The Venting Thread
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I understand that kids will grow up and deal with mean
People and they need to learn but they should NOT learn how to handle that through mistreatment by people they should be trusting in like parents and teachers. That just teaches them not to trust anyone and that's NOT OK.
I know Hannah can be dramatic when it comes to getting hurt but I posted that part mainly to segway into the sarcastic "oh gee you might hurt yourself... Now you can't play with anythig go away" which is just not an appropriate way to treat children. Also, there is a difference between "I know that hurt but you will be Ok... But you only have a few minutes left to play so you better get back at it" and showing anger that a child feels pain. You can show compassion without coddling.
But at bedtime prayer tonight I asked Hannah if there was anyone she wanted to pray for and she wanted to pray for this teacher and prayed for her to feel better and be happy. So she is still able to forgive and forget. I'm proud if her for that.
People and they need to learn but they should NOT learn how to handle that through mistreatment by people they should be trusting in like parents and teachers. That just teaches them not to trust anyone and that's NOT OK.
I know Hannah can be dramatic when it comes to getting hurt but I posted that part mainly to segway into the sarcastic "oh gee you might hurt yourself... Now you can't play with anythig go away" which is just not an appropriate way to treat children. Also, there is a difference between "I know that hurt but you will be Ok... But you only have a few minutes left to play so you better get back at it" and showing anger that a child feels pain. You can show compassion without coddling.
But at bedtime prayer tonight I asked Hannah if there was anyone she wanted to pray for and she wanted to pray for this teacher and prayed for her to feel better and be happy. So she is still able to forgive and forget. I'm proud if her for that.
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Exactly. And when it happens, it should be her peers that she has to deal with crap from, NOT teachers. I don't think under any circumstances that teachers *should* be the ones teaching the lesson that you'll get treated like **** eventually in life. That's horribly wrong IMO. Teachers should be the exact opposite of that.
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I really hate it when people don't let me in on their plans, so I assume its business as usual. But no. This is not business as usual. This is a hive of pissed off and I'm tired of being stressed out because of ill plans.
Plans save lives. What happens when you go out into the wilderness without planning for it? You get eaten by a bear. Lets not all get eaten by bears next time.
Plans save lives. What happens when you go out into the wilderness without planning for it? You get eaten by a bear. Lets not all get eaten by bears next time.
There's a difference between a nice teacher checking the kid out, making sure there are no serious injuries, and saying with a smile - you're fine, get up and go play. But that's not what this teacher did at all and it was nasty and demeaning to Hannah. She's going to have awful people heckling her for the rest of her life, she doesn't need it now. This lady is out of line. Good for you for handling this well and protecting Hannah without being overbearing about it. My mother would always swoop in and make a scene if there were problems, and it made me really unwilling to ask her for help.
On the plus side, Hannah is an incredibly mature, forgiving human being. She's dealt with this better than most.
On the plus side, Hannah is an incredibly mature, forgiving human being. She's dealt with this better than most.
Don't get me wrong, I am NOT defending this teacher or what she did , what she did was wrong and she should be talked to. Maybe not negatively, for all we know there might be some serious personal issue going on. I know I was like this with people when my grandmother passed away last October and all the problems that ensued after, so maybe something is happening in her life that she needs help for?
I also have to say that IMO you won the kid lottery with Hannah, she is such a nice kid ... I wish all kids were like her.
What about talking to the parents of the other kids in the class, maybe they don't know what's going on? Go to the principle and see if there is anything you can do to help her ... She sounds like she is having real problems.
My mother would always take issue with the principle and she was really good at keeping it quiet and not embarrassing me.
Other kids was a different story, my parents were really big on "fight your own battles."
I also have to say that IMO you won the kid lottery with Hannah, she is such a nice kid ... I wish all kids were like her.
What about talking to the parents of the other kids in the class, maybe they don't know what's going on? Go to the principle and see if there is anything you can do to help her ... She sounds like she is having real problems.
My mother would always take issue with the principle and she was really good at keeping it quiet and not embarrassing me.
Other kids was a different story, my parents were really big on "fight your own battles."
I am going to talk with her one on one on thursday. Our work environment is not the norm. We are a very small group. There are only 5 employees including the director. The director and my Pastors wife (who recommended me for the job) who work with the pre K group three mornings a week and then our class which is the teacher and myself and then another lady that does the mommy and me two year old class.
So we are a close knit group so that kind
Of has it's
Pros and cons. Teacher and I are friends so I'm not going to confront this in any manner that will make things uncomfortable. Director and I have been praying over it and I am going to approach it in a way that leads the conversation to what can we do to make this easier on all of us. What does she expect from Hannah in the classroom, how Hannah feels about some things (not Hannah telling her these things but me telling her), and how we can improve communitcation between us.
I am sort of stuck in an awkward situation... I am mom first but I also have to be professional as TA and also be a friend. Definitely a fine balance.
Teacher is not a bad person... Just makes some bad choices and has difficulty with nuturing and gets overly stressed easily and takes it out on the wrong people.
Nolu, thanks. She's a good girl. She has her moments as any kid
Does but she has a beautiful heart and i just can't bear to see her lose her zest
For life or become disenchanted with te world at such a tender age.
So we are a close knit group so that kind
Of has it's
Pros and cons. Teacher and I are friends so I'm not going to confront this in any manner that will make things uncomfortable. Director and I have been praying over it and I am going to approach it in a way that leads the conversation to what can we do to make this easier on all of us. What does she expect from Hannah in the classroom, how Hannah feels about some things (not Hannah telling her these things but me telling her), and how we can improve communitcation between us.
I am sort of stuck in an awkward situation... I am mom first but I also have to be professional as TA and also be a friend. Definitely a fine balance.
Teacher is not a bad person... Just makes some bad choices and has difficulty with nuturing and gets overly stressed easily and takes it out on the wrong people.
Nolu, thanks. She's a good girl. She has her moments as any kid
Does but she has a beautiful heart and i just can't bear to see her lose her zest
For life or become disenchanted with te world at such a tender age.
I know 
it's all good.
Today I'm just feeling... sad. I know I need to talk with her but I also know that it's not really going to change anything I'm just... sad
Then I see that the Ultimate Warrior died. A legend from my childhood. That just makes me even sadder
it's all good. Today I'm just feeling... sad. I know I need to talk with her but I also know that it's not really going to change anything
I'm just... sad Then I see that the Ultimate Warrior died. A legend from my childhood. That just makes me even sadder
But I do get it about "lashing out" when stressed, I am really bad about getting super irritated and agitated when my stress level go up, it's weird because I don't and never have redirected it on animals, but I am kinda bad about redirecting on people ... But with therepy I have been getting better.
I hope she can find peace as well, I have been in that bad place and it is not fun believe me
