someone says Gerard Butler is hot, it means they probably wouldn't say no to having sex with him; in other words, there's a sexual aspect to it. To me, saying someone is hot is just saying they have a pretty face and are easy on the eyes (which Gerard Butler definitely is). But it doesn't mean I want to rip their clothes off and have "hot nasty sex" with them. Ew.

Okay, so I could go off for pages on asexuality and ranting about the fact that it's not included in the LGBTWXYZ letter salad, but I'll stop for now.

[GlassOnion]

I hope not. I'm much the same way. I think I might like to get married some day but only to the right one, and since I don't believe in any predestination bullshit ('The One', soulmates, etc) well, yah.

But marriage seems like a TERRIBLE investment. You have a 50% chance of losing half of your ****. Whatever children you have, the wife 99% of the time automatically gets. The wife also more often than not gets the big ticket items, like the house, car, etc. So uh, yah. It's a fool's bargain at best.

You can get the milk for free, so buying the cow is just insurance against future droughts and an aging farmer. And by all accounts the milk supply drys up after marriage so you don't even get that.

[Cheetah]

I stopped caring about marriage a couple years back... and I don't want kids either.

Not strange at all! And if you have no plans to get married, have a family, or even want a relationship to go anywhere close to that, then you are a very smart girl for not dating. You're right, unless you want to be in a very seirous relationship, all the rest is just nonsense games of dating, and you don't need it! Enjoy your doggies and your freedom!

[Jules]

You are still so young- you shouldn't! I'm almost 30, and while I'm married (which I didn't think was going to happen to me either at your age)- I also have little to no interest in babies.

I never understood why so many teenagers here still follow the same old tradition of getting married and having babies fresh out of high school, I'm sorry, personally I don't get it.

People try to make me feel strange about WHY I don't feel the need of reproducing, because GASP I am married, have been married for awhile and we're pretty stable. So there shouldn't be anything holding us back, right?

So, I say, enjoy life to the fullest and just ignore all the nay-sayers

[stardogs]

People used to be totally surprised when I said kids were years off (if they were coming) when they asked about them right after I got married - it annoyed the heck out of me that people assumed the only reason to get married was to have kids. I always told them that I loved my DH too much to just skip over having him all to myself lol.

Now, about 2 years after our wedding, I am thinking a kid might be in the future, but still at least 4 years off and that change actually weirds me out more than initially wondering if I wanted to have a child at all!

I say that if you're happy and contented with how your life is going then there's no reason to worry about what others think - it's your life afterall! If it ain't broke, don't fix it!

[~Jessie~]

You're not weird at all!

I've always known I wanted to get married... but I used to not want kids at all. The idea of being married and being tied down was strange... but I married my best friend and it's very different from what I thought marriage would be like when I was a kid. I love spending as much time with my husband as I can, as we get along really, really well.

We ended up getting married after we both graduated with our undergrad degrees... that was important to us to wait and get an education first. We're trying for our first baby now... but we enjoy the time we have together and we're trying to do all the things WE want to do before we have a child. Sometimes I think it would be nice for it to just be able to do what I want for the rest of my life, but I feel that our lives would be more completed with a child.

There's nothing wrong with staying single for your entire life... and if the right person comes along who makes you WANT to be with them, then great. And if you decide that a child would make your family even more perfect then it already is, that's great too. And if it's just you and your pets for the rest of your life, well, it was what you planned on doing all along which makes it completely okay as well!