The Venting Thread

Colorado. You don't need the drama of someone that nutty/obsessed over her ex or the lingering doubt that will now always be in the back of your mind. I had a semi-similar situation that spurred my move out here and it was definitely a good choice.

Do it. It's time you left the crazy behind and made a clean break for yourself. You deserve to be with people who care about you instead of ones who use you.

These are the things I keep telling myself. But on the other hand, he isn't a bad guy and after these two semesters are over he's agreed to move out there with me. But his ex is clearly insane and I don't like being told I have to play nice with her when she's done nothing but manipulate and try to ruin our life. So, throw away a relationship that has some potential for the off-chance of finally doing something for myself, or just wait out the two semesters and then move on with him instead of without him, knowing I still have that backup plan should things stay south? Decisions, decisions.

Side vent: Because of all this BS I am a smoker for the time being. Regular cigs are sorta nasty but the e-cigs with Watermelon and Mocha flavored water vapor are a bit too much to pass up. And they are way cheaper than regular cigs. And don't stink. I smell like watermelon candy. I can deal with this.

These are the things I keep telling myself. But on the other hand, he isn't a bad guy and after these two semesters are over he's agreed to move out there with me. But his ex is clearly insane and I don't like being told I have to play nice with her when she's done nothing but manipulate and try to ruin our life. So, throw away a relationship that has some potential for the off-chance of finally doing something for myself, or just wait out the two semesters and then move on with him instead of without him, knowing I still have that backup plan should things stay south? Decisions, decisions.

Side vent: Because of all this BS I am a smoker for the time being. Regular cigs are sorta nasty but the e-cigs with Watermelon and Mocha flavored water vapor are a bit too much to pass up. And they are way cheaper than regular cigs. And don't stink. I smell like watermelon candy. I can deal with this.

Good luck with however it can work out. BUT just some totally unasked for advice , MOVE . Leave the crazyness behind , IF HE is the one or even a potential one . He will follow. And you can finally really go on with your life.

So, throw away a relationship that has some potential for the off-chance of finally doing something for myself, or just wait out the two semesters and then move on with him instead of without him, knowing I still have that backup plan should things stay south?

Reworded:

So, throw away a chance at a fresh start and a new, drama free life, or wait out the two semesters for this relationship that has "some potential" on the off chance that he will still want to move with me then?

Also though--you say he has a kid with the ex (who is local?) Do you really want to be with someone who would move across country away from their child? That would be a red flag for me.

I go to the store for a minute. Walk out and it's POURING. Guess who's wearing a white peasant skirt today?

Get home and find out that the window I've been able to leave open all summer without issue is now allowing in a steady flow of rain...right onto my side of the bed.

Good luck with however it can work out. BUT just some totally unasked for advice , MOVE . Leave the crazyness behind , IF HE is the one or even a potential one . He will follow. And you can finally really go on with your life.
If not you are a year a head of the curve. You say 2 semesters , but that is a YEAR . Constant crazy for a YEAR is hell. And with the Ex , IT will be crazy.

So this week has been insane.

I turned in a revenge card on my roommate/ex and read about how she had slept with her ex/my current BF in her private livejournal. As of a week ago. I blew up, had all my stuff packed and planned on leaving for CO Friday morning. I had somewhere to go, a job to start, and Jin of all people actually offered to fund me the money to leave(of course not getting the whole story of why and what is going on). I decked it out with BF later that night, and he said he didn't do it. He had only gone to her hotel room, talked to her, and left. But it was enough for me to believe he was lying, so I stayed course. Planned the trip, Zander's needs, budgeted out expenses. I then proceeded to get completely wasted and ceased messaging him back and ignoring his calls. I don't do liars and cheats. With nothing else holding me here, I had decided to leave and had my ducks all in a row.

3:30am I get a series of text messages from her about how it was all just a set up and a lie and he didn't actually sleep with her so I shouldn't leave him. She just wanted to get back at me for ruining her relationship(lol/WTF). She just wanted me pissed at him and cause us some trouble. Apparently she never thought I would actually leave(because she thought I was a bimbo, college dropout with no plans or directions in life). Why, I have no idea. She saw how I was with Jin. I make up my mind, I act immediately. Bridge burned.

So I deck it out with him a bit more and tell him he's a GD idiot for ever putting himself in a position to make us fall victim to this. He's moved in with me for now, but I'm still considering leaving.

1) What if THIS was all a lie too? All trust completely ruined. 2) I am going to have to deal with this crazy woman for the next 10 years because of Child, knowing if I ever leave this man she wouldn't let me see him.

I don't do liars, cheats, OR crazy. So is it worth it? Kinda considering Nolu, Kels, Zoom, and peoples are a way better alternative.

And then on top of it, I'm going to have to deal with usual move things, find another place to live because this is temporary, deal with him in school, my own job, and you know...life. Everything is a mess and absolutely chaotic.

Colorado sounds way better. And the pictures Nolu posted were lovely.

I go to the store for a minute. Walk out and it's POURING. Guess who's wearing a white peasant skirt today?

"Some potential" is not exactly a ringing endorsement. He may not be a bad guy himself, but this isn't not a good situation. It sounds like she has all the control and she isn't the one dating him anymore.

I had a relationship once that was good, he was a nice guy and there was potential for it to move forward, but there was a particular person involved that I had to play nice with, even though they did everything they could in the opposite direction. Suffice to say, for a variety of accumulated reasons, we're not together anymore.

1) What if THIS was all a lie too? All trust completely ruined. 2) I am going to have to deal with this crazy woman for the next 10 years because of Child, knowing if I ever leave this man she wouldn't let me see him.

I don't do liars, cheats, OR crazy. So is it worth it? Kinda considering Nolu, Kels, Zoom, and peoples are a way better alternative.

Colorado sounds way better. And the pictures Nolu posted were lovely.

The neighbors behind us (their deck is right against our back fence) have apparently been throwing food into my yard for the dogs. I have found bread, pizza crust, lemon wedges, apple pieces, etc. I finally caught one of them today and confronted them about it, and asked them to stop. Their response? "But they look so skinny and hungry!"

Ummm. No. Stop feeding crap to my dogs.