Hey friends, I'm sorry my last two posts have been about some stupid "boy issues", but I really need some opinions on this from you guys, please? So, my ex boyfriend that I was with for over a year about 3 years ago. Well he joined the Marines, and had got ahold of me back in March and wanted to see me. I spent the entire week that he was home with him and he had assured me that I was the only woman he was pursuing. Well he admitted later he had another girlfriend back at home at the base the entire time.
I appreciated his honesty and later on, after he came back in November, I saw him again when he was home and after he went back to the base we started talking daily, all day long, again.
Well this month and last month he was trying to convince me to move down to California to be with him. He was telling me he loved me and cared about me and I made it pretty clear that I didn't believe him because my trust was so broken. He did not understand and begged and pleaded me to tell him why I just didn't believe that he cared about me.
I still love him, & I always will. And since he was asking me to move to another state to be with him, and seriously pursuing the idea of me moving to be with him, and trying to convince me how much he loved and cared about me and getting frustrated when I just didn't believe it, that led me to believe I was the only woman he was pursuing. That was extremely stupid of me after what happened back in March. But often times I get stupid with guys, especially with this man who I love.
Well something happened that made me believe he was pursuing other women, & I asked him about it, and his response was we were not together so I had no right to be upset with him for pursuing other women and admitted he was., but it took some digging. He lied and made excuses at first but I just wasn't havin it.
Don't you think that is wrong for a man to be seriously pursuing the idea of you moving to another state just to be with him, you would not know anybody else besides him so obviously you would be moving there just to be with him.
If that is the case wouldn't you think/HOPE you were the only woman he was pursuing because asking someone to completely pick up her life to move to another state with you, in my opinion it would be wrong to be pursuing other girls while asking someone to do something like that.
He is telling me I am being absolutely ridiculous and I have no reason to be upset, but I think I do. I think I know that it is wrong, I think I just need some reassurance.
I am extremely hurt and I know that I was being stupid to believe him again. I am also even more hurt because after this conversation I had with him in which I was extremely upset, we stopped talking, he made no attempt to get a hold of me at all, which hurts me even more because above anything else he is supposed to be my friend and he knows I am going through hell in life right now. I think that is what hurt me the most.
Anyway, please post your opinions and hopefully I can get some insight from all of my friends here. Thank you so much for taking your time to read this and I look forward to reading your replies.
I appreciated his honesty and later on, after he came back in November, I saw him again when he was home and after he went back to the base we started talking daily, all day long, again.
Well this month and last month he was trying to convince me to move down to California to be with him. He was telling me he loved me and cared about me and I made it pretty clear that I didn't believe him because my trust was so broken. He did not understand and begged and pleaded me to tell him why I just didn't believe that he cared about me.
I still love him, & I always will. And since he was asking me to move to another state to be with him, and seriously pursuing the idea of me moving to be with him, and trying to convince me how much he loved and cared about me and getting frustrated when I just didn't believe it, that led me to believe I was the only woman he was pursuing. That was extremely stupid of me after what happened back in March. But often times I get stupid with guys, especially with this man who I love.
Well something happened that made me believe he was pursuing other women, & I asked him about it, and his response was we were not together so I had no right to be upset with him for pursuing other women and admitted he was., but it took some digging. He lied and made excuses at first but I just wasn't havin it.
Don't you think that is wrong for a man to be seriously pursuing the idea of you moving to another state just to be with him, you would not know anybody else besides him so obviously you would be moving there just to be with him.
If that is the case wouldn't you think/HOPE you were the only woman he was pursuing because asking someone to completely pick up her life to move to another state with you, in my opinion it would be wrong to be pursuing other girls while asking someone to do something like that.
He is telling me I am being absolutely ridiculous and I have no reason to be upset, but I think I do. I think I know that it is wrong, I think I just need some reassurance.
I am extremely hurt and I know that I was being stupid to believe him again. I am also even more hurt because after this conversation I had with him in which I was extremely upset, we stopped talking, he made no attempt to get a hold of me at all, which hurts me even more because above anything else he is supposed to be my friend and he knows I am going through hell in life right now. I think that is what hurt me the most.
Anyway, please post your opinions and hopefully I can get some insight from all of my friends here. Thank you so much for taking your time to read this and I look forward to reading your replies.