The Venting Thread

I'm in an almost-8yr relationship& people, once they have kids, rarely have anything in common with my boyfriend& I anymore. I don't know why& we try ..but, inevitably, they find friends with kids& we are reduced to Facebook& texts! I mean, I do know why ..but it's just so common to fall out of/ never get into friendships once there's a baby involved.

I find this odd...but maybe its just me and my group of friends? I have plenty of friends without children still...and many of my other mom friends do as well.

How old are their children? When they are very young, yes, your life kind of centers around them and there is not really time to do too much chatting or hanging out but it gets better as they get a bit older and don't NEED their parents as much. Hopefully it gets better for you!

I'm in an almost-8yr relationship& people, once they have kids, rarely have anything in common with my boyfriend& I anymore. I don't know why& we try ..but, inevitably, they find friends with kids& we are reduced to Facebook& texts! I mean, I do know why ..but it's just so common to fall out of/ never get into friendships once there's a baby involved.

Well, I wasn't before reading a bit here, but now I'm hurt and frustrated that apparently if I don't support the ACA ('support' meaning figuratively of course; I will be forced to support it with my own higher health care costs), I'm either uneducated or AN ASSHOLE...

My vent:

Our fridge is very old. If you don't shut it just right (slam it too hard, don't shut it hard enough), it will stay just a smidge cracked. DH must have done that last night. I woke up this morning to a not-so-cold fridge. Spent the morning pouring milk down the sink and dumping $100+ of food into the trash. UGH.

Beer is still good if it gets warm and cold again, right? Everything else is trash, I think. Eggs, cheese, yogurt, meats, ugh.

My vent:

Our fridge is very old. If you don't shut it just right (slam it too hard, don't shut it hard enough), it will stay just a smidge cracked. DH must have done that last night. I woke up this morning to a not-so-cold fridge. Spent the morning pouring milk down the sink and dumping $100+ of food into the trash. UGH.

Beer is still good if it gets warm and cold again, right? Everything else is trash, I think. Eggs, cheese, yogurt, meats, ugh.

because the day is not crappy enough this happened the other day ,and I am still trying to catch up on work and deal with stupid people.




The boat capt. had a diabetic attack and passed out and slammed into a abandoned wharf . We had to tear the wharf from off the top of the boat.

Well, I wasn't before reading a bit here, but now I'm hurt and frustrated that apparently if I don't support the ACA ('support' meaning figuratively of course; I will be forced to support it with my own higher health care costs), I'm either uneducated or AN ASSHOLE.

My real vent is that I'm stuck between two possible jobs and have no idea which way to go. The one I have now: wonderful boss, really easy to get time off, I'm great at what I do. Downsides are that I'm probably pretty maxed out on salary in that department, the pay is basically letting me get my bills paid but not much more, and it may be even harder with my health insurance going up. I'll probably have to drop my 401k contributions, which isn't smart. It also isn't work that will "transfer" all that well to another industry.

I've applied for a different department, and pretty much been told that it is mine to turn down - I've cross-trained there some, so they know me and have told me that. The manager has a less than stellar reputation, although I've never personally had an issue with her. I do know it is harder to get time off approved there, and your schedule isn't always as predictable. It's new stuff that will be stressful to learn. But it is work that could transfer more easily if I want to move out of state or to a job in the medical industry instead. It would be less exposure to chemicals than my current job. I kind of know most of the people. I don't know how much more pay it would be.

The thing that pisses me off the most is that I think it has turned into a tug of war between the two department managers. They fight regularly about where I'm going to be working, BUT NO ONE IS TALKING TO ME about it. I'd like to think it is because I'm such a valuable employee (and I do think that is a bit of it), but mostly I think the two of them hate each other and are using me as part of their battle.

Ugh. I hate this. I put my "desired salary" on the application for the other job. I'm not sure that they will give it to me, so I'm trying to pick a number that will be my cutoff for moving or staying.

The thing is that SOMETHING has to be done about our healthcare system. The people who have no insurance and go to the ER for treatment raise everyone costs right now.

Last year my dad had horrific pains and I took him to the ER. He ended up in the ICU and was in the hospital for 9 days. They basically put a catheter in and got his electrolytes stablized and sent him home. They told him they would not fix his very enlarged prostate until he paid the entire 38k hospital bill and half of the 23k it would take for the procedure. He had not job and no insurance. He has no assets. That 38k bill will never be paid. In the mean time the catheter caused him all kinds of issues. It would get clogged no matter how well he took care of it. He also started getting bad bladder and kidney infections. The only place he could go to get treated was the ER. Those bills will never be paid. He is too young for Medacare and because he was being supported by his FAMILY during his unemployment rather than the TAXPAYERS up until that point he was denied Medacaid. Guess who ends up paying for all of that?

He was able to move in with my aunt and get on social security. There is a hospital in my aunts city that had a special financial aide program where he paid for his treatment weekly from his SS check. His doctor was actually shocked at how little they did for him during his last hospital stay up here. He still cannot find someone to do surgery for the bad cataracts and he can't see well.

Health care should not be a privilege. My dad did not deserve to spend nearly a year having his catheter back up into his urinary tract causing bladder spasms, being sick with repeats UTIs, only being able to sleep 2 hours at a time before his bag fills up, and having his quality of life severely effected for a totally treatable condition--simply because he could not afford the care.