I just discovered the most amazing styling for my hair.
I take a shower. I twist my wet hair up and clip it with a jaw clip. Spray with hairspray.
It looks good while it's up (well, better than a pony-tail), and if I leave it in for a few hours and let it dry, when I take the clip out - PERFECT CURLS. And they stay perfect with no frizz because of the hairspray, without being "crunchy" or "product-y" (which is why I normally hate hairspray).
Why did I not do this earlier?
And thanks to cutting back on my need straighten my hair, some moisturizing shampoo/conditioner that has actually worked for my hair (Suave Moisturizing Shampoo), and the help of some Argan Oil...I think I may actually like my hair now. No more insane frizz, no more insane dryness, no more it-feels-too-oily. I can even have a pony tail that looks normal (straight hair OR curly!) with very minimal effort thanks to frizz no longer being an issue. Yey!