"All the adversity I've had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me... You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you."
Walt Disney
Stephy, at the end of the day YOU know your situation. You can either help yourself get out of it or you can wallow in it. the choice is yours. But YOU have to help yourself first before others can help you. You have gotten great advice and from what is posted it feels like it's all been completely ignored. If you won't help yourself, no one else can help you either. What may help threads like these from going the way they always do is posting what you are doing to help yourself. Along with the "this is the crap that happened to me today"... post the things you are doing to help get yourself out of the position you are in and then people can help you based on what you have been trying.
The lack of info on what is being done to improve the situation and the multitude of info coming in about how messed up everything is... well you can't blame everyone for believing that the OP is doing nothing to improve their situation.