Thing is, Stephy has been given the tools and advice on how to better her situation.
She is STILL not wanting to help herself or her situation until after the new year. She'd rather sit on here and complain.
Look, if someone posted about how their dog was peeing blood we'd all tell them to go to the vet ASAP. If they continued posting about doing nothing, we'd get upset. And if this person wrote poems and drawn out threads about how upset they were about their sick dog, we'd be like "enough is enough already! DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!". She knows what she needs to do, and it's going in one ear and out the other. If she took all of the time she's spending on here and put it to good use rather than writing poetic complaints, she'd probably have a job.
You make a good, logical point. I've, in fact become exasperated, impatient and down right nasty to people in the past when they came asking for advice, our replies were concise and they'd listen very nicely and go out and do precisely what they want. :rofl1: It's true. I admit it. I've been known to be quite ornery at times with certain individuals. That impatience, I'm not proud of.
But I guess the difference for me is that no one ever gave me any indication that they were suffering themselves so much with depression and hopelessness. In this case, I feel like Steph is in a fragile frame of mind and her circumstances are teetering on the edge. She's mentioned suicide. That is not something to take lightly and play around with someone's feelings NO MATTER WHAT. She has been given some pointers and has actually made a few changes according to the posts. I think she needs to be gentled along, not bombarded with criticism. Someone suffering from emotional issues doesn't always operate to an optimum, logical way. They just don't function perfectly until they reach a certain level of confidence and gain a little happiness.
And I agree, professional help is a good idea. It's hard to face up to, to get around to finding out about it but not a good idea to put off Steph. I'd find some organization, which can help you in various ways, emotionally, financially. It's a matter of getting online or making a phone call. Don't procrastinate.
You'll feel so much better once you get some of those organizing chores behind you.