SO "rituals of annoyance"
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I agree.. I see so many people complain about their SO's... Not little harmless things like here, but hurtful and disrespectful posts, status updates, etc.
I have flaws and I am sure I drive my husband up the wall sometimes... And so does he. We've had to overcome some really tough times, I am not going to lie. And you have to learn to communicate with your SO, you have to learn what drives them mad and what calms them down, makes them feel loved and wanted (or respected). Reading the love languages made that really clear. And, as always, treat your spouse the way you want to be treated and don't say or post something you don't mean, because you can say you're sorry but once it has been said or read it's out there and you can't take it back. Apologize for it, yes, take it back and make it undone, no.
So... What I have said here is something I would (an have) teasingly tell him to his face. I guess that's the key for me.
I have flaws and I am sure I drive my husband up the wall sometimes... And so does he. We've had to overcome some really tough times, I am not going to lie. And you have to learn to communicate with your SO, you have to learn what drives them mad and what calms them down, makes them feel loved and wanted (or respected). Reading the love languages made that really clear. And, as always, treat your spouse the way you want to be treated and don't say or post something you don't mean, because you can say you're sorry but once it has been said or read it's out there and you can't take it back. Apologize for it, yes, take it back and make it undone, no.
So... What I have said here is something I would (an have) teasingly tell him to his face. I guess that's the key for me.
I almost feel bad posting in this thread because. . . I'm leaving him and moving away. So WTF does it matter?
But his COMPLETE AND TOTAL INABILITY TO RINSE A DISH AND PUT IT IN THE DISHWASHER MAKES ME ANGRY.
I just want to say I don't think that's bad at all. Nothing wrong with certain kinds of touching bothering you.
I LOVE THIS.
But his COMPLETE AND TOTAL INABILITY TO RINSE A DISH AND PUT IT IN THE DISHWASHER MAKES ME ANGRY.
I just want to say I don't think that's bad at all. Nothing wrong with certain kinds of touching bothering you.
I LOVE THIS.
Mine is messy ... like he will mess up his clothes ... i used to fix them as a nice gesture to him but when i would come & see them messed back up (Like when he is looking for a particular shirt or whatever) they are all in disaray, so i stopped fixing them til laundry day & only if i cant put the clean clothes on top of them without fixing them ... if i can then i will, if he can appreciate my gestures then why shouldd i bother?
one day he asked me abour this & the above post is exactly what i told him
one day he asked me abour this & the above post is exactly what i told him
His annoyances are nothing horrid actually, he will tap something to make noise or say something to get a rise out of me , I get annoyed and he gets that **** eating grin and laughs at me being annoyed. The glee in his eyes cracks me up everytime. Lol so while being annoying it makes my heart patter , even after all these years.
Mine gets all bent out of shape over little things like the tack/feed room doors being closed all the time because our boss, who is really OCD gets all "pouty" & irritated when they are not & it in turn irritates HIM. Which in turn irritates me because I don't give a crap, I only get paid $250 a week when a full grooms salary is 400 or better so forgive me if I am not working "all the time".
Uhh we own a business together, and work together...all day, everyday...if I let him get to me anymore we would be divorced, so I just go into my office and shut the door. There are things he does, like bitching about the office being tidy...we have 10 people sharing a 500sqft office space, encompassing two businesses...**** gets messy in a hurry, I just tell him to clean it up and to shut up, lol.