I've worked with the same people for the last 2 almost 3 years, a group of about 7 girls.
and I know I have some social anxiety so it is my nature to think "oh yea every one secretly hates me" but we have grown very close.
I'm moving to another country and left our job two weeks ago and for MONTHS before hand every one was like "Oh goodbye party!" "We are gonna miss you so much" etc... and it was great.
and yea, a lot of things happened that month, one bought a house, one broke up with her bf etc...
but things just got kind of distant the days upcoming to my leaving (it was so odd I thought they were acting that way and planning a surprise party, they weren't btw). And besides my best friend (who was in the hospital and still made every effort and threw me a little goodbye thing for both of us) and one another girl who took me out early because she was going on vacation before I left...
Nobody did anything or really even made an effort...I got a goodbye the day of and a hug because I came down to where we work with Merlin and was like "yea...so my flight is in 6 hours.."
I live literally half a block from where we all work. Nobody came by the week they knew I was just there, alone, packing and stuff.
I don't know and it's just makes me so sad and angry. Because I loved these girls, I babysat, I helped them through breakups, painted their homes, girls nights, birthdays, christmases, I just did everything to be a good friend and coworker, covered shifts and everything.
and normally I wouldn't expect anything but they were so overly like OH GOD WE LOVE YOU WE WILL MISS YOU SO MUCH YOU ARE THE BEST WE ARE LIKE FAMILY ALL OF US etc... and then..blah. Like why get my hopes up or pretend we were so close over the years? feels like all my anxieties are true.
My boss didn't even make a goodbye fb post for me (DOGS who move away and employees there for less than a few months got those), the girls barely acknowledged me...
And yes, they were going through things themselves but I went through a lot over these two years and always made an effort for them.
It just makes me sad and makes me feel petty and stupid and gullible and I don't know.
A few have sent me text messages saying goodbye and sort of apologizing after the fact today but I just feel so hurt and stupid for caring so much
just bleh
now every one is acting like it's fine on FB and it just feel so suffocating like I'm really hurt and want to tell them but who cares now?